2006-12-14 02:46:05 · 34 answers · asked by Peace 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I've been in three 3-ways. The first one very quickly turned into a 2-way. The second one ended up with the other two guys getting into a huge spat because of jealousy. And, the third one was a great time for all of us. So, yes, they can work.
2006-12-14 03:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Throbington Steifenholz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well a threesome can work as far as sex goes. But as a long term relationship it would need to be called something else.
I think if all three loved each other and where willing to put sex in its proper context it could. trust has to be part of the equation and although I am against monogomy persay I think that biogomy (or would that be triogomy) woud be a necessity. Being with two other people increases the risks unless you know that the other two people are not out sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Hairy that comes along.
2006-12-14 03:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can def work! I had one with my 2 best friends and it was great! We all knew that we are friends and will be no matter what.
I would love to do it again, but I now have a boyfriend and so does one of the other girls. And the third one has moved, so it would be more difficult.
I'll tell ya though, I was glowing for days after wards because it really boosted my self-esteem to know that there are 2 women out there who want me. It was nice.
I'm considering trying it with the boyfriend and finding some girl to join in, but I don't now if I'd like that as much. I think that since we were all unattached it was a lot easier and less complicated.
2006-12-14 04:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah, they work. The key to a threesome (and, come to think of it, any kind of relationship) is communication. Threesomes will fail if any one of the group is not completely open and honest about his/her feelings. If everyone talks it out honestly beforehand and is respectful of everyone else's boundaries, then it will likely work. But every threesome that I know of that ended badly has been because someone held back or outright lied about their feelings. Or they jumped into things without thinking or talking it over. Then, when it becomes too much to handle, they freak out and everything falls apart. I know the fantasy is that everyone just spontaneously falls into things, but the reality is it takes honesty and respect from the beginning.
2016-05-24 02:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was a time I would have said, "No way!"
Then I fell in love with a beautiful guy, and we both in turn grew to love a third, who stayed with us very often. There was no jealousy, no competition and no threat to the relationship, and all three of us were never happier than when we were all together.
It lasted about 3 years, and they were probably the happiest days of my life.
I think I learned something by it, but maybe it was very unusual, and other such adventures may be a disaster for other people.
2006-12-14 05:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by musonic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They usually only work for the moment. In the long run or a relationship, someone will always feel like an odd man/woman out. I had one while in what I thought was a relationship, and it opened my eyes to the true situation I was in. I do not regret the 3-some and would do it again. Just not with someone I am in a romantic relationship with, it would have to be mutual friends who are all about fun with no strings (tho that is rare).
2006-12-14 02:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes for sex, and yes for love. Threesomes for sex can be very exciting if everyone involved is on the same page and none of them are the jealous sort.
And yes in a polyamorous relationship. I know many polyamorous people that have wonderful relationships.
2006-12-14 05:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm i dont know i didnt try but i hear jealousy is big in threesome. someone may think they r not getting the attention they deserve or as much attention as the other person.... should talk it out w. the other people in the threesome and see how they feel about it
2006-12-14 03:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what is your definition of a threesome working.
Yes, they can be harmless fun. They can also be destructive.
There are polyamorys who make every effort to get relationships with multiple partners to work. see the links below - if you're talking relationships and NOT just a bit of fun.
2006-12-14 10:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the personality of the people involved (maturity).
Then there is tension during the actual act (threesome) itself.
It also depnds on how close you are to the people involved (i.e. girlfriend or boyfriend might be jealous of giving too much affection to the other person). It's alot of work for some people.
2006-12-14 03:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋