Why... would a "friend" do this to me?

Question

I have been friends with someone for about 5 years now. Not really close, until we started working together. I have recently learned from a co-worker, who is also my friend that she has accused myself of being a user of people. Where this comes from, I have no idea! We have never borrowed or asked anything of her, or her husband. On the other hand, I am expected to cut, color and highlight both her and her daughters hair whenever she feels necessary. She has even asked me to drive over 50 miles to pick her stranded nieghbor up(that I do not even know).
She has also started a rumor, that when my husband was out of town, I was meeting with someone else in another town close by(never cheated, no reason to).
Long story short, I have gone above and beyond for this person, because that is what friends do.
What would make her tell such blatent lies about me and how would you approach the subject without incriminating your other friend?

Answer 1

such people are just attention seekers and when they its appropriate to gossip , they dont care even if its their friend , these could be mistakes they have committed and they blame others with them , it is best to avoid them because they can be pests , i am sure you wouldnt want such a friend. you can choose not to explain things to this friend of yours and just ignore her , if she asks its best to answer '' you should know best why i have stopped talking to you'' , this would make them realise their mistake!!

Answer 2

Sounds to me like your friend has become very insecure in her own life and is looking for someone to blame. Because you are maybe her closest friend she has probably found it easier to take it out on you. Sometimes people hurt the closest ones to them without meaning to but because they think they will be more forgiving. I reckon your friend has recently had some problems and she is trying to block them out by making things up about you so that her problems seem trivial. I think you need to ask her outright why she is saying these things. Tell her it is hurting you because you see her as such a good friend and you are willing to help her like you've always done before. Tell her if she wants to talk about anything you are there for her. I know the only thing you feel like doing is getting mad with her but showing that it isn't worrying you and you are still willing to be her friend may in fact make her open up, theres obviously an underlining reason behind this. Also have a quiet word with your co worker and explain that you feel there is a reason for her doing this and maybe the two of you can sit her down with a coffee and chat about it. Hope this helps you!!

Answer 3

Firstly, you tell the other friend that you are not like that, i.e. all what she has been saying is a lie.

Secondly you ignore her, not totally but partially cos if you do so totally, she will find another thing to say. Greet her even if she dosen't greet you but make sure that there is no conversation between both of you and always avoid her systematically expecially when you and a friend are having a conversation, she may try to join you people, if she does, don't change your attitude to her, continue with the conversation but immediately she is trying to make sure you talk directly to her, or she talk directly to you then you should act wisely by avoiding her.

Thank you.

Answer 4

just ignore her and consider yourself lucky that she isn't too close. I wouldn't be friends with someone like that.
she obviously isn't your friend.

Answer 5

This person is using you! can't you see that. Give it up and tell her you are tired of it.Believe your fd.

Answer 6

she's not a Friend

Answer 7

just ignore her..........talk to her..........tell lies about her..........or you can just..........stop being her friend...........or she might be jealous