We are really in love and i would love to make it work but im not sure if he would do it again.I've never thought he would cheat before.He says she played him and he felt i didn't want him.He also got her pregnant(which i wanted to be)and she had an abortion.Any ideas on what i should do?
2006-12-13 22:36:24 · 16 answers · asked by Rachel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You would be a fool to take him back.....you trusted him...he violated that trust...it only gets easier the next time...and the next time ...and pretty soon you are in a cycle and another woman is pregnant and then he is supporting your family and hers....he will break your heart and how could you trust him again? Good luck
2006-12-13 22:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This was not an isolated incident - you have to do it several times to get someone pregnant. New relationships have a honeymoon period and when it wears off you are faced with the reality of what you did...that's what he has been through - if the honeymoon lasted forever he would not think twice about you. As for ideas on what to do - you need to have a break from him to think but it is likely to be the beginning of the end for that relationship.
2006-12-13 22:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard, once a cheat always a cheat? Once that trust is gone you never ever get it back. You will live a life of torture, if you stay with him, wondering if he is screwing around. I don't know what kind of person you are, but why put yourself threw, feeling hurt, mad, and ruining the person you once were for him. Please think long and hard about this.
2006-12-14 00:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by sapphire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away don`t look back and start a new better life. Is this really the first time he cheated? Or is it the first time he got caught because she got pregnant? You can do better. Run before he gives you Aids.
2006-12-13 22:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by bill a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were REALLY in love he wouldn't do that to you. I think you're the only one in love here sweetie cause he didn't even wore a condom!!!! That's your health we're talking about and he only thought of his on pleasure the selfish sob! You trusted him with your health, hopes and dreams e not only he crushed them now he wants to blame it on HER. You know the answer to this one, just leave now, no kids the divorce will be cleaner then you'll find a REAL MAN to be your husband and father of your children. Good Luck!
2006-12-13 22:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by Belladonna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please ignore the advice to leave him.
Take him back but set some conditions. Make him tell you why it happened, that it will never happen again and set up some guidelines for what happens if it ever does. If he is sorry and acts like it give him another chance. Everyone gets a second chance. No one gets three.
2006-12-13 23:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the two of you are really in love then why did he cheat?there is no answer to that except he is of bad character.You should forgive him but never forget,you should also leave him and find some one who believes in commitment as you do,he has too much baggage and you shouldn't have to start off a relationship with so much baggage.
2006-12-13 23:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to put some conditions on it, such as you both go to marriage counseling for at least 6-12 months to work out all this stuff. Then, he needs to be very accountable to you.
2006-12-13 23:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in this scenario you describe I would be very careful of having this cheater move in with you. Why do you want to torment yourself again---the very idea of him coming back into your life is setting of red flag signals in your brain----He cheated on you before what makes you think he won't do it again?
I would say to you take your time----what is the rush----you mention the affair was his 1st....has he had others?
Caution----is all I can tell you!
2006-12-13 23:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you can regain your trust for him yes, if not leave him. If they slept together only once that maybe forgivable. It depends on how much of a forgiving person you are. If my girlfriend cheated on me, I'd kick her to the curb especially if she got pregnant
2006-12-13 22:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋