We broke up yet Im still wearing the "promise" ring he gave me. Its hard to take it off and forget about that part of my life, and at the same time its become my favorite accessory. So because Im not dating him anymore, do you think I can still wear the ring, give it back, or keep it stored away somewhere?
2006-12-14 00:34:23 · 18 answers · asked by J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The ring is yours to keep. I personally would not continue to wear it right now, at least not on my hand. I would probably put it on a necklace or something. Break ups are hard, and they take time to get over. Having the ring on a necklace will have you thinking about it less, but still have it with you. Any gift that is given to you during a relationship is yours to keep, even an engagement ring. It is common courtesy to give an engagement ring back if you are the one doing the breaking up. Anyway, I say wear the ring if you want, either on your hand or around your neck. You will need to take it off for awhile soon though, the reminder will only make it harder to get over this relationship. Put it in a box somewhere for awhile and then later when you are over the relationship, if you really like the way the ring looks on your hand...take it back out and wear it. Give yourself time to get over the relationship though.
2006-12-14 00:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends.
1. If you both decided on the breakup, and it was on good terms and you don't want him back and he knows it- then you can wear it because to both of you it's just a ring.
2. But if he left you, your wearing the ring would seem like a plea for him to come back and fulfill his promise. If he saw that and didn't want to come back, it'd just add to his pride and he'd go around boasting that there's a lady still 'hankering' after him. (If he doesn't see you, then I think it'd be okay)
3. If you left him, and he sees you often, it might seem like a signal that you still want what you had, and if he starts stalking you, don't be surprised.
But then again it's just a ring, right? Hey- I think you called it a 'promise ring'? I wouldn't wear it if I were you, unless your situation is like situation 1.
2006-12-14 08:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he asked for it back. And what was the promise it was given under? Generally if it is a bad reminder, why would you want to keep it? If it was in anticipation of something such as an engagement ring and the marriage didn't happen, then legally you would have to give it back or be sued. Would you want to date someone who wore an accessory from a past love? I wouldn't.
2006-12-14 08:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i once got dumped by a guy who'd given me a promise ring. he told me he'd cheated on me. so i threw the ring at him and it cut him in the face. then it fell in the gutter and i left it there and stormed off. later i went back to look for it and it wasn't there. i missed it, but i think it was better not to have it. it was much easier to not dwell on how hurt i was once i'd packed away everything that had to do with him. and once i was over him i was able to get it all out and look at it without crying. so my advice, store it away until it no longer hurts or has that same meaning. then u can wear it again all you want.
2006-12-14 08:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u are going to wear it as your fav accessory then it's ok, but wear it to hang on to your past, that's not healthy. Remember that the ring without the "promise" shouldn't hold sentimental value to u.
2006-12-14 09:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you can keep it. It totally understandable and a memory for you. I would only not wear it if it was hard for you. BUt i would never give it back. It's a part of your life and it'll bring good memories. He gave it to you for a reason....so do what you want with it. It's yours
2006-12-14 08:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by sunkist3122 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since it's a promise ring you can keep it, however if it was an engagement ring you would have to return it.
2006-12-14 08:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer Lu22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to keep it is tacky! Return the ring! why hold on to a memory that failed! I am sure the next guy would not agree with you continuing to wear it anyway...return it and move on. If you really like it purchase one like it yourself!
2006-12-14 13:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by lil redneck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he gave it to you,you have all the rights to wear it as long as you feel wearing it,its ok,its normal,dont be in a hurry in dealing with your heartaches,you can let go of all the bad part of your life by simply asking GOD to comfort you and healed your heart,so you can leave joyfully,and be a better person,and if its still your favorite accessories,wear it with confident as long as your not annoying anyone by wearing it,wear it without feeling sick and ashamed,its yours,,,,
2006-12-14 09:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Up to you... Keep it and wear it.. Keep it and leave it in a jewelry box... Or return it, cos the promise was broken...
2006-12-14 08:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋