2006-12-14 00:53:51 · 10 answers · asked by Manu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust requires transparency. Without trust the marriage can survive, but not happily.
My lil' sister just went through a nasty break up with her husband and their issues started with him hiding little things from her. Oh, he wasn't doing anything BAD (not that we could put our finger on), but he was not being completely truthful with her either. She was suspicious of his behavior-- that's when she discovered that he was very often talking to other women on his cell phone. When he finally learned to text message, he was always texting other women.
Well, he said that the friendships with these women were just that-- friendships, but he NEVER invited his wife (my sis) to become a part of the relationship. If he were being honest with her about what he was doing with these women then there shouldn't have been a problem with her knowing about them, being around when he talked to them, meeting them, etc., but none of that ever happened.
He left a few weeks ago and we suspect that he is either living with or dating one of these women. Ironically, we think he is with the one woman that he said he 'worked' with. He told his wife that this 'work acquaintance' was in her late 40's and made a big deal out of her being SO OLD (they're in their early 30's).
Honesty can never be over rated, especially when that's all that stands between a happy life and a miserable existence.
2006-12-14 01:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it can survive. But without transparency the quality of relationship will suffer.
2006-12-14 08:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sporadic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage can survive only if people are willing to accept what they are being given. But most of the time, there is someone willing to give you what you're missing.
2006-12-14 08:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by nochickenhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't use transparencies, I reccommend just plain 8 1/2 x 11 paper :)
2006-12-14 09:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by finished 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can survive, as could a completely miserable marriage. But it won't thrive. You get out of marriage what you put into it.
2006-12-14 08:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by Shane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because without transperency in a marriage, problems start, and trust and respect goes to the wayside. Because if people start keepings secrets in their marriage your opening yourself up to alot of problems.
2006-12-14 09:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they can hardly survive with transparency, and you wonder if they survive without!
2006-12-14 08:58:44 · answer #7 · answered by Wael 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A loveless marriage is like eating foods without spices. It can be done but there is no flavor!!
2006-12-14 09:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by dominicaquilino 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely not, that is unless you enjoy being miserable, second guessing each other, suspecting each other of all sorts of things!!
2006-12-14 09:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by hurtand still in love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-12-14 08:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by stranger 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋