I have been through some traumatic events through out my life?

Question

The worst being the past 3 years, which has made me very unsociable. I used to have friends and be the life of hte party and every one called me.
How do I revert to my old personality? Things are getting better, I go out in public (which used to be really hard for me).
I believe that a person's personality changes - so how do you think I can get back to the happy normal person I used to be?

Answer 1

A body may contain many different versions of a person over the many years it hosts life. The core nature is the same. A kind person doesn't become unkind, reserved maybe but not unkind. So much else can and normally does change. Experience is a huge part of who and what we are. So every new experience leaves subtle changes in who we are. Over the years or even sometimes in short bursts major changes can happen. You are still you but the You that once was is no more.

What you are attempting is to undo yourself. To rewind back to a happier time. Time unfortunately doesn't have a rewind button. Instead I suggest exploring the new you. Put aside the past. Might be the party days are over. Instead quieter recreations await and a new journey, new phase of your life is beckoning.

When you are ready you'll instinctively seek out more social action. It will be social interaction you are more comfortable with. Probably more in depth and intimate as well. No need to push yourself. Just let it happen. Seek out new interests and you'll find a renewed zest. It's possible to find a new role in the society you left but it will always be a pale and bitter imitation of what you once enjoyed. To do so is almost to dishonor the memories and good times you had.
Enjoy those memories, cherish them even and find new ones.

When you find your new interests then life resumes. Social interactions again become natural and you feel in synch with the world again.

Answer 2

First, you have to be happy with who you are and know what you stand for. Once you are comfortable with yourself you will have a lot more to offer a) another person, b) a conversation, and c) any situation. You need to be happy with who you are, to be able to laugh at your own mistakes, and to enjoy life.

Take things step by step. You're not going to ever be the same person you were. That's one of the great things about evolution. You can look back on that person and be better. Now, you know how to have fun and be the life of the party, but you also know that there are people hurting just as much as you were hurt or more. So, you can be fun, but you can also be sympathetic. You can be a shoulder to cry on, a sympathetic ear, and a better friend to all of the people you know.

Look at all the positives that came from this. I'm not a religious person at all, but I do believe that everything happens for a reason, and everything that has happened to me has contributed to who I am today.

Answer 3

Back in the 80's I went through some very rough times. I got to where I didn't want to leave my house. I had cancer and had 16 surgeries in 4 years. I dropped down to 92 pounds and could not gain weight back. My husband would talk me in to going some where with him and soon as I left the house I would want to go back home. It was awful. I thank the Lord every day that my husband stuck by me but I will tell you what I had to do. I had to start seeing a psychiatrist. I had to see him weekly and he helped a lot. I started going out in public little by little and it took a while but I did become my old out going self again with a lot of counseling.

I will pray for you and see if you can get in to see a professional to help you out. It really worked for me.

Answer 4

well perhaps there is a new person emerging here and you should embrace this new growth.Being who you use to be came with some sort of trauma and it seems that time is morphing some one new.You will heal and change because that's what life brings and although the old is familiar,the new is better and more stable for you have learned more than you use to know.Embrace your life changes and don't be afraid for the Creator usually is already ahead of us and preparing your future,all you have to do is walk it.

Answer 5

It will help to put a word to what you are feeling, FEAR. Fear is one of the most powerful emotions humans feel, especially fear of the unknown events that might occur in the future. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. – Helen Keller The most painful and debilitating fear is fear of the unknown. - Jonathan Lockwood Huie We fear the unknown, perhaps more than we fear anything else, and yet we are, at heart, adventurers. We seek to expand our realm of knowledge and dominion. Perhaps we are attempting to overcome and crush the unknown, but our duel with the unknown is such a one-sided clash that we must know in our hearts that our adventure is no more than a child's game. Perhaps we hope that the unknown is like the darkness of a cave and that the brief light of our adventurer's candle can illuminate the entire cave. Nonetheless, the path of the adventurer is a path of joy, while the way of fear is one of suffering. As Helen Keller says, Let life be an adventure. Live your life to the fullest, unfettered by fear of the ghosts and goblins of what might occur. Calamity and death happen as well to those who hide from life as to those who squeeze every drop of zest from it.

Answer 6

You cannot ever return to the person you were.
You are who tou are now.
Life experience is what chisels the grooves in your character, and these experiences are yours to live with.
Life is not always fair, but you have a choice to
a/ Learn and become a leader in fighting your type of injustice so others can be helped to overcome their trauma before it erodes their joy as it seems to have done for you,
or
b/ become hard and indifferent to others..
Whatever, you are now qualified to speak on the subject, and I sincerely hope you choose what is good for you

Answer 7

Try to forget about the past, there is nothing you can do to change what has already happened. But, you do have a chance to change your future. Bad things that happen to us sometimes tend to make us stronger. Smile and be happy, no matter what. You could change your environment, but, you also might want to see a doctor to make sure you are not depressed.

Answer 8

Host a party. This is a great time of year for it. Go to EVERYTHING you are invited to. Even if you think they may not be your type of people, you may be suprised. If your single try that speed dating. I always wanted to, but I met Mr. Right.

Answer 9

this sounds lame ,but it comes from personal experience, I too went through a very traumatic time ,and I became vry low key and introverted ,quite the opposite of my normal self....it takes time....the mind takes a while to work itself through the trauma and recover it old self ...my traumatic year was 03 and I am just now starting to become my old self....dont force yourself to become your prior self...you will evolve back in due time ...everyone is different in the length of time to recover but most do...it sounds like you are starting to get there ,so be patient...time does heal ..and you will become yourself again.

Answer 10

trust and believe in yourself that you can do it. always look at the bright side of everything. a happy disposition counts a lot