i seem to always go for guys that get into trouble...do drugs..in and out of jail....how do i find good guys?
I like to try to help people...but it never works...i need someoen that is good for me
2006-12-14 00:19:50 · 5 answers · asked by Marissa 2 in Computers & Internet ➔ Internet
Girl this is a tough one. I had the same problems as you do. I'm happy now and married with two kids and have a great life! But the problem with me before was it seemed like the only guys who wanted anything to do with me were loosers. They seemed nice at first, then turned into *******! Or were nice guys that were always in trouble with the law or drugs or what ever. What you need to do is have a friend or relative set you up on a blind date... I know it sounds crazy, but this actually worked for me so give it a shot! The person that sets you up has to be a close friend or relative that is very protective of you. They won't set you up with some creep. And at first you are not going to "like" whoever it is they set you up with. Because you are so used to jerks or looser guys. But believe me you will start liking this guy pretty fast. He will be a gentalman, hold doors open for you and be polite. The thing is, there are girls like you and me and looser guys can sence that. We are the kind of girls that want to help these "bad boys" and turn them into good guys. (I'm 24 so let me tell you, in my whole life that never worked once!) We can't help it that we want to help them. It's just who we are. Maybe we think we can change them, or maybe we see their sensitive side one day and think "They just need a hug!" Or we feel sorry for them because their life is so sh!#y. But trust me, no matter what you can't change the guy. If you want to help people (as is your nature) go to the local womans shelter and help out there. Most of those women are from relationships where their husband or S/O was a looser guy and they thought they could change them. You can help those women and they can help you. Because if you tell them your problems I'm sure the first thing they will say is "Girl I was just like you when I was young, and look where it got me!" Anyways, this is getting to be a long answer. If you have anymore questions or need anymore advice you can message me at myspace. http://www.myspace.com/happilymarriedwith2kids
I've been through a lot of crap with abusive guys, drug addict guys, guys going to jail for being a theif. From the time I was a teen untell I finally had enough and my brother set me up on a date with the man who is now my husband. So, I've got experiance with this sort of stuff. Take care and good luck!
2006-12-14 00:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by sunnychick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but I am already taken!
There are plenty of "good guys" out there. You just gotta be selective. Don't try and find a low-life that you can rehabilitate, look rather for traits which are conducive to a good relationship.
Remember also, you catch quality fish with good bait. Bottom feeders bite most anything. Keep yourself above the "trouble" that seems to come your way.
2006-12-14 08:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by br549 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Hmm if you would like a wimp or someone like that then go to a local chess club. Otherwise stick with guys from the military that have been whats called "broke in".
2006-12-14 08:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by jack 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hereditary in women. You go for the bad guys, because you think they can father stronger children. But you want to settle with good guys, because they are better at bringing up children. It's that old 'have your cake and eat it' thingy.
2006-12-14 08:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u think all r bad means it wrong and u want to change the attitude of that bad guys to good know.is there no name plate on them i am good r bad
2006-12-14 08:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by kumar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋