I am opting for the later.Have tried the recommendations from some of the answers.Been there,done that! Have been accused of being oversexed. (?)I am fit and not fat (57kg).Go to gym regularly.Cannot tolerate 'slam bam' any more. Leaves me high and dry!I can deal with 'no sex'. Less heartache.He is not into porn (maybe better if he is) or is getting it from the side.He is just lazy. Don't want to beg.
2006-12-14 01:14:08 · 16 answers · asked by Glo in the dark 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow. I hear ya. Kinda like running to catch a bus, and it pulls away as you near the door. Damn, after a while you just figure, what the hey, I'll take myself there. :)
Some men just think that they are doing everything right, and because no woman has ever said, Dude, you are missing the point, they go through life thinking they are some Superman in bed. So you either have to fake it to keep their ego intact, or tell the truth and listen to them whine.
I tolerated Ho Hum sex for three months once, shared the fact that it was not all that, he said no one else complained, so, I said See Ya. If they are too lazy and unconcerned about your feelings, they don't care, won't care, and are not worth risking any emotional/physical investment on. Not into being used. Guys like that need to buy a blow up doll that screams, "Yeah Baby, your the Man!"
2006-12-14 01:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by Hatem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I am with you. I would rather have no sex than lousy sex. Once you have had that magical sexual experience, where there is passion and maybe a hint of love, nothing compares. It would the equivalent of eating dry toast, instead of a 10 course banquet. You can do the dry toast option yourself, if you know what I mean, and fantasize about banquet!! Give him the option to pick up his game. Tell him what you want. Tell him that sex is important to you, and that if he cant do it, then you will go elsewhere. Give him the option. Sex is more important in a relationship than we care to admit! It is the chemistry between two people, and it sets the tone for the 24hrs that follow. Great sex at night, means that two people are more willing to overlook differences the next day. But, give him the chance to make it better, and then if he doesnt, there are more issues that should be addressed.
2006-12-14 01:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey, been there, done that 2. He obviously isn't taking you seriously or does not care. Time to make a decision for yourself. It sounds like having a healthy sex life is important to you, but he is not responding to your requests or needs
Honestly,I would stop having sex with him since he is obviously only there for himself..Sexual frustration is one of the biggest relationship killers, and the more you feel used by him in addition to the frustration... well, you can tell that it is only downhill from there.. Anyway, this is the time to communicate and offer one last chance to save this relationship. Either he gets some therapy,or gets a good instructional book, or gets kicked to the curb. I do not think that you would be happy for very long living in a celibate relationship! Life is short... give him the last chance and then move on!
Good luck- dd
2006-12-14 02:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by dedum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GreenGrass (and others who suffer the same plight),
Please do yourself a favor and check out SWAGE. It is a support group for spouses in this predicament.
I feel so bad for you. It's been over two and a half years since I've had any s e x.
(Atlanta Metro)
2006-12-14 04:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is unwilling to make the effort to ensure that you are satisfied it seems as though he is either very selfish or just plain lazy and ignorant. I would masturbate and leave him out of the entire act. And when he did come for some he would have to ensure i was completely satisfied before I allowed his penis to touch me. God bless****
2006-12-14 01:19:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't like slam bam sex either...obviously this guy is only concerned about his pleasure...he doesn't give damn about you...Threaten to divorce his a** if he can't his act together in the bedroom.
2006-12-14 01:26:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that I would go for no sex. I'd rather play with myself than have ho hum sex.
2006-12-14 01:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by Candy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sex. Ouch. If you must, but I would let him know how you feel. Sex is a healthy part of any marriage and you should be getting all you can Handel.
2006-12-14 01:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather talk to my other half and tell him what I like and want and need, and then ask him what he wants etc, so everyone is a winner.
2006-12-14 01:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cant be lazy with a dish like you nearby;he must have a boyfriend.
2006-12-14 01:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋