2006-12-14 02:31:53 · 27 answers · asked by the best man in this world!!!!!! 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Tell him that I love him as much then as I did the day before and will forever, that I completely support him & hope for him that he finds love & companionship & wish for him to be happy.
2006-12-14 02:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by CoronaGirl 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
My son just announced his gayness this summer. I think I'm having a hard time accepting it. He thinks so, anyway. I read some of the responses and perhaps I should join the parents support group and learn more. Traditionally, I was raised to dislike gays and the church I belong to preaches against it (its somewhere in the bible - I can't remember). So, I do love him but somewhere inside of me keeps getting angry that he wants to be gay. I've actually told most of the relatives, who remarked that they knew it and weren't surprised. No one put him down, thank God. That would hurt me. But, why am I having such a problem with it? I don't know. I'm glad you asked this question. So many people have no problem with this which makes me happy. But I don't know what to do to convince him that I'm okay with it.
2006-12-14 03:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I found out a child of mine was gay then I would still love him/her. That is a child that you raised that is of your blood. Why should being gay change that? Is that still not the person that you raised? You can also talk to him and tell him life will not be easy tell him what to expect from other people how society is and also tell him there are people out there like him.
2006-12-14 02:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a parent. However I would talk to him to find out if he's really gay or just experimenting before he decides his sexual preference. Ask him if he's been sexually active and repeat that discussion about always wearing protection. I would tell him being gay does not mean he should be promiscuous and make him aware of my honest feelings about his sexuality. This would include that I don't fully understand him but I will support him and advise him as best I can.
2006-12-14 02:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by sunlove247 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would not be happy at first coz it is out of me . I am human being who want to see grandchildren , want 2 see my son with a nice girl in a marriage ceremony ,all the family attend
want to see my son , happy ..coz that i feel that most gay relationship don't last long and he will be always from relation in relation , not stable
but I would accept him coz he is my son , I know that gays are emotion spreading , they want to find someone else to share some nice moments and may be the whole life and pour their emotions to make the other party happy .
at last , I would also say , that people don't choose to be gays
Thanks
2006-12-14 08:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mido 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him I love him. Tell him I would try to help him in anyway possible. Be there for him. As a gay man myself, I have the belief of orientation over preference but I understand that for some, it is that way due to a past experience. I would try to be as pro-active as I could. Teach about safe-sex, STDs, STIs, and HIV/AIDS. Yes, there is the "sterotype" that leads most to believe that gay men are promiscuous, though not all. Be as embracing as you possibly can but let him find himself. He has to come to terms with it as well.
2006-12-14 02:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by zakman05 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him what I hope that I was telling him all along:
Trust God, and know that you are saved. God knows that we can't be perfect, I am myself not perfect, yet He wants our trust. It's what makes you different from the world. Your trust in Christ. Nothing can take you from Him once you are His.
So be Gay if you are so inclined, but trust God first.
I love you my excellent son, and Ihave raised you to know that we are all sinners who have a choice on whether to trust God or not. But the kingdom is for God to enjoy us. And though I love you, God loves you even more.
You are going a way that is going to be perilous, being a Christian and being Gay, but I have seen God using me, and He can get you into places that need His light shining in on.
Be His first, and what you are second.
That's what I would say to him.
2006-12-14 03:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if you are not able to love him then tell him the truth. If you can still love him then tell him that too. If you raised him in the church you need to know that the bible is not against homosexuals the bible is only against a certain act. (anal sex) Tell him You love him and God loves him tell him you know how hard it is to be different but that it doesn't effect the way you feel about him. Support him he is not making a choice he is just coming to terms with how God made him.
2006-12-14 03:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that I love him, I only want him to be happy, and his boyfriends or partners are always welcome in my home.
I honestly don't see why having a gay son would be any different than having a straight son. You still have to tell them about sex and safe sex. You will always love your own child, no matter what. And you do only want them to be as happy and safe as possible throughout their life.
2006-12-14 02:51:44 · answer #9 · answered by jenn_smithson 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Teach him to use protection against STDs, and to choose people his own age, and everyone is at the age of concent.
Most importantly tell him you love him no matter what.
You might want to become a member of Pflag (Parents and Friends of Lesbians And Gays)
2006-12-14 02:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by Rev. Two Bears 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would except him for who he is. But if he's a teenager I would get him a therapist just b/c I've read so many stories where gay teenage men are depressed. I would also love and surport him.
2006-12-14 03:34:40 · answer #11 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋