ive come to a point in my life where i feel like i need to re-discover myself. i need to find my true purpose and niche in life. after a bad breakup and realizing some of my friends werent actually friends...i feel its time for a cleansing. have u ever experienced this? and what did u do about it?
2006-12-14 01:26:31 · 31 answers · asked by MsNic 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
For Sure. Look to your bible.
2006-12-14 01:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes!! I know exactly what you mean!! I actually relocated. I spent almost a year in an environment, which was quite rural. I had more time my hands, and was able to work less (cost of living less!!) and spend more time getting back to what I liked. I focussed on my kids, and what sort of parent I wanted to be. I did a full cleansing of my life. It was very good for me. With time, I was able to get back to being me. I left all of the ex bs behind and the friends that werent really friends at all. This was easier for me to leave the hurt and pain there also. I was lucky, and not all of us have the opportunity to do so.
What you should do, is close those doors and find new ones to open. Change your house around, get a new hair cut, and find something that you like doing on your own. Sitting in bookstores was a good cheap option for me. Walking and discovering was a good one also. I developed new interests and met new people. Remember friendship doesnt happen over night, and if it does, question it! And, dont be afraid to be alone. Because, otherwise you will end up making bad choices to overcome the loneliness! Take your time, and grow to love your new life. You get to start over, and that is something to be thankful for!! Just be yourself!! And, be PROUD!!
2006-12-14 01:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through a situation like this 3 months ago! It was awful! At the beginning i put the blame for everything on me and i was all the time in an awful mood!
But i woke up one morning an i started thinking more clearly! I put everything in the right position and in the right size! As i was always exaggerating!
Think what you lost and what you gained from all these! You found out that some were not real friends!That's a great gift, to know our enemies and our real friends! As far as the brake-up concerned, is a matter of life! It happens to everyone and even if we don't want to, time will ease the pain!
I think that after a situation like this you will feel a lot refreshed, as soon as you stop doing destructive thoughts!
2006-12-14 01:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by Roubini 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I believe we all go through this in this great journey we call life. We are always changing, maturing. This can be actually a very positive point in your life. Learn from all these experiences. get some real good self help books, hay house has some real good ones. Read the bible when you get a chance also. Start to keep a journal, so you can look back and see what you felt and thought in the past. I believe that our purpose changes ase we grow older, and fullfill other purposes. Just be happy with what you have now, what you have learned, to give way to bigger and better things. Be greatful for everything, remember it could always be worse.
Best of luck,
a friend in spirit
2006-12-14 01:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely yes... Got some self discovering books at the library and read...Went back to church and reclaimed my spiritual needs... took them home with me and started to change the way I lived my life... Started loving myself and living by the 4 agreements.. great book by the way... Took long walks by myself and just enjoyed the beauty of the world and the time to just think without anyone else around....
They say meditating is good for the soul and brings about self realizations.. Being kind and gentle to all God's creatures and look at life as a blessing and an opportunity to do something good for you and the universe.
Be selfless in your choices and find joy in being happy and helping other people feel good...
This is the beginning of a new path and a wonderfully fulfilling life.. It is so worth it...
2006-12-14 01:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every year , there is a point when i feel like that. I feel that i have some friends that i don't want in my life because they are putting me down and we don't have the same ambition. Sometime i feel some are not really my friends but just taking me for a ride.
I call this period...my sales and liquidation period. Either i change my mind and i like this person or i let this person go)
I never did anything about this. I just stop calling, you will see after if they are true or not. ...(sometimes after some reflexion i kept some friends, because i saw that i too can be not easy to live with. my sale period) But i don't have any regrets, sometime you just have to go a part.
2006-12-14 01:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by megalura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. I can relate. I moved. Dropped everyone and everything, threw a dart at the map and moved there. Ended up in Great Falls Montana. I learned a lot while I was there, about me...about other people. Moved back to my home town within the same year. But with a different attitude and outlook.
When I got back I cut the people who were destructive in my life out like a malignant tumor. I don't have the time for their petty drama, I had to and have to worry about myself.
2006-12-14 02:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did feel like that when I was going through my divorce. It was the best feeling in the world to me. Of course my world was turned upside down, but in the end all worked out. I took a period of one year and I pretty much stopped talking to any old associates and I made new friends, but this time I made sure I was making life long friends. I did not and I repeat did not even begin a relationship with anyone. I took this time for self discovery and I made sure that I knew what I wanted out of life. This period gave me the time I needed to invest in myself. I discovered that I had much more strength then I realized and I had more self-worth then I was giving myself credit for. I found this time of my life to be exciting. Good luck and I hope it works out as well for you.
2006-12-14 01:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by heaven o 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing I did after the same thing happening is I started looking to God and trusting Him for I knew and know that He has all the answers. Even though it was such a shock to my friends it was the best thing I did for myself. They actually stopped associating with me which was great coz I didnt want backstabbers. As for myself, I decided to have and lead a principaled life!! There are things and pple that I just wont tolerate because of that experience. Now they approach me with alot of respect. Dont put up with crap or nonsensical issues anymore.
2006-12-14 01:39:25 · answer #9 · answered by Nile Queen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it has... it was like thru going my closet... of years and years and years of clothes... except your going thru a soul cleansing... yes doing it is very good for your health... for your well being.. yes.. whatever you suspected about certain "so called friends" trust your instinct... the more you clean out the better you will feel about yourself... you will attract new people you know what I have learned from the cleansing is that you can meet someone new.. and think oh my god that person reminds of so and so- well if that so and so was good you know the relationship will be good if that so-so was not so good knew you already know... just take it one day at a time.. don't go crazy trying to cleanse everything out to quickly... to really redefine everything in your life do it wisely.... and just remember you have plenty of time to do this...
2006-12-14 01:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by ﺸÐïåMóñdÐôññåﺸ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I let go of the " friends" that were not really true friends. I joined a gym. In due time you will start feeling better about everything that has gone wrong. This is the perfect time to start with a new you.
2006-12-14 01:42:17 · answer #11 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋