Loving our children the most while they are still young is of course a necessity of nature..... but we continue to love them the most even after they are no longer dependent on us.
Parents who give so much love to their children get back very little .... in fact we do not even like to take care of them even in their oldage when they can do little without us.
2006-12-13 21:40:34 · 13 answers · asked by small 7 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Its the trend of the virtue called affection to flow downward thats why we love our children rather than our parents from whom we are born. This will happen when our children will be parents and neglect us.
2006-12-13 22:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by ailegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not true for everyone. Whether you take care of your parents when they can no longer take care of themselves or not is something you choose and decide. It depends on a lot of things. You can find people who are willing to risk and leave everything (including their jobs) to take care of their parents when they need them. But you'll also find people who choose to let others do it. Some even don't care. It depends on the individual himself.
Just like our parents loved us unconditionaly, we love our children. They are a part of us and we'll always love them even when they stop depending on us.
When we grow up, we try to get away from our parents and build our own lives and become independent. At this point, some prefer to get as far away as they can and cut almost every connection to their parents, and some will choose to keep these connections but within reason. I think that HERE we decide (unconsciously) how our relationship with our parents is going to be. That doesn't mean we can't change that as we get along. It's a choice and fortunately can be changed at any point.
Loving the people who gave birth to us is something we can't help changing. We love them for taking care of us and loving us unconditionaly (taking away the cases where parents weren't around / abused their children). Taking care of THEM is another issue.
2006-12-14 05:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that's the way it goes, they yell at you, and tell you things that they already know, when you are a kid, you think it's just B.S. to get you to do what they want you to do, then you hit 40 yrs old, and something miraculous happens... all of a sudden you realize, that in a very short amount of time, your parents all of a sudden got incredibly smart, like aliens came down or something, then they pass on, and you realize that they were right all along, and YOU were an IDIOT for NOT listening !
2006-12-14 05:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everybody feel this way, it depend on where do you live and how you were raised. Like for example in the Middle East in the Arab world , India, Pakistan, Iran and also China, the parent is taking care of because it's the circyle of life. They took care of us when we were little and couldn't take care of ourselves , and now we take care of them when they get old and can't take care of themselves. Hopfully our kids do the same to us and their kids do that to them. Can see the picture now? That's what suppose to be happening.
2006-12-14 05:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by Ket-koot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because the focus has been on the giving of birth, some parents have said, I gave you life; therefore you are mine to do with as i will. and we being of life unlike parent thinking, we struggle to grasp the concept of a relationship between the giver and the gift, and thus, if I am the gift why then am i not treated as special.
2006-12-14 06:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by Conway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the time we understand and realise it is generally too late to love the parents, so the children get the share of their grandparents also.
2006-12-14 05:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Meeto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nurturing Instinct.
2006-12-14 07:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by Vaakshri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It comes down to making sure our offspring grow and produce, thus the successful perpetuation of our species.
It's a forward perspective, not one that looks over our shoulder.
Evolutionary instincts are concerned with reproduction and survival. It is not as important if OUR parents survive, as long as the seeds continue to produce forward.
2006-12-14 06:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by quay_grl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We should love our parents as well as our children.
Try to teach the same thing to your children and show them that you are loving your parents.
The way the elders show, the children follow.
If your parents didn't love their parents, then naturally you won't love yours.
2006-12-14 06:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by toknowmore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the Scriptures, it was generally the thing to do.... to rear up children, and when the children have become adults, they rear up their parents, and when the adult children have become senior citizens, their children will rear them up.
So, it was, the cycle of life......
but, in today's society, we put our senior citizens in group homes so as not to deal with the problems associated with aging and ailments..... We don't want to deal with it.....
They bother us, now, because they are adult children..... Not as little children, but grown children...... and it is too much to bare for some....
Your sister,
Ginger
2006-12-14 06:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋