While in pursuit of a man,she will make an exerted effort to look her best.Once he is caught,(either by ring or housekey) she feels her work is done and begins to let herself go.When confronted,she will call him an" insensitive pig" and blame her "bones ?" ,her kids, medicine,her man or any number of B.S. outside influences. When in fact she knows her weight gain is caused by too much food and too little exercise and is fully within her controll.In some cases the weight is gained on purpose as a way to get out of the relationship.Bottom line, with very few exceptions a womans weight is entirely within her control and manipulated to her advantage.*** These observations are supported by your(Answers users) answers to my last few questions.
2006-12-14 02:41:49 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wanted to thank you for your input. I'll be moving her out, into her own apartment. Maybe without the "stress and insensitivity" she'll be able to lose that weight.
2006-12-14 04:32:57 · update #1
I'm a woman and I know I'll get lots of thumbs down, but I totally agree with you. Us women forget than men are visual and they need to be stimulated visually. How do I know? I've been married for 11 years and got my own wake up call.
2006-12-14 02:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Wow! How does it feel to be so perfect? Everyone changes whether it be your body or personality. If you have had a problem with this then maybe incentive would be nice. Get out there with her and get exercise together. Women stay in shape until they are married? How about ( They have no time for themselves anymore because they are taking care of everything and everyone else! The more you make this an issue to a woman, her self esteem diminishes. If you Love someone you help them, you don't put extra pressure on them. In my situation after eighteen years of marriage, I have found that the things my husband and I use to do together we no longer do! How about taking her out dancing instead of eating dinner and wanting to go lay down and watch T.V. every night? Also I have stayed the same weight my entire life, even having my teenage sons girlfriends jealous of my body! I then reached the age of 42 and I had to have a hysterectomy, something you would know nothing about! My metabolism changed drastically! I gained 40 lbs. I am not fat, but I have had a Hell of a time trying to get back the body I use to have. My husband has never once made me feel bad about this. He Loves me and he is understanding of what I have been going through. Quit being so shallow and try to find some substance in your own life!
2006-12-14 03:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by blmarkham 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing...stress can cause a person to gain weight...although there are some women out there that fall into that confrortable slump...its not that the women want to gain the weight. I dont blame my husband on my weight gain....also you dont know how hard it is going through pregnancy and childbirth! I actually lost 25 lbs during my pregnancy but gained it back when my daughter turned 9 months or so beacuse of the stress I was going through...ALSO if a women is on certain birth controls can cause a women to gain weight that they are not wanting to put on and cannot control. So if your going to be a type of "man" that is going to be all about just looks and not the person inside then you might want to find one of those women that wont gain a ounce or is bulimic
2006-12-14 02:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm... Stress, age, kids, pregnancy, medications, and - YES, men, cause weight fluctuations! Within two years I personally gained 100+lbs, due to all of the above. I also lost 120 lbs the following year! Naturally, I must add. Men are so naive, and women can be so ignorant. First of all... evaluate the circumstances before you open your Mouth, and second of all... Stop being so assumptional that "women just use excuses."
Now, some women do use some of those excuses excessively. Yet, if they know the cause, they can solve the problem. BUT, why solve the problem if you men are going to be so judgmental. "Why should we care, Your still gonna judge us."
AWWW.. I feel better now. THANKS
2006-12-14 03:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by bbygirl529 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you get older, your metabolism slows down and that leads you weight gain.
When you have kids, you will get fat, your hips will grow. It's a fact of life.
Depression will lead to weight gain because you loss your sense of self and will fulfill any emotional void or frustartion with food.
Yes, there are things that you can do about it, but if you will call her names and stop the affection, you will make things even WORSE.
Adress the situation as a couple, joing a gym together, take walks together, go on a diet TOGETHER, Pointing fingers and nagging is NOT going to make her thin.
Good luck
2006-12-14 02:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think all woman are like that. I live with my bf and I am not fat at all. I work out alot and still take care of myself for myself not my boyfriend but I also like the fact he tells me I look good all the time and this adds as an extra motivater to look good. Some woman may eat extra to annoy you just because you are not approaching the subject of their weight gain in the right way. If they just had a baby, then you should not say anything at all. If they have a medical condition do not say anything at all. If they just are eating alot and not active and gain a little weight what is the big deal? If they have grown obese then approach the subject if it bothers you but try to be supportive of her. Offer to exercise with her or buy low fat healthy food.
2006-12-14 02:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is a load of crap, some women do let themselves go and yes have the capability to lose it but don't because it's men like you that make them lose hope and all self-esteem because you guys are visual and no matter how we look you will always look at OTHER women!!! Some just can't get motivated to lose it for their husbands, WEIGHT SHOULD NEVER BE THE CASE FOR AN I LOVE YOU OR NOT. And for your information, you try raising the kids and see how much time you have for yourself! I am not overweight and I try my best to stay in shape for my husband but I have been there before.
2006-12-14 02:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with most of what you said. But don't forget about the men out there. They start out strong and get wimpy within a year or two. First it's flowers, sweet nothings, and love making. And then it goes to food (for us to cook), b!tching, and every other week of the "same ole, same ole". This has been my observation.
ps I have a wonderful husband that I love dearly. Both of us are the exception on this subject.
2006-12-14 02:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, dont the men gain weight too? I have been with my husband for eleven years and we have both gained significant weight. I weighed 130 when we met, I am now at 175. He weighed 160 and is now over 200! But I am still slim as I am over 6 feet tall, and so is my honey! So did I "let myself go?" Not according to my husband! When you are in a relationship and are comfortable, you let your guard down. You have pie for dessert, with your honey! If all you are seeing is the persons outside, you are in a sad sad state!
2006-12-14 02:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by lee911 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Dude you need help.Women do not gain or lose weight because of a guy they do it to make themselves feel good or because of other problems.You need to get to know women alot better if thats the way you think.
2006-12-14 03:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by jpcbbc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋