I admit I suffer from bipolar disorder. This may have been the reason for the end of my marriage two years ago. I admit I have done things that nobody should ever do. But I have learned from my mistakes. I want to make a fresh start.
I have started seeing a therapist for my BP and he has put me on medication. For now it is working. As long as I take my medication on schedule and attend every appointment I am fine.
Lately my therapist has suggested telling my son about my problems. I have not told him that I suffer from BP. I didn't really want him to know. But my therapist says that by not telling him and keeping it bottled up is keeping me from making a break-through.
He comes to me for guidance and support. I feel that if I tell him it would destroy the father-son bond I have worked hard to build. I feel he won't respect me anymore. What if telling him causes more pain and sorrow? What if telling him causes him to hate me? I couldn't go through that. Do i tell him or not?
2006-12-14 02:31:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would be completely honest with my son, he will not hate u, i would tell him, as it may come out in the future, u have nothing to be ashamed of u are taking your meds, and seeing a therapist, and all is well for u. tell him, don't keep it a secret. secrets make people anxious, and can cause anxiety.
2006-12-14 10:03:15 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how old your son is. If he is an adult you need to tell him because sometimes your condition runs in families. If your son is under the age of 21 I don't think you should tell him until he is older. Doesn't your ex wife know of your condition? Obviously not or she would have already told your son. Good Luck and stay on the med (and yes I think your actions were because of the BP)
2006-12-14 10:36:51 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have trusted your therapist this far with the wonderful progress you've made. I would think you'd be comfortable to continue to follow his/her advice. I would also expect your son to respect you for both your progress and your total honesty.
On the negative side, is the age of your son. + Would telling him at this point give him undue concern regarding the probability of inheriting BP. Thus I would need comfort in knowing these answers first. Best wishes to both you and your son. ;)
2006-12-14 10:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if he has BP? What if he has symptoms and you do not see them? What if you DONT tell him and it is the worst mistake you make in your life? TELL HIM! My ex has BP and my 13 year old son does too. By telling my son what was going on, it helped us to realize that he needed help too! TELL HIM!
2006-12-14 10:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by lee911 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋