should it hurt you if someone you have been with three years and you live wiith them,dont buy you christmas gift or valentines gift or birthday gift.or should it not matter I would just like him to show he cares,does that mean making me happy is not important or should i not care.
2006-12-14 02:22:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
It does hurt when the person you've been with that long does not get you a gift.
2006-12-14 02:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by RedCloud_1998 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it should hurt. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to be shown that he cares - even if someone says they love you, they still need to show it. It all comes down to "action speaks louder than words." I've spent 4 years begging the man I love to take me out on dates or buy me gifts... just show me that he cares - so I've been where you are now. What matters is YOU - do what's best for you and don't let him take you for granted! So yes, you need to care - care about yourself first and then worry about him. If he can't show you that he loves you, then buy presents for yourself, go out and do what you want to do, when you want to do it... try new things, spend more time with friends, whatever YOU want. He might see that he needs to step up and actually treat you like a woman and at the very least, you're having fun without him and will feel better about yourself. It's your life - don't let him drag you down!
2006-12-14 10:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, it would hurt my feelings too.
But, maybe he has no idea what to get you. I have to make a list of things I would like for my husband for each birthday, Christmas, etc. This way, he can choose from the list what he wants to get me.
Hope this helps...try not to be blue about this. Alot of men just don't think about gift giving and even dread approaching the subject as they just don't know what to get.
2006-12-14 10:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by metalmom71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a slap in the face to you. You need to reconsider why you're in this relationship. Don't wast any more of your life waiting for someone to give you the basic respect and niceties you deserve! A gift can be a home-cooked meal. A back massage. Dinner and a movie. He doesn't give any consieration to what's important to you. That's a bad sign for the future. Time to move on.
2006-12-14 10:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let him know that it makes you feel bad and he still doesn't get you anything, even though you do get him gifts, then he's not being respectful.
I do think it is a little odd that he doesn't get you anything though even without being asked, but maybe he has different cultural or familial traditions. Talk with him about it and explain how you feel, maybe suggest an exchange with a specific limit.
2006-12-14 10:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by kiddo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are givers and some are just stingey.You have a person that doesn't feel about you the way you feel about him.He isn't concerned with making you happy,why buy him anything?Let him see how it feels to recieve nothing.Why would you put up with him for 3 years..Merry Christmas....
2006-12-14 14:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see where you would be hurt.My husband hardly ever gets me anything for Christmas,birthdays,valentines,and etc.We have been together for 22 years.When he says why did you get me something,I say I think everyone should have something to open on Christmas,birthday,etc.He just doesn't get it I guess.I know that this doesn't mean he loves me less,he just doesn't think,or have the time or the money.Good luck.
2006-12-14 10:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by birdlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I think it would hurt. As for making you happy does the person do anything else throughout the year for you??? You will have to be the one to decide if that makes you happy or not. You will be the one living with them.
2006-12-14 10:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by buckeyefever7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, it hurts. Christmas is a celebration of joy of GIVING and RECEIVING.
Ideas on gifts can be found here at : http://perfect-gifts-for-all.blogspot.com/
Merry Christmas!
2006-12-17 01:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by xmas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand no gift if your poor. However it doesn't cost much to write a caring letter, make a card, write a poem, pick wild flowers.
2006-12-14 11:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer Lu22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋