My mother has CHF and we have been dealing with this for awhile .Sometimes she breaks down and cry because she cant do for her self and i have been thier from day one 100% .I am not coplainiing we get along like sisiters.I dont mind helping her with what ever she needs .I even pay all the bills .I let her use her check on her self.I dont date because i dont have the time,but my mom thinks its because i spend all my time at home with her and my chikdren.I am fine with how things are but she feels she is holding me back but she isnt how do i get her to understand that I love her and i just dont feel like dating .Even thought i havent dated in 2years,its still okay.I wish i can find someone for my mom she is 49 and she doesnt leave the house because of her sickness.I work all day and then when i come home my focus is on my mom and kids But i know she gets depressed because she just burst in to tears sometime and i dont know what to do .Its breaking my heart .
2006-12-14 02:14:52 · 7 answers · asked by AMBRASIA C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are a wonderful child!! My mother died of cancer a little over 2 years ago. I wish I could have done more for her then I was able. Have you discussed with your mom seeing a counselor for the depression? Don't overly push it, just mention it. Tell her that at this point in time that your family is more of a priority in your life then dating. Let her know that for 18 year and nine months she sacrificed herself for your and now it is only fair that you be there for as much as possible. That this is something that you want and that it fills your heart with joy being with her and your children. They are worth more then a dinner and dancing with a guy who may think you owe him later!
I hope you and your mother grow stronger and closer in your relationship and that your children will see that family is very important in ones life.
May God be with you and your mother in this.
2006-12-14 02:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by hey_there_heathe 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother that you have the grace of God's blessing upon your life because of the love she gave to you as a child. Your life is fulfilled being able to share your love with her when she needs it and knowing that your children are getting to know her in ways you may have not known your own grandmother. Tell her that God gives you joy unspeakable each day you can come home to her and the children. Tell her that you do not need a man to feel loved and cherrished. Know that your breaking heart is not breaking but overflowing with love for her and that your reward for loving so deeply and so selflessly is one that most people will never experience. Tell her you are honored that God gave you the chance to be His arms to hold her and that if you ever changed it you would miss His power going through you to her and your children. Tell her all that you do is still not more than the love God gave to you through her and believe it in your heart because it is true!
2006-12-14 03:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by Love to Love 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest counseling for your mother and you. It always help to get on nutral opinion. It sounds like you love your mother very much. Your mother is being selfless and wants you to be happy. It's human nature for your mother to feel this way. I think counseling would help you both to deal with the things that are in your lives. It doesn't hurt to do something nice for yourself too. I understand you want to make your mother happy. It sounds like your mother wants the same for you. Your mother may need some type of medication too. I'm not a doctor so I would say seek out professional help. It may just make you both feel better about this. Happy holidays.
2006-12-14 03:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by Rosa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not exhibit your mother - simply considering the fact that she won't understand you're having intercourse. There are 2 truly probabilities: One is a touch hypersensitivity, to latex...(probably anything else, however most of the time latex) its no longer ordinary however it does occur. The different is HPV if you have not had the injection (men will also be vaccinated in opposition to it now) or Herpes. Skin to epidermis touch can unfold the ones, no longer simply physically fluids or vaginal/penile or anal/penile touch. You must have the HPV vaccine if you have not, regardless - and I recommend that you simply see a health care professional who WON'T inform your mom whether it is from intercourse. And no, it's not f*cking creepy to exhibit your mother -- its simply that I do not consider you fairly wish her to understand what you're doing. I do not know in which the opposite man will get off announcing its creepy. Kind ideas, Hermes
2016-09-03 14:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complicated situation but admirable answer you're giving! Go on like you want and your heart dictates. Just consider that you're not getting any younger as the days pass, don't let things go into obligation and everything will be fine in your life. If you should find somebody to accompany you in your circumstances and respect your values, consider taking him or her in.
2006-12-14 02:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by Rolf M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't have an answer for you, but you seem like an amazing person!
Her feeling like she is holding you back is what any person with half a heart would feel. That's a good thing, shows she really cares about you and is grateful to you.
Sorry I didn't help
2006-12-14 02:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know what your question is. Sounds like your mom feels like she's holding you down. Let her feel like she's contributing...go out shopping, or go out with some friends and ask her to watch the kids. Atleast she'll feel like she's helping out in someway.
2006-12-14 02:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by SamIam82 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋