2006-12-14 01:21:37 · 43 answers · asked by cutie19 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Before you go through with killing your baby PLEASE go to http://www.silentscream.org and watch the entire video they have. It shows you a real life abortion through ultrasound. I'll warn you, it is very graphic but that is the point. I'm hoping the video helps you change your mind about this or at least consider adoption.
2006-12-14 01:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Danelle 5 · 7⤊ 4⤋
I can't tell you wheather or not it hurts your body, but i can tell you it will hurt your heart and your spirit. I am sure your body will have really bad cramps at that time of the month. I have heard people who have had an abortion wake up during the night to a baby crying. That is something that you will have to live with for the rest of your life. People don't just get over it. That is a life that will be taking away. And even if it does not hurt you, you will be hurting God...there are other ways to deal with this than to have an abortion. Give it to someone who wants a kid.. Better yet when you see your child you would reget ever thought to have an abortion. I did....
2006-12-14 01:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Ga's Peach 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What is with you and all the abortion questions? If you really feel so afraid, and must ask, then obviously an abortion is not the right choice.
If you are scared, there are counslers, doctors, and clinics to go to. Discuss this with the father. Think hard about the answers you receive today, and choose wisely.
If you give the child to adoption and let another family raise it, at least you will know they have a good home and love. If you choose to abort, then you may feel guilty or painful.
I'm not against abortion, but I think it is a very serious thing, something to be considered long and hard. Not a rash, "let's go and do it" type of idea.
Write down a list of Pros and Cons to consider.
2006-12-14 01:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have never had an abortion, but I recently read a post from a Samantha C and I hope she doesn't get offended by my reposting her reply here:
By Samantha C
.I had a surgical abortion yesterday. I don't fit in to either category you described. I was using protection with my boyfriend, but it failed. I was 7 weeks pregnant.... and I am devestated. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I never dreamed I would have to have an abortion, it was something other women do, but not me. It soo hard to have a true opinion of something until you are actually in that situation. I didn't want an abortion, but my boyfriend didn't want a baby. I can't say I wanted a child either... but I didnt want an abortion. If he'd have said yes, I would of kept it. And I feel guilty for saying it, but it's true. Sitting in the clinic yesterday, I was shocked by the amount of women there... I was one of the youngest at 22, and that amazed me. Why grown women in their 30s didn't want to keep their baby?? I know it's wrong to judge, I didnt know their situations at all, but I did judge them. No one seemed upset... some rather relaxed, sitting waiting... reading a magazine. I was distraught. I've never cried so much... and I still cry now as I type this. At that point, in the waiting room, I think my boyfriend realised how distressing this was for me. I prayed he would take my hand and tell me we could go home, and keep our baby. I pray all the time that god will look after her and keep her safe. I would never have an abortion again... I feel as though all the things I looked forward to in life are ruined... being pregnant for the first time should be exciting.. all the feelings, the cravings, the sickness, your first scan.. all of those things will be tainted. When I had my scan on wednesday, I closed my eyes for a moment and pretended I had my 'husband' was at my side, looking in ore at the screen, watching our 7week old baby, holding my hand, looking and feeling so proud...... Words can't describe how awful it really felt. They hide the monitor from you, and print of pictures to keep in your file.... I asked to see them, which I guess most women don't ask to do... it broke my heart to see it. I will never be the same again.
When I read this I was moved to tears. Abortion hurts me because there is nothing more in this world I would like to have than a child, but you see, my wife and I cannot have children. My wife and I have been married for 10 years and this year my wife had to have a hysterectomy. From day one we both wanted children and tried. Each month passing by with disappointment, and then each year. We tried fertility treatments and later she tried surgeries. But we have not given up hope, because we are hoping to adopt a baby one day. Abortion hurts me because everytime someone aborts their baby is another chance we lost to adopt a baby. I hope that if you are pregnant and considering adoption, consider the fact that there are countless people out there in the world who cannot have children and would love to adopt your baby. Give your baby the gift of life, choose adoption.
2006-12-16 02:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by jjodom1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The advice I give you is from one women who has been there to another.
First, I would like to say that I have made both choices. I had an abortion my senior year of HS because I was not with the father of the baby and I was not ready for that commitment. People always say what about adoption but for me I couldn't do it. I was a child of foster care and just couldn't put my child into that. Then I got married in the fall of 2005 to a wonderful man. We were not planning on having children yet and I was on the patch. No one told me that if you are a bigger girl (over 180lbs) it isn't affective at all really so I got pregnant with my now daughter. I consitered having an abortion with her but something in my heart wouldn't let me.
From stating that I will tell you that there will be physical pain to some degree. I had cramping and bleeding for 2-3days after. I can't say I had emmotional pain from it. I think that whats meant to be will be and if you search your heart of hearts and decide that being a parent at this time isn't right for you and having an abortion is then you will be fine. Don't stress over what people on here say. They are mostly self righteous people with nothing better to do than try to scare an already scared young woman.
If you do have an abortion please be smart and don't put your self in this position again. Get on birth control and use condoms. If you are going to have sex using two kind of protection is you best bet.
You should consider the IUD. Its what I have after having my daughter and it's so nice. No worries for 5 years.
Good luck and if you need some one to talk to email me.
shexshedsxtears@yahoo.com
2006-12-14 02:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by shexshedsxtears 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
technically it doesnt hurt the doctors give you anesthesia after it wears off though you can get terrible cramps and depending on how far along you are the abortion can take 2 days, where the first day they stick vegetable sticks up there to make the cervix dialate and then the second day they preform the abortion. If you need someone to talk with you can leave me a message ok. Godd luck
2006-12-14 01:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by aries6604 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When getting an abortion, sometimes it can hurt you physically. Usually they give pain killers to women geting the abortion. But that is just the physical aspect of getting an abortion. The mothers usually feel lots of pain emotionally after choosing to kill thier unborn child.
I would not choose abortion myself, but i am not you, and i am not here to tell you how to live your life. Whatever choice you make, i just hope you are informed on the affect it will have on your life, either way.
2006-12-14 01:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by Banana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hurts in every area of your life. Abortions first of all cause physical pain, which can sometimes cause you to need another procedure to fix the problem. Then there are long term hurts- the emotional and spiritual side of of abortions are HUGE. You will never forget that abortion. There is sadness, grief, guilt involved. If you are considering an abortion, please make an appointment with a pregnancy help clinic to hear all your options. Abortion is not a "quick" fix. Adoption is always an option. It saved me from death and the death of my 2 adopted kids. God bless. Teri
2006-12-14 02:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For some people the procedure it's self does not hurt. I had one a few years ago. I had alot of cramping during the procedure and that was it. But my one really good friend had one and she had to be knock out because of her blood type and was sick for about a week after...
People come on here to get advice and help, not to be put down. This is a very hard decision to make at any age.. At the time I had mine I know it was the right decision to make. Granted I will wonder the what if.. But how would not.. Now I am pregnant at age 30 and I am still very much scared but i have a stronger support and I feel now I can do this...
I hope people here have been a help to you instead of hurting your feelings or putting you down... Its a tough thing..
Good Luck to you!!
2006-12-14 02:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by expensv_1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Listen to e_shepard, she's actually been there. Yes, it's a serious decision to make folks, I think she gets that. Let's not force our beliefs on others please.
Anyway, yes, there is some discomfort and then some cramping when the pain reliever wears off. The amount of pain depends on the type of abortion. And yes, no matter what the reason for the procedure there is emotional pain.
Good luck, I'm sure you're having a hard time right now emotionally. I hope you have friends to turn to and lean on, because you'll need them right now.
2006-12-14 01:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by jjbeard926 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you asked another question, right? I would suggest calling Planned Parenthood and making an appointment right now. They'll help you with all of these questions...and will help you to make the right decision. People who work in family planning don't want you to have an abortion...we want you to make the decision that's right for you. That might be this procedure, it might be adoption, it might be becoming a mom. But it's up to you! I hope these people aren't hurting you.
2006-12-14 01:32:21 · answer #11 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋