I can never enjoy sex with my husband (we're not ready for a kid yet) because I'm obsessed with the thought of getting unwanted pregnancy. We are both grown ups and we know it is not that amazingly EASY to get pregnant - but i'm still always paranoid! We use double, or even triple protections (pills, condoms, spermicide etc) but i just can't help getting so stressed after sex. Even sometimes when we're having oral sex and there's semen on my legs i'll try to imagine 'somehow' the sperms manage to swim their ways up there and cause me to become pregnant. Cos of this im always very stressed - even after my period comes as i know many women still get their periods when pregnant.
I really need help! Do you have any personal experiences or anything to make me feel less paranoid about getting pregnant so that i can have some good sex?
2006-12-14 00:19:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I never wanted kids and had a vasectomy many years ago, even before I was married. My wife has loved it, especially since she never wanted kids, either. The vasectomy has worked out great and there is never any worries about pregnancy and no need for all those things you're using.
Not every guy will consider a vasectomy but talk to your husband about it. It's less intrusive than getting your tubes tied, although it is also less reversible.
Good luck. And try to enjoy your time with your husband. It sounds like you have a very patient and loving guy.
2006-12-14 00:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by pvreditor 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just using one of the methods you mentioned is an effective way to prevent pregnancy. If you are on the pill and he uses condoms, chances are pretty much nil that you'll get pregnant. Even at your most fertile time of the month, you only have about a 20% chance of getting pregnant while using NO birth control. Once you get to the point where you have to use three forms of birth control and still worry about ridiculous things like "sperm swimming up your leg", it's time to admit you have a problem. Unless you are able to let go of your irrational fears, use only two forms of birth control, and start enjoying sex, I think you truly need to seek professional help. Because at that point, it's not a pregnancy issue, it's an issue of your mental stability.
I feel sorry for your husband. Sex at your house must be the most mechanical, boring event ever with all your obsessing. "Hurry and finish honey, so I can jump up and down to try and shake out any sperm that might have broken through your condom, survived the acidic nature of my vagina, swam through the spermicidal foam, and fertilized an egg." The fact that he's still with you means he's a saint.
2006-12-14 00:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by Neerdowellian 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God, it much more easier than that....why are you talk'n about it like that, and (am sorry), it's funny the sperms swimming from your legs...hehehe....((sorry again))
none of that can happen... i bet your husband is so annoyed of that but perhaps he isn't showing you, so don't lick your whole honey jar, better keep some for the real hard times....
you can either take a pill and stick to the program, or let him wear a condom, (which will make him enjoy less), or have him ejaculating outside, which usually works (but not always), ELSE, the man is gonna really feel treble, as first he is not enjoying, and second, i know when the lady is so scared about it, and how annoying it is for the male....
:) so think about it, and take care...
2006-12-14 00:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by Gossai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill out hun. Sex is meant to be enjoyed not to stress over. If you are on the pill you shouldn't worry so much about all of the other precautions. If you are still concerned have him wear a condom. Your chances of getting pregnant are slim to none like that.
2006-12-14 00:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek the help of a professional therapist to deal with your obsessive fears. This is a problem better addressed by a specialist than a "panel in a chat room". If you are taking so much precaution and still paranoid, maybe there is a deeper-seated reason for this fear that you need to explore, perhaps you are just unaware of it. Have you discussed this with your husband yet? Perhaps talking it out with him might help too. You need to try and shut down your over-active imagination.
2006-12-14 00:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get on the birth control shot. I was on it for three years and me and my husband had unprotected sex eacj and every time and i did not get pregnant.
Right now i am not on any form of birth control (not trying to get pregnant though) and we just use the pullout method and i haven't gotten pregnant. I have not been on birth control in over 7 years. (I have a 5 year old son)
You should really consider talking to someone cause you are obsessed and it is going to cause strain within your marriage.
Don't worry if your on the pill, using condoms and spermicide..
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http://www.yourfreedays.com
Good luck
2006-12-14 00:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax a little. Remember, it is not just you not enjoying it, it is your husband to. Go to your nearest doctor and if you can afford it have yourr tubes tide. it is reversable. I am 12 weeks pregnant today and i was never scared of falling pregnant. But i can understand in your case you have your reasons not wanting a child now.
good luck and try and enjoy; your sex life
2006-12-14 00:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What more do you want you are all ready taking you precautions. it all depend if you are that fertile but just relax you are supposed 2 enjoy sex And after you finish go wash up.
2006-12-14 00:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by <3♥Judy♥<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to convince yourself that getting pregnant is not the absolute end of the world... It's not the worst thing that could happen in your life... Life is to enjoy...
2006-12-14 00:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are crazy girl...you are taking all the necessaary precautions so that you don't get pg....enjoy sex...you are just going to bore your poor husband. Calm down
2006-12-14 00:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋