My boyfriend broke up with me two weeks ago and said he wanted to stay friends.i decided to give it a try but am having a hard time doing this for i still have feelings for him even through he has none for me anymore. I don't know if it is possible or even how much longer i can keep being only friends yet i would hate to lose him entirely.
2006-12-13 19:40:51 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is possible but not when one has strong feelings for the other still. You have to give it some time first.
Tell him you don't want to lose him altogether but you need time to heal first and when you are ready, you will call him.
2006-12-13 21:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oxytocin, the female hormone for physical bonding will not allow you to simply go back to being "friends" with a male lover who is not longer interested in being with you. He has moved on and in his attempt to soften the "blow" of complete separation, may have suggested that you stay "friends". However, that is not possible. What kind of friendship can you have if his feelings for you have changed or gone away? Why would he even want you in his life to remind him of a failed relationship?
You are going to be hurt seeing him in a romantic relationship with someone new and if he is really concerned about your feelings, he will not let that happen right away. You have already lost each other. It is not good for you to try to hold on to the past by trying to be his friend. You must also MOVE ON. Best wishes.
2006-12-13 20:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! dont u hate when guys tell u that after they break up with u. like thats even possible,lol! yea it is hard to be friends with someone especially since u guys were in love, but what u need to do is keep him at a distance and hang out with ur girls. But stay away from romantic movies and love songs bcuz that only makes it worse. If that does not work try getting involved with something that really interests u
2006-12-13 19:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by superstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl give urself time- get over him and then see what is it that u want, if u sitll wnan be frends then go ahead, but now that u ar so vulnerable ..it isnt the best thing to do.
and what makes u think dat being frends means he is gonna be in tuch with as much he is now? i mean even that cud fade away.
he broke up with u so its easy for him to feel less guilty by offerin a hand of frendship.
take ur time , when u are stronger , decide what u wanna do...bythen u may have found urself a friend and /or lover fr keeps!!
2006-12-13 20:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jinx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think only if you keep the friendship on a very simply level. Once you get too close, there is a grey area where you have to ask yourself, who's your best friend, your ex or your current lover? Your best friend should always be your lover, anyone else, including ex's should be secondary friends that don't come close to the bond you have with the one your with.
2006-12-13 19:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should distance yourself from him. How are you suppose to move on if you still see him? Not a chance! Being his friend is only giving you hopes that are not even there to begin with. It sounds like ex has moved on maybe you should too.
2006-12-13 19:44:25 · answer #6 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you can still be friends. everything might be weird for the first month or so but after you get past the weird feeling of being around them then you can. one of my exs is my best friend now. it didnt start out that way right after we broke up but breaking up shouldnt end a good friendship
2006-12-13 19:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by scusoccer123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please do not listen to anyone who says that its okay. ex's are called ex for a reason, when you remain friends thats just saying im not over you, i still have feelings for you, thats keeping the door open for trouble, he wont be able to have complete comfort with new relationships if youre in the picture and the new gf might not like it either same goes for you...you guys owe it to urselves to just let go, once you get over eachother then yall can be cool, but friendship involves intimacy and bonding which is nothing but problems for ex's
2006-12-13 19:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by cherrybc032000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u have feeling for him then don't be friend with him because down the road he will find another girl and if u are still friend with him and by that time if u still hae feelings for him u will hurt badly. Is better to just not be friend.
2006-12-13 19:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't think so until I recently became friends, (hated him for a long time for the things that happened in our marriage) with my ex husband. Its about moving on.
2006-12-13 20:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by emtb9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋