Would you believe all the bad gossips that you hear about someone whom you love?

Answer 1

People will gossip. Unfortunately, it is just a human condition that many people contribute too. Personally, I hate it! But, you really can only defuse it by simply not listening to it.

The "Gossipers" will continue to gossip, but you have a choice whether to listen and heed it, or not. You'll find that people will get the hint and stop sharing stuff like that with you if you clearly make it evident that you don't care to listen to it, and kindly walk away.

Now, about believing it...............well, I always say, "consider the source". You must be somewhat concerned with the gossip you are hearing if you are asking us about it. Is some of it ringing true for you? If so, you need to truly get to the bottom of it. Why not just ask the person it is about? Give them the benefit of clarifying it. If you really do love them, they do deserve that right. if the source of the gossip are people that you trust, then you probably would do best to get to the bottom of it with your loved one, and do it soon.

If, the Gossipers are people you don't trust, who gossip randomly about everyone, then just ignore it. Don't we all have better things to do? And, better things to listen to? I have found that people who consistently feel a need to gossip about others, are usually very shallow, unhappy, and jealous souls anyway.

Do yourself a favor, surround yourself with a higher quality of people.

Answer 2

ALL gossips are bad. Gossips have nothing better to do than believe the worst about someone they most likely don't even know. It is that a gossip can not see that people can be and are, by and large, good. Their mission is to be the center of attention, and like the teasers on a television newscast, will spit out scandal and controversy without any fact or confirmation, but they don't care as long the light shines on them, if only for a moment. They don't care if they ruin a person by slandering them. They will even deliberately spread their venom intentionally to hurt someone. Rumors are bad, and those who propagate them and spread them and put their own poisonous spin on them, are even worse; they are evil.

I was once accused of sexual harassment where I worked as a supervisor. The charge was actually a deliberate attempt to get me fired so the person who I was promoted over would get the job. She formed a little cadre who went to HR and reported me. There was one flaw in their plan, though, and it was there was one worker who heard the plan while it was being formulated, and she went to HR first. Not only that, I had worked with the same management team for years, and they knew me well enough to know that I would never use my position for favor, or treat my associates in any way other than professional. I won't even date where I work. So, our little coupe de tete was foiled before it was begun. All involved were written up for creating a hostile work environment, which left one more infraction before termination. A few months later I was fired, but for making a simple but important clerical error that cost my department some bucks. My superiors tried to save my job, but to no avail, although the head manager, in violation of company policy, wrote me a sterling letter of reccomendation, as did the HR manager.

BUT...a rumor started that I was fired for the other thing, and it has grown over the past three years. I live in a small town, and I must explain this too often to too many people. But I find that no matter where I go the rumor starts with a certain type of person. This person has low self esteem, is a known liar, is always gossiping, has a relatively lower IQ than the rest of you, simply MUST be the center of attention, and most likely has more to hide than anyone else in the room. Facts don't count to these people.

I have learned that there are laws that gossips can be held on, such as slander. The best way to offend a gossip is to ignore them, and report them if the gossip is bound to harm someone and their livelihood.

When gossips die they are reincarnated as pigeons.

Answer 3

That all depends. Find out if the gossip is true. Ask the person you love. Find out before the gossiping gets out of hand. Maybe the person you love could set things straight. You never know what to believe these days. Go with your gut instinct or just come right out and ask the person you love.

Answer 4

I never fully believe gossip, no matter who I heard it from, or who it was about. While there may be a small grain of truth that started the rumor, by the time it gets around, the story has been distorted.
If someone I trust says they saw "it" with their own eyes, or they heard "it" directly from the person it's about, then it's something to think about.
Whatever it is, it's better to confront the person being talked about. Let your loved one know what is being said so they have a chance to set the matter straight.

Answer 5

It all depends on how well you know this person you love. Is this gossip from their past that you know to be "finished" now or is it stuff that perhaps you missed/didn't know about- then you might want to thoroughly check it out. Is it trivial or is it potentially significant? Would you still have the same feelings for that person if this gossip were true?

Answer 6

how old are u 10 -12 gossip is just that one day my husband got pulled over for having no license by the time i worked next my husband had been arested and there was 10 pounds of pot in my car like i told my friends at work if my hubby had 10 lbs y would i be workin here see what im gettin at there was nothing illeagal in my car but the driver but the gossip machine made it into something it wasnt

Answer 7

I used to ignore all the gossip I used to hear about my husband. Until I found out that the gossip was true. He was seeing other women. Trust you instincts.

Answer 8

no not all of them do some checking up on some it it helps a lot i had a time where i didn't believe any "rumors" and it turned out everything i was being told was true i lost a good friend and the guy i thought i loved over it

Answer 9

When that happened to me with my ex, i wouldnt believe them. I'd here so much stuff that he did and how he was but it would just go in one ear and out the other. I thought i knew him more than them but eventually i was wrong. They were right all that time. Be careful, dont let this person blind you with this "love" that you cant see what your getting urself into. GBU!

Answer 10

You said it is gossips, so do not believe it.