How do I finally make peace with a friend who's always jealous, always competing with me?

Question

She is literally ALWAYS jealous of SOMETHING and always really fake to me... When I resolve one, another comes up. Sometimes we're really great friends, trusting and everything, but it I really take the time to evaluate, it's a very typical high-schoolish jealous relationship where we're always trying to make the other see that we're better... and we're NOT in high school anymore. Please give me some help? I understand that it's two sided and that I am also at fault... But it really does seem to me that she looks for and starts all the trouble. Thanks!

Answer 1

yeah your situation is tricky. I've been there and still am at times. All I can say is, friendship with girls are great but sometimes they can be frustrating because of the pettiness or insecurities inherent in a lot of girls. If you can, try to laugh off any times you feel trouble/provocation starts brewing. But sounds like you are really quite mad about it now.

I would suggest you just being blatantly honest about it then. Tell her you love her to death but sometimes you feel uncomfortable about sharing things with her. For example, when you want to share something good that happened to you. She should get the hint. If she doesn't and keeps at it, catch her at that moment and tell her right then and there, to quit it. Tell her you really want to share this with her cos you are so excited about it!!! Really what negative response can she give to that?!

if all else fails just ignore it and excuse yourself and walk away. Hope that helps.

Answer 2

If I had a "Friend" like that I would ask myself one question. Is this relationship worth the trouble? Being jealous of things or you is a sign of insecurity on her part. Yet, jealous feeling can and do cause really big problems. You have to use a lot of energy to be this girls friend. And, negativity has a way of sucking energy from us. Is she worth the trouble? And, ask yourself what part do you play in this. What is it that I can change so it doesn't happen again. I choose my friends, my friends don't choose me. Good luck and I hope you come to a happy ending.

Answer 3

Sorry to tell you. But you already have answered your own question. She is a fake friend. So just drop her it's not worth your time and effort. Especially when you know that she will overstep her boundaries again and again and again. It's not worth it. Cause I think, you could easily make another friend that will be worth all the time and effort you spent with the new gained friend. Trust me, you will be happier. Tell this friend, you hurt me too often, I would stop our friendship cause you cause me headaches and pain. That's what I would do if it was you

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Maybe it's time to end that friendship? I had to with a friend doing a similar thing... and I realized one day how much stress it caused me and that it honestly wasn't worth it. I'm sure you have some valuable friends and this one is just too toxic to have stick around. Spend time with real ones.

Answer 6

you can start to not care if she is competeing with you and just be yourself! if she has to keep trying to make herself better than you than that means that she really admires to you or wants to be like you. Dont change what you like to get something you dont just to be better than her. i m sure u r fine the way u r! u dont have to be better than any1! just b urself!!!!!!!

Answer 7

ITS REALLY SIMPLE don't competet with her, cz if ur better than her everybody knows this, IF YOU ARE BEST KNOW NEED TO SAY IT OR SHOW IT, IT ITSELF WILL BE CLEAR TO EVERYONE. just try to be nice with her cz she needs help not competition. :-)