I am 25 and have a boyfren whom is 36, for one and a half year. All this while we have been loving, thou conflicts happens sometime. He is running a small electronic retail business and has to werk 7 days a week, we meet everyday, but only in the evening when he knocked off. Unlike a year ago he was keep thinking of commiting and get married with me.. I mean hinting me, but i always give excuses like i'm too young, things may happen and so on.. Right now I really feel like settling down and have a family, kids, watever u can think of being with a family, which I think he is not anymore.. Its obvious as in, i told him I hope to have a kid as soon, hope not to date longer, he was not young anymore.. but he wasn't giving me any commitments, nither does he says anything, well he would just put off with, keeping silent or "ok" for all the time. I just don't understand, what he is thinking, or why does a guy at this age still doesnt want to settle down and have a family
2006-12-13 22:44:09 · 8 answers · asked by ConfuseD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ARE YOU SURE THAT HE IS NOT HAVING OTHER PROBLEMS RIGHT NOW? THE REASONS FOR HIS BEHAVIUR COULD BE A LOT AND DIFFERENT. PROBLEMS AT WORK, PRESSURE, STRESS, OR EVEN THE WORST POSSIBLE- HE IS HAVING AN AFFAIR OR HE'S NOT THAT SURE THAT YOU ARE THE RIGHT WOMAN FOR HIM. BUT THOSE LAST TWO ARE THE WORST AND PROBABLY THE LEAST POSSIBLE. THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS TO TALK TO HIM ABOUT WHAT IS BOTHERING YOU! YOU HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR LONG TIME! AFTER ALL YOU ARE A TEAM AND YOU SHOULD DEAL WITH YOUR PROBLEMS TOGETHER. THAT'S THE ONLY WAY TO FIND OUT THE TRUTH. GUESSING OR DISCUSSING WITH FRIENDS OR ON ANSWERS WON'T HELP. IT MIGHT ONLY MAKE YOU FEEL MORE PARANOIC AND EVEN PANIC.
2006-12-13 23:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAS HE OR WASN'T HE? Unlike a year ago he was keep thinking of commiting and get married with me.. I mean hinting me, but i always give excuses like i'm too young, things may happen and so on.. SO HE DID THE RIGHT THING RIGHT??!!Right now I really feel like settling down and have a family, kids, watever u can think of being with a family, which I think he is not anymore..HOW CAN YOU SAY THAT???? HAVE YOU TOLD HIM THAT YOU HAVE A CHANGE OF MIND??? OR YOU X-PECT HIM TO READ YAHOO Q'S AND A'S...Its obvious as in, i told him I hope to have a kid as soon, hope not to date longer, he was not young anymore.. but he wasn't giving me any commitments, nither does he says anything,HEYYYYYYY YOU ARE THE ONE WHO TURNED HIM DOWN!!! well he would just put off with, keeping silent or "ok" for all the time. I just don't understand, what he is thinking,DO YOU X-PECT US TO TALK TO HIM??? or why does a guy at this age still doesnt want to settle down and have a family WHAT ARE YOU SMOKIN'???
2006-12-14 07:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by schuschtermat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If a guy has a had a bad relationship or marriage with another woman before you he might not want to be commited cause he'd be afraid he'd get hurt.
2006-12-14 06:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your bf may have been confused by your earlier reaction and sort of gave up on you. You will need to re-kindle his interest by bringing in new ways and venues to your love. Try going on vacation, or fancy restaurants, intimate talk, etc.
2006-12-14 06:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he already have a secret g/f, where you take for granted that he does not have one. Otherwise, he will not give you that sort of reply. Remember, he does proposed to you earlier, but you turn him down, so maybe he already get a better g/f ?
2006-12-14 07:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there is more going on. why only meet at night? does he already have a family?
2006-12-14 06:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by arim_namgaj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will not marry you
2006-12-14 06:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by akband 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him ,follow your heart
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2006-12-14 06:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by john doe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋