I'm 23 and am probably going back to prison after Christmas. Part of my sentence was suspended but I was done for drink driving/no insurance so I'm looking at 6 months from the suspended sentence and maybe more. My family stood by me last time I was there and visited and sent in some money for canteen stuff. They said they wouldn't do the same again but I think it would be much harder to get through it if they didn't. I know I messed up but don't want to fall out with them over it. I'm not sure if my gf is going to stay with me either so that's another thing.
2006-12-14 00:31:27 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im sure your parents will stand by you and you are very lucky to have a girlfriend that sticks with you also............im sure she will
but dont expect them to make a career of it !!
time to do you time, learn from it and grow up.. and i dont mean that in a nasty way
and yes i would stick by any of my kids that got into trouble.....a mothers love is unconditional even though it does hurt
2006-12-14 00:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by ♥gigi♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was my son then yes,i`d stand by him.
But i don`t agree with drink driving,you could have killed someone and it`s just stupid and senseless and not to sound to hard i`m glad you got caught and are being punished for it.
Maybe this time if you really promise them that this will be the last prison sentence for you and stick to it and ask them to stand by you just once more as you dont think you could cope without their support,and make sure you turn your life around and show how much you appreciate your parents.
As for your gf sit her down and have a long chat with her too and promise her that this will be the last time and again,really mean it.
I`m guessing she`s roughly round about the same age as you,as am i and i know i couldn`t be bothered with someone who is always going to be in and out of prison,just to much hassle.
Goodluck.
2006-12-14 01:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by onlyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, yes, it will be harder without their support, but maybe that is what they are trying to do,, and i think you should respect that,,,, they love you and want you to learn your lesson, if possible,,, so that you dont end up in even more serious trouble,,,,,,, you were given a break by a suspended sentence, yet you didnt take advantage of it,, i would hope, as im sure your family does, that you do learn something this time, and the harder it is for you, the more it might sink in,,,,,,,, tough love i know, but its a true love
ps: just because they dont visit nor give you money, doesnt mean they dont support you , love you, and hope for the best for you,,,,, they are just not trying to ease this particular situation you have gotten yourself into
2006-12-14 00:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by dlin333 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Shane i am sorry to say this but you should have learned your lesson by being arrested the first time. You know that it is illegal driving without insurance why do it again. By the way why are you going back to prison, for the same story. Thinking about it, it is a offence but it is not like you are a rapist or murderer and since that is not the case i as a parent would stand by you, but i would be ruddy ashamed i have to add .
2006-12-14 00:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think they will support you but they are probably really angry at you.
Basically they showed you support last time even though it would have stressed them out and upset them that youd gone to prison, and you going back there just shows them disrespect for their feelings. When someone supports you even though you do a bad thing you have to appreciate that.
So gettin yourself locked up again is putting them through these upset feelings again and to be honest why should they have to go through that once never mind again? They would feel like your throwing their support in their face. And it can make u emotionaly tired.
Just realize your mistake this time around and keep out of trouble. Ive had to deal with a troubled sister for 10 years and my parents put up with a LOT of crap and still do out of love, but i dont think they should anymore. Shes worn them down. Its quite sad.
2006-12-14 01:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you looking for sympathy? No, i think they should stick to there word and let you get on with it. Its your fault that again you are going to prison, maybe you will learn this time!
How do you think they feel about you always getting into trouble and going prison, something they should be proud of and give support?
Do your time, learn from your mistakes and be a good citizen in future.
2006-12-14 00:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by benn26k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is called tough love. Believe it or not, by not being there for you during your next prison sentence, they are showing you even more love. They want you to get your life back on track and make something of yourself. It shows they believe that you can truly get your life back on track if they step back and let you step up. They probably believe that they are enabling you to continue on a negative track by supporting you too much.
In my heart, I would always support my son, but sometimes withdrawing is the support that is necessary.
2006-12-14 00:39:55 · answer #7 · answered by ifyousaysooooooooooo 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Shane, there are going to be consequences for your irresponsible behavior and if losing your girlfriend and your parents support are in the wind then let the chips fall where they may. Your parents were supportive enough to have "done" for you so far but if they cut you off while you're in prison, you're going to have to accept that. My ex was in jail for many months a while back. I lived in his apartment at the time and paid all his bills while he was gone. His mother tried to second mortgage the house in order to get him out but in the meantime, they (the family) cowtowed to his every whim while he was locked up. He wanted for nothing and their schedule day in/day out was whatever he wanted. He finally ended up throwing me out because he had imagined that I was entertaining men in the apartment in his absence, which was not true at all- I worked to pay his bills and missed him horribly. Until the morning he did that. I never went back either. Don't be a spoiled s**t, do your time and grow the heck up.
2006-12-14 00:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, I have told my daughter she has one time to get into legal trouble and I will have her back. If she messes up again that's her As*, It's hard for parents to watch their children be hurt, or do things that will hurt them or make life hard on them. Do the kids think of the effects it has on the parent(s) when they do the things they do... not to often. I watched my mother suffer the maddening effects of consistent prison terms for my brothers and my older sister still battles emotional hardships for my nephew because of his return trips to the pen, why should everyone suffer because of the ill thought of one. I love my daughter, but she's in trouble now, she did it, she'll pay for it, hopefully she will learn not to do it again. Kids won't learn if we keep bailing them out or making it easier for them. What would you do if your parents weren't here, both mine are dead, if I do something, who will send me commissary money? Maybe you should think before you do the things you do. The decisions you make affect you and all those around you.
2006-12-14 00:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
make sure that you dont get yourself into that situstion again. Obviously, you didnt learn the first time....maybe they are being cruel to be kind...you have to understand that. If you had their support last time and then you still messed up, what was the point in them supporting you. They will support you but dont take advantage of it.. ask yourself..why should they support you, especially if you dont learn your lesson.....I do hope things work out for you!!
2006-12-16 05:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by saika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, my son is 22, I love him dearly, but if I told him I would do something, good or bad, that would be the way it would happen.
Tough lessons are the ones we learn from sometimes.
They still love you, but they just can't support your unwise decisions. If they don't support you it might make going to jail something you will want, and work to avoid in the future, so it could be for the best. Sorry.
2006-12-14 00:43:47 · answer #11 · answered by Rockvillerich 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋