He still says he loves me if i ask but we cant be together ? is there a future?
my ex and i broke up a while ago. he says hhe loves me . he says his heart is with me n will always be.he sed if u love some one let them go if they come back there always ures. i have been a cow to him since we broke up because i didnt know how to deal with it. threatening him with various things, which i regret totally.
he now says he needs to 'find out who he is', his 'heart is with me but his head isnt' and 'circumstances mean we cnt be together at mo' becaus he cant forget the bad stuff that happened at the end. some explanations please. is he needing this time to forget the bad stuff , if so do u think he ever will? or can if he LOVES ME
the whole purpose of not finding somone knew is thti love him and know it can be gd
i asked if he waNts me to move on , and he sed no he doesnt but knows he cant tell me to wait.
he says his heart is always with him but his head not with me at the moment. dont s
2006-12-14 01:48:09 · 15 answers · asked by lola f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
From a mans point of view if he really loves u then he would find a way for u two to be together until he does that then there isnt really a future for u two
2006-12-14 01:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's trying too hard to play the nice guy and let you down easy instead of stepping up and telling you the truth.
"I love you but we can't be together right now" translates to "You know... I really don't want to sit here and listen to you cry and cuss and bawl if I tell you that I just really don't want to be with you."
"I need to find who I am" translated means "Look, I don't like who I am when I'm with you, so I need to find someone else."
"My heart is with you but my head isn't" translates to "Hey, can we still be 'friends with benefits' until I find a new girlfriend?" Which is also behind him not wanting you to move on.
Basically, accept that this relationship is over, carry with you the lessons you've learned from it, and move on with your life. When the "at the moment" phrase is tossed around, realize that "the right moment" will never come, and don't waste your life waiting for it.
2006-12-14 01:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by Suzuki_Mouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where his heart of head is. It sounds like he is trying to let you down easy. I could be wrong. This has happened to me with the my heart is with you but my head isn't. I took the time to improve myself. I meditated and took lots of quiet time in my life. I went out and did the things I love to do. I picked up a hobby. When I healed from the relationship a guy came along when I wasn't looking. We have a great relationship today. Take care of yourself and do the things you love to do. It's the holidays have fun and make a new tradition with your family. Good luck and have some fun.
2006-12-14 01:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by Rosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so deja vu for me, because me and my BF of 3 years broke up 2 weeks ago. I'm sure its not as long as you but he said the same things to me, "Hes just not happy" "He doesn't know what he wants in he wants in life" you get the idea. But he still say that he loves me and we even had a moment together even though we were broken up and he still said he just wanted to be friends after it happened. My advice to you is, just go and live your life and if you meet someone your interested in you should go out with them. It doesn't have to be anything seruious just a friendly date. Your BF prob. doesn't want you to meet anyone because you would be happy and able to move on when he prob. hasn't. He can't tell you how to live your life anymore and you should think to yourself, do I really want him back was our relationship so good I will wait for him to come back to me, but what if he doesn't and he finds someone and leaves you there waiting? He prob. loves you, but does he love you enough to not break your heart anymore than he has? Time heals all wounds and everything happens for a reason you just might not find out till later. Good luck with everything!
2006-12-14 02:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by KittyKat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in short, no, love is not enough. He is keeping you around as plan "B." as cynical as it sounds, I'm sorry. It takes a lot more than love. It takes cooperation, respect, loyalty, and understanding. If you can't say that you both have each of these things for the other, then it will never work. It took me 9 years of hoping to figure this out, please don't let it take you that long. Learn your lesson, and move on.
2006-12-14 01:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by elfkin, attention whore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go but dont wait on him..if u stay under the influence that you'll one day be together it would be like your trapped .. you should get over him completely that way in your next relationship you wont have the same probs ..but he does love you enough to tell you the truth and he doesnt want to hurt u so take that into consideration .. and start from there ..
2006-12-14 01:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by pivotalperson111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop threatening him,your pushing him away,just believe it when he says he loves you,focus on learning to change things that ruin your relationship and try to appreciate life without him for the meantime,pray for him to comeback,and let him know how you've changed adn how much you needed him in your life,Love conquers all,try to compose yourself,ask GOD for guidance,keep yourself beautiful and optimistic and dont loose hope,,,
2006-12-14 01:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes doing a very polite GET OUT OF MY LIFE. Listen to him. Its so over he can't even find the words to say how done it is. Keep bugging him and he will leave out the parts of that speech that keep your ego intact and you will be left feeling like a loser fool instead of just a fool.
2006-12-14 01:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
meh girl its not love if he has to move away from you !it makes no sense .TRUE LOVE can withstand anything and everything .plus he need to release no1 is perfact and you just reacted like that bcuz you was confuse ,its human ,what kinda human wouldnt understand that
2006-12-14 02:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's stupid. If you love someone, do everything in your power to NOT let them go. He's just using that as excuse cuz he heard that on some crappy tv show. "If you love them, you have to let them go."
if he lets you go, then he doesn't love you anymore. he doesn't care how you feel. he want's other people.
2006-12-14 01:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by ** i Am hiS giRL ** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋