My boyfriend wants to try it with his friend but I think it may make things awkward after. His friend is quite cute though. Should I do it?
2006-12-13 20:42:02 · 21 answers · asked by Smarty Pants 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex partner manipulated his best mate into springing a suprise threesome on me. It was quite enjoyable and interesting but the after effects are not worth going there for. In fact during the threesome, my ex got stage fright and couldn't keep it up and became more jealous of his mate having a larger penis as well as an erection.
All in all, in the long run... I got accused of having an affair with the guy when I had never done anything other then what my ex had organised, my ex lost a great mate and needless to say... it was an obvious factor in the demise of our relationship, so by all means avoid the long term torture.
2006-12-14 00:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by aingelic1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to do it?
Have you and your boyfriend thoroughly talked through the experience and how it would or could effect your relations afterward? How about with his friend?
Allot of people think about swinging (yes, a threesome is technically "swinging"), but not all of them do it. In fact in the Playboy sex survey last year 40% of respondents (both male and female) listed a threesome (genders involved were not mentioned) as their number one fantasy. However, only 20% of all the survey respondents had ever been involved in a threesome.
For many, the fantasy is better than the reality may be for them. Others can handle it.
Why did your boyfriend bring it up? What is his fantasy? What is yours? If you could map-out beforehand what would happen, what would it be? Is it the same or similar to his perfect scenario? Are you both okay with the other's scenario if your's doesn't happen.
Basically a threesome is a couple and a third. Anything a couple does must be for the couple's benefit. If it doesn't work for either of you, than it doesn't work for both of you as a couple. Make sense?
It comes down to how mature all three of you are. Can your boyfriend handle you having sex with another guy? Is he the jealous sort? If he is okay with you having sex with another guy, would you be okay with the reversed situation where he is having sex with another girl. How is the friend going to react afterward? Is it going to be weird between your boyfriend and him? Does he understand that even though he gets to have sex with you in this situation that it doesn't give him free access to you (like you are his girlfriend) anytime he wants after that?
Can all of you handle anything that might come up afterward that you haven't thought of?
A source for some good, objective information about swinging is The Swingers Board (link below). Read the info at the link then talk, talk, talk. If all is still good after talking it through, than chances are you'll have a great time and there will be no drama.
Good luck, and most of all, have fun.
2006-12-14 05:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might be a curiosity thing but if your boyfriend is willing to share you then maybe he doesn't adore you the way you deserve. If you plan on having his friend be around after the fact it could be quite awkward and also there is a risk you will like him better which would open another can of worms...Overall I don't think it is such a good idea.
2006-12-13 20:54:59 · answer #3 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It might cause problems if you end up doing it with a guy who is a friend because things might be weird afterwards. I have friends who have done this before and everything was fine after. It just really depends on the strength of the relationship with your man. Just don't look like you are enjoying his friend too much!
2006-12-13 21:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by Smart_ca_latina 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
define threesome. no longer distinctive men accessible prefer to be in 3 techniques with their spouse/female chum/different with yet another guy. there is an threat to get a threeway along with her and easily some different guy or if she swings that way her and yet another female. i would not difficulty attempting to get along with her and her husband even with the undeniable fact that.
2016-12-30 09:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO sorry can't say l have or ever would for that matter !! Each to his own l guess. It's unusual that a guy would want another guy involved, you would think he would prefer another girl. Are you sure there's not something he's forgotten to tell you ?? Like about his sexuality !!!
2006-12-13 21:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as neither of you get jeaolus if you make it clear to everyone should not be a problem sometimes you got to go with what life offers and if it dont work out you have great memories i d go4it oh how will you feel when he wants one of your girl friends as the third person
2006-12-14 08:29:23 · answer #7 · answered by ariesfunram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a few. Is your boyfriend's friend a guy or a girl? If it's a girl, I would say, don't do it. You'll always wonder why he choose her. If it's a guy, then it's up to you... do you want to try that?
2006-12-14 07:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rule # 1 never do it with a friend because its awkward after #2 do it with someone who leave town some you dont know or run in to have fun
2006-12-13 20:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have done both combo's of 3somes, couple swapping, and group action. All are very different and fun in their own way. You will never know what's it's like until you try it. GO FOR IT!!!
2006-12-13 21:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by Married Male 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋