he said that i must don't love him the way i say i do. But now i am so confused i don't know what to do. I do love him but i am just not ready yet. I am afraid he is going to leave me. what should i do?And he don't want to use a condom. I so mad and angry and then sad.
2006-12-14 01:42:01 · 11 answers · asked by aka na$$$***** 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no make him wait till you are married
2006-12-14 01:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by PhillyDude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's going to leave you because you won't have sex with him then let him leave trust me he is not looking out for you best interest he is just trying to get into your pants remember once you give it up you'll never get it back yea 10 months does seem like a long time but are you sure you want to do something just because he does, You should only have sex with him if you feel comfortable and are ready, who cares if he's ready its your body and YOUR VIRGINITY, so remember that guys will tell you alot of things just to get in your pants wait it out and before you do something you regret Love doesn't mean you have 2 have sex that is only 1 way of expressing your love, If he sticks around longer and you feel ready Please use a condom you don't want to get pregnant or catch an std No matter what he says ok well good luck girlie i wish you the best
2006-12-14 10:26:31 · answer #2 · answered by thinkk_pinkk197 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naomi,
If your not ready and he is using your feelings against you well honey, then he doesn't love you. All he wants is some booty. If he leaves you, then you know it wasn't meant to be simply because he will leave after you give in anyway. He doesn't want to use a condom either.... he's not to smart, don't follow this dummy, your going to be the one stuck with a baby or worse not him. If someone loves you truly.... they will respect your wishes and you... and be willing to wait no matter how long. Stick to your guns girl and don't give in, right now your sitting on gold so you keep your self. All guys like to brag that they were the first for someone, keep that in mind.
2006-12-14 10:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH NO. That's a line most guys use to get what they want from girls like you. "If you love me........you would......" GIRL DON'T FALL FOR THAT!!!! Once your virginity is gone......it's gone forever. You'll never get it back. And listen carefully.......you don't want to get pregnant (it does not look cool seeing a kid with a baby) or catch a sexually transmitted disease (STD) -- can you imagine having to go to a doctor or hospital and have complete strangers looking, and putting their hands all up in your hoo-hoo? SAVE YOURSELF !!!! That's a huge red flag when some guy pressures you in having sex -- plus if he doesn't want to wear a condom.....that's bad news too. You have to ask yourself, how many other girls has he done that to. Let him get someone else pregnant girl. He might have a disease and not even know it. Let someone else catch it. Don't be fooled. Tell this guy this: "IF YOU LOVE ME..........YOU'LL WAIT." And leave it like that. If he gets mad and leaves you alone......girl......that's not love. He's playing games. He won't be the first guy you'll ever like....or the last. Don't be in such a rush to grow up. Take it from a grown-up.........IT SUCKS. I wish I could go back being a teenager. Hope you listen. I wouldn't lie to ya honey. Good luck.
2006-12-14 10:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by apache_lizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! I am all for pre marital sex, but I am also totally against being pressured into it! If he actually loved you, he would not try to make you feel bad becasue he is asking for sometihng you just are not ready to give. Tell him you do love him, and that if he loves you back, he will understand you are not ready, and he will either wait for you or he has to go away.
Believe me! If you say yes just to prove to him that you love him, you will regret it very much!!!!! Please understand that giving up your virginity is a once in a lifetime thing, and you should only do that out of mutual love and when BOTH of you are ready.
2006-12-14 10:00:47 · answer #5 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt respect you enough to wait until you are ready and if he doesnt respect you enough to protect you against STD's and pregnancy by using a condom... then he is not worth it! Sex does not prove you love someone and it does not make someone love you. It's better to move on now. There are way too many good guys out there to waste time on one bad one!!!!
2006-12-14 09:56:24 · answer #6 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN TO YOURSELF!! You just said you are NOT READY. Don't do something you WILL regret, and can NEVER take back. And what's with the idea of not using a condom? Are you crazy as well? Get moving, quick, you'll get over it.
2006-12-14 10:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it til u know u are ready for a big step like that. like the old saying goes, he wouldnt make u do sumthing u dont want to do unless he really loves u. dont let him pressure u into doing it, ull be the one feeling crappy at the end. i waited til i was married and it was the most wonderful thing.
2006-12-14 09:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nooooooooooooooooooooooooo hell nooooooooooooo if he want to leave u just bacause u are not going to lose your virginity then he is not the one for u ok.
2006-12-14 11:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ TianaW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shd accept u as ur.
2006-12-14 09:57:09 · answer #10 · answered by @LpHi!i 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋