About six month's ago, my wife made it clear that she no longer had any interest in sexual intercourse with me. She also made it clear however, that she does have an interest in having interourse with other people.
When these people come round, say once or twice a week, I am obliged to either go out, or stay in the basement where I'm allowed to watch tv quietly.
I provide for my family and make sure they have a stable home, and I can't help feeling that my wife is abusing that.
2006-12-13 23:55:25 · 69 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I mean, she does have her needs. I think I'd just prefer it if she went about it discreetly somewhere other than the house.
2006-12-13 23:59:55 · update #1
Geesh, how self centered you are. You should ask her if you can wash the bedsheets after she is done havng sex with her studs.
2006-12-14 03:44:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This situation is not fair on anyone. I can see that you and your wife have totally grown apart and are trying to keep the surface of your family together when all elements underneath have changed. If you have children they will eventually see through this charade and that truth will do more to hurt them than save their feelings. You are best off to make a clean break and so everyone knows where they stand. It is sad when a family breaks up but living a lie causes confusion and bitterness in the long run.
It is good in a way that you and your wife are still able to cooperate in some way, even if the present situation is slightly unorthodox. I think, based on this, that you can still be an amicable unit once this is all out in the open and you are both moving on with your lives.
2006-12-14 02:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by allears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite simply... if you wife wants the single life, then she should move out. You have got to show some back bone and stand up for yourself. There are many women out there who would jump at a chance to be a man who can bring them some sort of stability, a good home provider and above all a loving a decent man. You are not obliged to do anything in your home that you don't want to. You have obviously been hen pecked all these years and your wife is the one who has been wearing the trousers... it's time to reclaim your rightful place as head of your family and make a decision which will give you your self worth back. Tell (not ask) her to move out (or you move out)... get yourself a mini makeover and start dating again! Life is too short to waste on being walked over!
In summary, I do not feel pity for you and your situation... I feel angry that as a man you have allowed this to go on under your own roof... it's time to act and be a man... you alone can resolve this!
2006-12-14 00:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by Nureven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever the situation your wife will win. The maintenance will be extortionate if she has other partners! And the courts don't take anything into account that suggest the woman is in the wrong. They will probably stop you seeing the children if they think you are not a good Father and always recommend that they stay with the Mother. It's called 'In the best interest of the children'
Good luck.
2006-12-14 00:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by Spiny Norman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How ridiculous is this!!! She is your wife!!! If you are pandering to her every whim you are making a very stupid mistake. If she wants to have her men, then she moves out and starts a new life. How convenient for her. All her expenses taken care of by you, and any man she fancies in her bed. All under your roof. You need help! She is laughing at you ... she can be married to you and you allow her to have affairs! Where is the respect. I suggest you give her an ultimatium. She either remains married to you ... as YOU wife, or she leaves. How do you think this will affect your kids? My GOD! I dread to think what morals they will grow up with? I just hope you don't have any! This is not normal ... not by a long shot! You deserve better ... if someone you are providing a home to doesn't support you in every way, then find someone who does!
2006-12-14 00:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by lynne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude she is walking all over you and your right, she IS abusing you. Your basically allowing her to cheat on you. By her saying that she has interest to have sex with other people but not you, something isn't right there. You NEED to put a stop to that RIGHT NOW!!!! Be a man and stand up to your wife. She needs counceling BIG TIME!!!! She's got some serious issues that need to be worked out. But she's basically cheating on you and your letting it happen. Stand up for yourself, and tell her no, this isn't right.
Plus you both need marriage counceling. I hate to say it but the way it looks, you both may be ending up in a divorce. I know you provide for your family but what she's doing isn't making a stable home. It's anything BUT stable. She's trying to justify her cheating by saying she's interested in other people but not you.
2006-12-14 00:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It even says in the Bible to have sex with your wife!! Hun, she is actively cheating on you, you have every right to kick her out of the house! Not only is she abusing you, but your kids if there are any, and treating you with a speck of respect. Be a man! Not only could she catch something, and then give it to you, she is just going so far beyond the line when making you disappear when she is sleeping with others. Hun, I dont know why you are even defending her! Just pray that you see the right way to go! x
2006-12-14 03:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by beckic12000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? You need to buckle up and boot that woman out. She is neglecting you in more ways than one. Boy, you need to grow a back bone.You don't let your wife have sex with someone else in your home, and let it be ok. That is your home too. I'm stunned that a man would have to come on here and ask something like that. She is cheating on you. Let me ask you a question. What does you gut (not your heart) tell you. Always follow your gut feelings. If it is telling you that this is a bad arrangement, then by golly george, do something about it.
2006-12-14 00:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by btyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not just leave her then you dont have to be around when she sleeps with other people in your house. You can still support the family if you feel that you need to. She is using you and i cant even say its for sex, so why waist your life to life by her rules. That just wrong. She needs a wake up a call.
2006-12-14 00:20:17 · answer #9 · answered by hotty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you have to be joking! You support her and provide for her and she doesn't even have enough respect for you to do it in a hotel or the partners house.
I hate to say it, but she is taking you for a mug and getting away with it. You need to tell her, not ask, to do it elsewhere.
What kind of message does it send to your kids. The woman is a disgrace and should be ashamed of herself.
You have to tell her to sort it out or pack her bags.
You don't have a marriage you just have some woman living in your house who you pay for.
2006-12-14 00:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh God! I hope for your sake this is a made up question! If not then yes she is abusing that! She should at least be the one to find somewhere else to do it, not in your home, and i think you are being a bit of a doormat letting her do it... Sorry to say that!
2006-12-14 00:01:26 · answer #11 · answered by Jo_Diva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋