My friend of nearly 20 years moved away, got married and had a baby in the last few years. Since she left she doesn't make any attempt to stay in touch. I went to visit her and found out she was engaged-had been for months-just had 'forgotten' to tell me. She never makes contact first and it's getting to me. We've been travelling together, went to nursery, school and college together. I thought we were good friends.
Should I tell her how I feel or walk away from this friendship?
2006-12-14 02:16:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If it was me, I would let her know how I felt. Then, if she was unresponsive and did nt see a problem where there certainly is one(ie denial) I would have to let the friendship go. Friendship is a 2 way street and at the mo it sounds like she sounds like she does nt even have a car! Best of luck.
2006-12-14 05:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by azteccamera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you don't speak to someone for a long time it is difficult to make the first move. Sometimes life just seems really busy and it's hard to make contact with people on a regular basis. Real friends don't need to speak all the time, they are just there for each other when they are needed. Maybe getting engaged does not seem like as much of a big deal to your friend as you think it is. Make sure you keep regular contact with her if you feel that this is necessary to sustain a friendship but don't feel insulted if she doesn't call as often as you. Some people just do not consider it necessary. If you confront her about it you are likely to lose her as a friend or at least put her back up. Maybe arrange to go and spend some time with her and properly catch up. I'm sure it'll all go back to normal in no time. But it's true that sometimes people do just have little in common with each other anymore and grow apart. Good luck.
2006-12-14 10:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by allears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can't be bothered to stay in touch with you then she has probably moved on from needing your friendship. It'll be hard to deal with after knowing her for so long but you'll be ok. People just grow apart over the years.
2006-12-14 10:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by yummygummybear2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think if you were in her situation, so busy with this new person in her life, im sure shes considered it but maybe is held back by her new person, i would make contact and tell her mildly you dont want to loose her again at the end of the day shes your mate
2006-12-14 14:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away - she has moved on and so should you now. time to make new friends.
2006-12-14 10:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by Firefox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't walk away, I expect she's just a busy young mum.
2006-12-14 11:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to decide if this is relationship is worth it, talk to her and find out if theres an underlying reason for not contacting you.
2006-12-14 14:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-14 10:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
plan and simple.......... yes
2006-12-14 11:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by Pharaoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋