I love Females and respect them, yet Im so shy!!?

Question

I see friends and others that are out of shape with girls. I am not poor, and in fact both my parents are doctors. Yet I can only get close to a nice girl with booze, and I know ladies hate boozers. The Booze makes me very relaxed, but if rejected, I insult the woman or women, as my self esteem is so low. I not a ladie's man, but a 28 year old who has never in his life had a girlfriend makes me so depressed and suicidal. I work out, I eat well , and I drive fancy cars. Please help girl and ladies. Have woman turned only materialistic. I have 3 sisters and have learned that gold digging is good and looks are tops as well. I appreciate your help, but I don't want to become gay, even though I accept gay men and other religions,and races as my brothers.

Answer 1

Please read until the end.
You don't have to react like this. It's not your fault that you met only women who are bad persons. I bet you're not the only one who goes through that. I'm a shy person too. Sometimes too shy.
Being rejected doesn't have to make you want to get involved with men God condemns homosexuality - What! Do YOU not know that unrighteous persons will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be misled. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men kept for unnatural purposes, nor men who LIE with men,.... will inherit God’s kingdom" - 1Cor. 6:9,10). You probably need affection but don't go that far. How do you know that's going to make you happy.
You didn't ask in the right place. Many people who will answer you won't give good advices.
My advice is to pray to God for hep and strength and to look somewhere else. It's true that most of the people from nowadays are materialistic but you should know there are exceptions.
And be more sure of yourself. Here are a few advices:
First of all, stop worrying about whether the other person is evaluating you. He is probably too busy thinking of himself and what he will say and do. And if that person childishly pokes fun at you, understand that he has the problem. “He who belittles his neighbor lacks sense.” (Proverbs 11:12,) Those who are worth having as friends will judge not by outward appearances but by the kind of person you are.

Also, try to think positively. No one is perfect; all of us have our strengths and our weaknesses. Remember, there are different ways of looking at things, different likes and dislikes. A difference of opinion does not mean a rejection of you as a person.

Learn also to judge others fairly. One formerly shy young man says: “I discovered two things about myself . . . First, I was too self-centered. I was thinking too much about myself, worrying about what people thought of what I said. Second, I was assigning bad motives to the other persons—not trusting them and thinking they were going to look down on me.”

So learn to be sociable—to say hello and start a conversation. It can be as simple as a comment on the weather. Remember: You have only 50 percent of the responsibility. The other half is up to the other person. If you blunder in speech, don’t feel condemned. If others laugh, learn to laugh with them. Saying “That didn’t come out right” will help you to relax and continue with the conversation.

Dress comfortably, but make sure that your clothes are clean and pressed. Feeling that you are looking your best will minimize apprehension in this regard and enable you to concentrate on the conversation at hand. Stand straight—yet be at ease. Look pleasant and smile. Maintain friendly eye contact and nod or verbally acknowledge what the other person says.

I hope that I was useful. God bless you.

Answer 2

I'll start this answer with a correction for you, RESPECT is not for females other than your own mother. (No, I don't mean total disrespect, just don't be too nice that's all, have your own mind, if you think it's correct to do something you like, and you know it would hurt some females, just tell them.)

Now, I will answer your question:
First and most importantly, you need to change your self-esteem and improve your confident. There's nothing wrong about being shy but if you're shy, you'd be passing the chances to meet women. Therefore to increase your confident, you need to start making a move out there. A very good way to start is the internet, practice on the gals. A very good tips is would be to imagine yourself as a naughty little boy during your childhood year, which we all know so well that the little boy always make fun of the girls and all. Try it on those girls.

When you are used to the "naughty" behaviour, start calling people out, be it male or female friends who you're able to JOKES AND HAVE FUN WITH. Go to a tea break, (preferably somewhere with a hot waitress), and started discussing about girls. When you're around your friends, I am sure you'd be more comfortable joking around. To experiment how well you have learn the "naughty" thing, try to dare your friends to play with the waitress (or waiter if there are girls with you), and OBSERVE how they playfully have fun with the waiter(ess). Try it out yourself later when you're alone, maybe in a book store or whatever. This will improve your self-esteem slowly.

The key to success is to keep practicing, you might fail, but just think of it as a card game. When you lost, you only get rejected, you've got nothing to lose.
I've gotta point it out to you that your only problem is your LOW SELF-ESTEEM, when you managed to improve it, all your problem would be gone. Trust me.

Oh, by the way, eye contacts and body languages is very important here, too. Staring into the eyes of the girls with a smile all the time, make them shy. And make fun of them when it's suitable, they love it.

Answer 3

Besides the obvious, you are completely self centered, you apparently don't like yourself very much. For all the advantages you have, you are a very poor man. No where in your post do you talk about what you have contributed, only what was given to you. Perhaps you should look at making something of yourself and you wouldn't be so bored and pitiful. No woman wants someone who believes a good man is someone who has money, looks good and drives a fancy car. And for that matter, no man does either.

I would suggest you pick a career that involves helping other people, and put all that angst into saving yourself from a drunken, lonely wasted future.

Good luck to you.

Answer 4

When you like someone you act in the opposite way towards them. He doesn't like you... believe me. For some odd reason I have had people like this boy always try to ask me out. But I said no. I had a reputation of respecting myself, therefore people respected me. Trust me. Respect yourself. People may call you names, but you can turn it back on them.... "at least I know i'm not swimming with some STIS or something" that would embarrass the **** out of them. Trust me you'll get the upper hand, and later on you can choose what boy you want, instead of the other way round. You should do more than distance yourself. Show that you don't like him. This acts operant conditioning- it acts as a form of punishment- it will send a message that his behaviour is not appropriate and he will change. DON'T VERBALLY SAY IT. Punish his behaviour through your behaviour not words Btw he doesn't see you as a friend although he says it. Boys like him don't know the meaning. I've seen many fools fall for people like him. I don't wish this for you. He brags about his conquests. Your just another win, and a 'thing' to brag about. Don't price yourself low. Please

Answer 5

not all of us are goldiggers, me i was looking for fun, any1 who was cute and a laugh had me hooked, then i met my man, at the time he worked in a recycling place and got covered in filth a lot, i met him in a pub, friends of friends yno. it took lots of hard work for us to get together properly, cos we r both hideously shy, but we been together almost nine months now and we r so happy.
i was **** with guys before him to, i had about 4 different guys i was "seeing" i didnt want to choose and none of them were worth it really, till him.
you'll find 1 wholl like you for you, but if you cant wait ill give some tips.
1. cut back on the booze, just a little, like if you meet a nice girl, make sure your not slaughtered,
2. if she refuses point blank, apologise be nice, if she seems kind of into you but still refuses offer your number if she changes her mind.
3. if she says yes buy her a drink, but you drink slowly, talk about her not you, unless she asks, then only talk a little, focus on her.
4. if your still talking at the end of the night swap numbers and give her a kiss, dont go home together, ok. good luck

Answer 6

i was shy when i was young.when i was young;it was popular to be stoned,wired drunk. etc... i was a human test tube.now i can't stop of course. talk about depression...
they wont just drop to their knees at the mension of riches.well... some will.
dude. getting shot down is part of it. "wit" is the weapon of choice for me. tactics helps. but all in all ya just gotta put yer best set of testicals on and get that rejection and put it in your mind like a trophy.obviously they like to laugh. they like originality. for example my latest thing is mercy...
" hi my name is tom .i havent been laid in 5 years .look at my hands.(i'm a mechanic)theyre like concrete(they are)i cant even do my self er i'll have to go get stitches.i dont know why but talking sh_it like that gets their attention,makes em smile.i imagine some feel sympathy. thats off the top of my head. i think i'll be using it lateri'm 48 years old now. i'm in excellent shape blue eyes but they just dont want me like when i was young.dammmmmit! :-{D. i did'nt come into mine till i was right about your age.rejection...hey man .!thats fun!suicide? dont be a puss. you gotta get your head on right. go at them with patience. be a friend.theres all kinsa females out there you cant get to know em without trying. i've been on one "date".but i cant tell you how many gals i been with dates suck. my favorite place to meet girls is the laundromat.it's public, but they can see your underwear.or lack thereof .yes i'm a proud nonwearer.i can be.besides i dont like my boys uncomfortable.you r in the laundry.you can see what they wash. if they are washing pants that you could step into one leg and run. ..ya might not want to go there. i hope this helps you work it out. if it aint fun ... do something/one else. and dont be a puss !easydoesit.ok?

Answer 7

Firstly, if you're serious, then stop demeaning women in all of your answers and calling them gold-diggers.

Secondly, you sound like Borat. I haven't seen the movie yet but I could swear this is all something he'd say.

How'd I do?

Answer 8

Wow--you have never had a girlfriend? So why does one of your other questions ask "Why is my girlfriend allergic to sperm?"

Answer 9

Ask you sisters to help you.

Answer 10

you need therapy.