Ok...So I've been out of school for going on 3 years, but since I graduated I've kept in touch with my eleventh grade english teacher who I see as basically my mentor. This teacher helped me through a very tough time in my life. We have kept in touch through email up until July. Ever since then, I have written to him and not recieved any response. I assume that maybe the school changed email addresses and I'm not worried b/c I know he wouldn't ignore me all of a sudden. But anyways, I haven't visited him in 2 years, but I'm thinking about going there before Christmas, and possibly getting him a card and gift. But I'm a really shy person, and I'm worried that it's going to look like I have some sort of "thing" for him. Maybe I feel that way because my friends always picked on me about him, saying I loved him, when really I just looked up to him as a mentor. With all that said, what do you guys think? Would it be ok to get him a gift? Or not. If so, what would be appropriate?
2006-12-14 01:52:57 · 17 answers · asked by Someone 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I think a card and/or a small gift is appropriate.
I'd be sure to state how much you appreciate the role the teacher played in your life.
Make the gift something not too personal....maybe a book related to his subject....or to mentoring in general, or a pen/pencil set, or a subscription to a trade journal or something of the sort.
2006-12-14 02:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if the school had changed their email, doesnt the teacher in question have your email address? Look, I had a teacher who was my mentor and I thought the world of him. Now I dont even know where he is, and it has been over 10 years since I have seen or talked to him. Id give anything for a chance to see him and tell him what a difference he made in my life. So my advice to you is to go with your heart. If you want to get him a gift and visit him, go for it. It isnt weird, and if you dont do it, you will never know what happened. Good luck, and Merry Christmas.
2006-12-14 01:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by belinda f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not weird! It's a great idea. I think teachers really like and need to know when they have made a difference in someone's life. And get him a card or whatever that says to that effect. As for a gift---what about a book, A great new book is by John C. Maxwell called The Difference Maker which is about how attitude is great to success, but adding skills is necessary too (sounds kinda appropriate for this situation), or some type of paperweight or something with an inspirational or motivational saying on it, since this teacher was your motivation. Good luck.
2006-12-14 01:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be appropriate to get him a card and for you to tell him how much his mentoring helped you out with your life.
Its a short sweet way of telling him thank you and i'm sure he would appreciate it. But keep it short and too the point. And you don't have to see him in person, just drop it off at the schools office if he is still working there. They will make sure he gets the card.
2006-12-14 02:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by Deu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why not. We have the custom in Germany. I used to hate my first elementry school teacher Mr Manske. Cause he and my class mate would team against me and riducle me where they could making my life a living nightmarre. However, my granny and grandpa thought it was the best teacher in the world. I could have killed both for thinking that of him. Nevertheless, they ended up with purchasing the most, exclusive , expensive Wine he was known to have liked drinking. The worst part of it, I was the one that had to drop it off to his home. I hated the whole idea and was debatting whether or not shoyuld I just have dropped the expensive wine on the streets and than go home. But unfortunley, he lived down the road from us and so my granny watching out of the window would make sure I went there. Yikes, I hated that teacher. Hope he got his peace of hell in heaven ...
2006-12-14 02:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by angelikabertrand64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a card is enough- especially since you haven't visited him in person for 2 yrs. And even if the school did change emails- he could have contacted you since July- so perhaps (unfortunately) you feel closer to him, than he has time to allocate to you.
2006-12-14 01:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he made such an impact on you're life, then its definately ok to get him a gift, as long as the gift is appropriate. Don't go overboard, and I wouldn't get him anything you wouldn't get someone else. Besides, if he was so important to you, don't worry about what other people think.
2006-12-14 01:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by kerplunkuga 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don;t think so at all.
If it makes you happy to keep in touch with the teacher, and give them a gift on their birthday or Christmas' go ahead and do it.
I was friends with my 10th grade English teacher until she passed away.
2006-12-14 01:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by Rev. Two Bears 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, nothing fancy or elaborate tho. I would include a card that says
"For all your help in troubling times. You saved me from a bad time" or somthing in theat vein.
2006-12-14 01:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by zombiefighter1988 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i think a little something would be fine:) i had a teacher like that too, and i still look up to her and love her!
2006-12-14 01:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋