and i asked him if he would ever want one he said no but later in the future he might. then when i got all mad he changed it and tried to say he never said it. i dont know how to feel about that i mean it hurts to know that he feels that way but i know being married can get boring. the way i feel now is i want a divorce b/c he has alreadyt admitted the future. ifeel like my life is over do u think im overreacting what can i do in this situation?
2006-12-13 19:32:15 · 20 answers · asked by skhy47 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have got to be kidding, why are you even going to talk about a subject that is going to cause you to have these feelings towards your Husband?? Your Husband is a man right and a threesome is nearly EVERY mans dream, that just goes without saying but it does not mean that every man gets to act out this fantasy, you should just relax!
2006-12-13 19:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by nkkidw040602 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Threesomes are a very tricky subject and remember you brought the this on by asking him the question. Your husband seemed he was very honest with you which ime sure you appreciate. Alot of men like the idea of threesomes its not that you are not good enough for him, men just seem to find these things exciting. Also remember your husband did not say " i definatly want one in the future" he said he might want one. Now nobody knows what will happen in the future so don't hold this against him. I think you are over reacting a little and to want a divorce over this seems a little over the top. At the end of the day you asked your husband a question and he answered you honestly. maybe you should also ask him "if you are against the idea and refused would it bother him" and ime sure the answer would be that he loves you and wouldnt ever ask you to do something you didnt like. Come on we all know men get excited about things sometimes, ime sure all men think about thresomes at some point even if its jsut innocent thoughts.
Take Care and don't worry to much. Ime sure you husband loves you and didnt mean to upset you with his answer.
2006-12-14 03:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say; take a deep breath and relax. You were the one who asked the question, then got mad over his answer. That's not really fair now is it? It might help to recognize that most normal men fantasize about sex with other partners. He's probably thinking that he should have just lied, where because he shared his fantasy, he is now being penalized. Doesn't he get some credit for admitting a natural truth? So, instead of being hurt and thinking divorce, maybe view your life as starting anew each day. It is a matter of mind-set and attitude. Try not to take life so seriously and retain your sense of humor. Life is just too short. Once you've collected your thoughts and the time is right, explain that you over reacted to his acknowledging that a threesome might one day be something he might entertain. Then ask the same question again, but this time be willing to accept his honest answer with sincere appreciation. Would he like a threesome? If he says yes, then I suggest you consider granting his request, provided you are the one to choose the other woman. If you think about it...might it not bring something erotic back to both of you? Have you ever been touched by another female? You actually might enjoy it too!
2006-12-14 04:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're definately overreacting. Men see sex as physical, so to him IF he ever wanted to have a three-some it wouldn't be about rejecting you. I don't think a three-some will help any relationship. It's common for men to have a fantasy like this but that's just it. It's a fantasy and doesn't mean he will act on it. And if he asks in the future say no. I don't believe a GOOD man will leave a woman because she didn't agree to one. You don't throw away a marriage because of a curiosity or because his sexual fantasies may not match yours. If you fear he's bored mix it up a little, get clever, romantic, playful. If you were to divorce over a statement he made then expect to get divorced a lot.
2006-12-14 03:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What man would not want a three way ... and who said it has to be with another girl dear ??
I dont know where you stand on the prude scale but ALL women should experiance it at least once in there life ..
I have and it was mindblowing
Stop over reacting and sit down and THINK about it .. even with another woman .. you go out of town .. pick a nice hotel and have fun .. go in as a couple and walk out as a couple ...
You take the lead and your husband will be forever cherishing YOU not the ones that YOU have chosen
and remember you brought it up to him SO deep down I would assume you are wanting to seek the thrills of a three way .. you just have not admitted it to yourself ..
All the best .. have FUN as a couple .. and practice safe sex while your doing it
2006-12-14 03:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why were you asking him in the first place? Maybe he thought that you would want to have one so he was saying he may want one in the future, to let you know he would be up for it. But if that was not the case, I think you are overreacting just a bit. If in the future, he wants one and you don't and he can't accept that, then I would think about getting a divorce.
2006-12-14 03:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So,how's testing ho! ! this could get vary Froidian, Some one brought the subject up ,and some one enlarged on it . If nither of you said lets drop the subject right from the start, Your bouth at least are thinking about it . but that dosen't meen ither will act on it !!, And it's good too bouth , think ,of all the posibileties. If you didn't won't to know, why ask too start with ?????
2006-12-14 04:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by cornelius p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to be kidding. What man wouldn't want a threesome? (as long as the 3rd person isn't a guy of course). It is totally wrong to make someone think they have the space to fantasize, and then hold it against them. Hell, I have thought about what it would be like to do that but it doesn't mean I'm going to out and do it tomorrow. Fantasies are supposed to be fun, making someone feel bad about theirs is totally lame.
2006-12-14 03:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by Smart_ca_latina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, ur overreacting. u were in an honest discussion with ur husband and communication is the key to marriage. u asked him a question and u got an honest answer. now that u know his fantasy, tell him one of urs.
2006-12-14 08:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop overreaacting for something stupid that came out of your husbands mouth. Men love sex so of couse something stupid is going to come out of his mouth. Its not like you guys did it already. It was just a question so don't stress about it too much. You guys know if the time came you probably wouldn't do it anyway.
2006-12-14 03:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋