My wife believes that even though I love her very much I will love the second wife more because of her children. She tells me that is what any man will do under the circumstance, but I don't think so. I love my wife for so many things but I am under intense pressure from my parents and sisters to get a child. I am from a polygamous setting anyway, but my fear is that I don't want anyone to snatch me from my wife. I am confused!
2006-12-13 21:00:33 · 16 answers · asked by blackjack 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In this day and age there are so many ways to have a baby it does not have to be the old fashion way. There is introvetrois dint know if I spelled it right but that is where they take your sperm and put it with an egg and then after it is fertilized implant it in your wife's uterus. And that is only one way what about adoption? If you do not want to leave your wife tell her so and tell your mother and sister to mind there own business. There are so many ways to make this work. Get an appointment with your doctor and take here with you and talk to them about it. There is no reason to end your marriage over this be smart about it. Don't be confused take the bull by the horn and go to the doctor and work this out. Good Luck on your decision but if you want you wife do not listen to other family members. Listen to your heart it will always lead you in the right direction.
2006-12-13 23:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by Virginia B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get your act together and get your priorities straight. you say... " but I am under intense pressure from my parents and sisters to get a child" . is this the reason you are marrying the second time?? i think you dont have a back bone.
You cant have the cake and eat it - friend. deep inside your first wife will be hurt you let her down. thats a fact!
she probably is telling you to marry again because she can sees you jumping around like a jelly fish each time your mother and sister speak to you. she cares for you so much she wants you to be Ok and feels she is the caouse for all this.
if you want children because it's going to make you happy - go ahead with it.
but be ready to have one deeply hurt first wife, a second i dont know what type of wife, lots of children and of course not forgetting the mother and sisters behind your back- cheering i suppose!!!! and live happily ever after.
have empathy. that , means "what if you couldnt have children and your wife does this to you"??
2006-12-13 21:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could just get that second wife to have a child and then once she's knocked up ignore the second on, maybe get the second one to do the housework and raise the kid and then have fun with the first wife. She's the one you love. The other one can be like your maid/nanny/cook.
2006-12-13 21:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually, as our social and sexual perceptive evolve, and the pee pee, doo doo bible bangers loose their social purchase, there will certainly be more bi-sexual experimental behavior in the Western world. The taboo and the severe social sanctions for same-sex erotic conduct are demonstrably weakening, and so more people who are normally hetero in their orientation are slipping across to feel that side of themselves expressed. It's not housewives alone, it's college room mates, volunteer workers, social friends or golf partners. What seems to be basic is the oft-stated truth that nearly all human beings are neither homosexual nor heterosexual; they are just sexual with a biological and conditioned proclivity one way or the other. When someone, as your wife, after years of conventional activity, steps through the veil to this totally new and exciting dimension of themselves they are likely to find it more absorbing than "the same old thing" and sometimes to become obsessed with the partner. Not infrequently, the marriage partner winds up excluded and even divorce occures for married partners experiencing this. Among my friends, two lost their wives and their marriages to this sort of experimental activities. Ask any psychotherapist for a confirmation of this.
2016-05-24 00:55:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom married my dad cos his first wife had just one son and her womb was removed afterwards.
my mom is a very good woman and so is my step mom, infact i love my step mom so much that i can't stand seeing her in pains.
they lived together in harmony until my mom seperated from my dad on religious basis.
it's a very difficult situation,but the decision is yours to make.
i dont think its the right thing to do,i know every right thinking man or woman want to carry their own children,No matter how long you've waited, there's nothing God cannot do.Adoption is another thing you may choose to consider,i know its a difficult choice,but dont let your people push you too hard. They are not God.
i've come to realize that only God gives children.
Even my mom after she got married to my dad though as a virgin girl, had to wait for some years before the children could come.
Marring another wife is not a guarantee that the babies must come now.
Recieve wisdom and may God prove Himself Mighty on your behalf.
Amen.
2006-12-13 21:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by lace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you got advice from your doctor? Try speaking with your doctor and see what kind of options you have. Artificial Insemmination and the like.. And since you love your wife very much, i think you should not bother about your family members too much. It's you and your wife now, i think it would be unfair for her, juz imagine how hurt she really is, when she told you to get married to another woman. Feel her pain, every woman would want to be a mother... I really feel for you. My prayers are with you and your wife. Take care and please stand by your wife.
2006-12-13 21:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by sabrewilde666 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good god!!! Dont leave your wife because of this!! Shes saying these things to you because she feels awful and she wants to be reassured. Ever heard of adoption? Did you marry your wife for her or for her eggs?? Seriously if you are considering this shes too good for you anyway...
sry for the harshness... just honesty
2006-12-13 21:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by Christines256 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you look into adoption or a surrogate mother?
There are other ways in having a child.
I wouldn't marry someone else, not if I loved my spouse and it's your life not the life of your family.
2006-12-13 21:19:00 · answer #8 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!!!! If you love your wife that much, having a child will not make a difference.
2006-12-13 21:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you wont have to worry about a woman snatching you from your wife. the cops will
2006-12-13 21:30:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋