I was recently looking on myspace and decided for fun to put my husbands name in. I found it, with a picture of him, and he said he was single and also stated he did not want kids. This was a recent profile, made just after he left to start a new job in another state. I am due to join him in a couple of months. Any suggestions?
2006-12-13 23:04:04 · 42 answers · asked by his wife 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
call him and tell him of your discovery....hear his explaination..and take it from there..good luck..
2006-12-13 23:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Definitely ask him about it but don't be confrontational. Just tell him exactly what you told us - hey, I found this MySpace page with your photo on it and it says you are single and you don't want kids. And then just be quiet. Put the ball in his court and see what he says. He'll probably be more wigged out that you aren't screaming at him than he would be if you were yelling up a storm. Good luck, I hope it all turns out to be nothing!
ps - I wouldn't do the thing of pretending to be someone else, because if it turns out his profile was really nothing, he will be very upset that you tried to trick him. You want to be the better person here.
2006-12-13 23:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by erika 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CONFRONT HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You've got problems girlfriend!!!!!! He is looking for someone and probably is screwing around right now.
I think I would answer his profile on myspace and pretend you are a single woman and see how he answers. Just in case someone else submitted it (excuse he could use) or it was a "joke". Well it is not a joke. This is serious business. Then go for the kill...................... It will be hard for him to deny his BAD behavior if you catch him in the act. GET MARRIAGE COUNSELING!!! Don't waste your time with a dead beat. Life is too short and your children need to have a good role model for what it takes to be a good husband and screwing around is NOT.
Good luck
2006-12-13 23:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by belle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Establish your own myspace with all of the same descriptions he has put for himself about himself and then send him a "friend" request. A dose of his own medicine should do the trick or open the door to get this secret out and why he feels the need to fantasize and try to attract other women. This is always the first step before a "MEET".
2006-12-13 23:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though he is planning on having extra curricular activities while he is there. Before you arrive. Sad, very sad. There is not other reason why he would be posting such lies. What a looser, I would simply ask him about it, however, in a face to face interaction. So he can not easily lie his way out of it. Or set up an email account and be the other woman and catch his sneaky behind. And then confront him with the evidence. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-13 23:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was an anonymous id, then it could be 2 things- he was just being mischevious and wanted to see what it was like or he was up for some flirting and sex.
Considering he has his picture on, would mean that he wants his profile to be condsidered seriously by potential lovers.
U might have to confront him about it and get it in the open.
And then what comes of it will guide u towards ur next step.
2006-12-13 23:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by arwa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I just had this happen to me and I totally confronted my husband, drove 3 hours just to do it and threw the i.m. messages that I copied in his face along with my wedding ring. He was so surprised that I had found out and he was so sorry. There was only an exchange of phone numbers, they never met but it was a total betrayal. Sounds to me like trouble...he's looking for something. Trouble is you don't know if he's found it yet, or not.
Confrontation is of course the thing to do.
2006-12-13 23:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by chatterella 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not put your profile and a made up picture of your own on myspace. Send him messages etc. Catch the cheater at his own game!
2006-12-13 23:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Create a profile, and post a message saying that you interested... Put yourself down as being single and not wanting children, and want lots of hot sweaty dirty sex... Let your mind go wild - hell, get yourself really worked up and horny - and see what he has in mind!!! Then arrange to meet up, when you are going to be in the state, maybe late one evening, then see if your husband goes out, and then meet, and see what happens... Tell him you want those suggestions fulfilling... :D
2006-12-13 23:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is the female of the marriage here all i can suggest is simply ask him and no offense ok bc i dont no u but why would u thinking your husband would be on it inless u didnt trust him?
and another reason he may have single and not wanting to children is possibly bc perhaps he just hasnt had time to update his information on it
if it would help go back every once n awhile and go back and check it back out but only aftr u have discussed this with him
2006-12-13 23:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to confront him about this situation. Sounds like he isn't being total honest with you. You deserve better than that. How do you know he isn't talking to another female off myspace especially if he put that he was single and he's actually married.Do you two have any children together or have you discussed about having them? You need to think about what you are losing or what you are gaining in this marriage.
2006-12-13 23:13:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋