Well where can I start I was with my ex boyfriend for almost two years. We broke up and he went overseas due him being in the military and I live here in the states. We have remained friends best friends since our break up witch was over a year ago. But thru out that year of us talking..We have still been sexual with each other..tell each other we love one another talked about our future togehter our kids..he supports me with everything that I do.we talk on the phone every single day... only thing is I asked him if we were getting back together he says he dont wanna talk about it until he see's me face to face..then the other day we were on the phone he thought i had fallen asleep on him, and he said to me baby i love you so much im going to marry you I promise. but im still confused because we are not offically boyfriend and girlfriend right now and he said he does not want to talk about it right now..can any one help me do you think he is playing games with me?
2006-12-14 02:34:07 · 26 answers · asked by Life It Is What It Is 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No sweetie, it seems to me that he is very much serious with "Everything". He probably is just not wanting to put that "lock-down" on the both of you, especially if he is in the Military. You never know what could happen. If he got hurt or, I hate to say, killed that could def. put a damper in things for you!
I will keep you in my prayers and i promise things will work out, don't stress and let God run his course. Good luck to the both of you and i pray for the best!
2006-12-14 02:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by Fresca Jesca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, he is in love with you and is just waiting to come back to the States to tell you how he feels face to face. He is obviously making plans to be with you, so relax, you all are obviously in love and want to be together. You could go ahead and tell him how you feel and tell him that you are letting people know you are waiting on him (which you obviously are).
A side thought: I do not think he is playing games, I am sure he is just having some "long distance" jitters...afraid that you might stray while he isn't there. It is easier to say, "well, we weren't really together when she went out with him, so no big" rather than to deal with the alternative. He might be afraid of having you officially comitted to him so it would not hurt so badly if you happened to break up with him, or he is using your time apart to allow you some time to make sure you feel the same way that he does...
just let him know that you love him and only want him, and I bet he will see you at half tour with a ring! God Bless!- dd
2006-12-14 02:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by dedum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this is obvious case senario here! He only broke it off so that if something hapened to him you would not be devastated and so that if you wanted to move on you could, i will bet my left eye he is gonna propose when he gets back, and that is not something you do over the phone. Stand by him, pray for his safe return, and smie at the knowledge that someone loves you so much that he sacrifices his own happiness to spare you a shattered heart if things go badly overseas. I see this senario alot in military couples. Be patient and don't pressure him. He only has your best interests at heart. Trust him. I will give you an example, i was in a relationship with a guy named "P" and he went over seas in desert storm and went MIA then they declared he was dead! He told me that he wanted to break up before he left and i was so upset, then he got there and i wasn't allowed communication with him, hes MIA then dead then two years after desert storm ended he shows up back in the states! His mom and me about died! he told me that the only reason he broke it off was because he was afraid something like that might happen and he didn't want me wasting my life waiting for a dead man.
2006-12-14 02:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while reading the first half... first thing that came to mind, was that he planned on proposing. Kinda seen it coming. Sorry... lol
Are you still in love with this guy? Did the two of you break up just because he was going away? Those two answers will take you where you wanna be. If your "In love" with this guy, and that's why you two broke up... then go for it. He's obviously in love with you, and being away has opened his eyes to that. Give it time, and take all of it in... Slowly! Can you see yourself with this man forever, even if he is away at times? Sounds like you can!
Love never hurt anyone... it's the outcome and the decisions we make upon it that hurts. Sounds like this guy really loves and adores you. Look into your heart! That's all you can do.....
BUT - He's for real. And my advise to you.... Don't let go of a good thing you may never be able to replace!
2006-12-14 02:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by bbygirl529 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps tell her that youre not interested in her in that way. Perhaps compliment her (so she doesnt feel bad) by saying that youre not interested but that she's a lovely looking girl and can find a nice boy who is equally attracted to her. After that, only answer an occasional text but keep it platonic.
2016-05-24 02:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say wait on him, but don't truly wait on him. continue your freindship as normal but date other people. I do understand that he wants to wait til he comes home, but it seems like he also wants that sig other right now. maybe when he returns he'll come back with a ring. who knows. he might be nervous being over seas. If you have ever watched Jarhead, you know military men think there women are cheating. So I guess its easier to have a friend and not be obsessive that she's cheating if she isn't your girlfriend. men are silly.
I've been there though. My friend came home for deployment during valentines weekend 04 and proposed and now we're married with a baby on the way. btu while he was away I still went out and enjoyed myself knowing my heart belonged with him.
2006-12-14 02:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by a_nurse2b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look the guy is far away he doesn't want the technicality of a relationship, therefore if he messes around u cant say he cheated. But he loves you. those two years cant just go away like that and even though you broke up, you been sexual, damn, thats love if you ask me, or he could just be in it for the sex, who knows. So you need to stand your ground and stop f**king around until you know where yo ustand in his life.
2006-12-14 02:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your story, he seems to be in love with you and wants to make everything right when he comes home. WHEN being the operative word here. From what you said about him saying he loved you and wants to marry you when he thought you were asleep, he is probably afraid to commit to anything with his life in such turmoil, but he has every intention of making things right when he is "right". By that, I mean, being home, being able to care for you, etc. Hang in there if you really love him, it is worth it!
2006-12-14 02:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by lee911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is playing with you at all. Maybe when he gets back he is plans to propose and he would rather wait to start things again that way. Also he may want to see if he actually makes it back to you, not saying that he won't but it is always a possibility that he won't.
2006-12-14 02:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you need a certificate of dating or something?
your together aren't you?
do you have kids together? they come first above all else.
Guys overseas will do anything to feel they have something waiting for them, something to fight for. When he comes back, you'll both have a lot of stress while he adjusts. Just enjoy your relationship now while he's being nice. take each day as it comes.
2006-12-14 02:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by angelicusbeefus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋