I have a hubby, 3 kids and school and work?

Question

I want to scream.pull my hair out, run, holla, you name it I feel it right now. What are some TRUE sanity tips, stress reliver that really work!

Answer 1

Each of which you have chosen. So, move into acceptance. These are the consequences of choices you made long ago. And you continue because you truly feel what's at the other end is better than alternatives (such as divorce, quitting school or work, abandoning the kids). Work on yourself, learn to honor yourself. You are fantastic, do you realize that? Look at what you're doing. This is truly great. You are superwoman, supermom. Honor yourself. I stand in awe of you. Your energy must be tremendous. Your goals are ambitious. Keep at it and celebrate yourself for the great and wonderful person you are. You are my role model.

Answer 2

Too much to do in so little time-

Pull to the left and pull to the right, you seem to have yourself stretched too thin with no room to breathe.

It's time to prioritize your life.

According to your list, you have mention them in the following order:

Husband-
Kids-
School-
Work -

And guess what else you forgot to mention? ????? ????

YOURSELF -
When are you going to make some time for yourself? You are always there for everyone and everything else. But when was the last time you made some time for YOU?

How do you think you're going to get the energy to continue to do all those things you've mentioned above? Want some relief?

Start building a support system. See the examples below:

Husband - ask him to help you with your kids so you can work on school

Kids - spend a few dollars and hire a babysitter or family member so you can spend some quality time with your husband

School - stay organized and seek help from a tutor if need one. But do your home work as assigned and take your breaks when you have one. Don't procrasinate! This will force you to cut into the time you have available to do the other things on your list

Work - well that's what all of this is about - work, work, work.
Get plenty of rest each night, take your breaks at work, (not doing home work) When you leave from work, leave it behind, do not bring it home.

But most of all, take some time out just for you.

No hubby
No kids
No work
No school

Be selfish every now and then and take care of yourself. dedicate 1 hour a day where you do nothing, but something that you totally enjoy dong. That's 7 hours a week ( a full working day)

Can you breathe now?

Answer 3

Whew! You've got me wanting to do the same just thinking about your question!

I had 4 kids, an abusive husband and a horrible boss at work.(Thank God I wasn't in school). I was so stressed out it was unbelievable. The only thing I could do is just get everybody in bed and play Nintendo games. This was back in the 80's and I know you don't have time for that right now but it will get better eventually... Sometimes just taking about 15 minutes to just sit in a secluded area...the bathroom??? (that's the only place I could find and still the kids tried to come in), and just close your eyes and think of a wonderful place you would like to be at. You can go anywhere in your mind...just take about 3 relaxing breaths and feel the stress leave your body. Then you can get up and start back on your homework, housework and everything else you have to do.

Answer 4

A set schedule is definitely a great idea for you!! For instance, 4 o'clock is designated homework hour, for you and the Children
5-530ish can be time for preparing supper 6 eat 7 get the kids washed up and ready for bed then after that the children can have a little free time for reading, watching TV, playing video games etc. etc. have a designated bed-time for the children then give yourself a little bit of time to wind down and perhaps finish up any homework that you have left, then go to bed and do it all over again lol, sounds like a viscous cycle doesn't it? Well anyways, things will get better/easier for you, also don't be afraid to ask for help!!

Answer 5

Best thing you can do is see if you can get someone to watch your kids to help give you a break.
Depending on how old the kids are they might be able to help with some of the house work.
IF you know your not going to be driving, then allow yourself one glass of wine. It's just enough to get the edge off.
Don't be afraid to ask your friends or family for help! Be it with the kids, housework etc.

Hope this helps. I have been there and done that. Thank-goodness for my mother. If if wasn't for her I think I would have had a mental breakdown.

Answer 6

You sounded stressed out. Lady, you need a break or you will have a breakdown.
Speak to your husband, sent your kids to a family member and go for a short holiday ( min 5 days).
You will surely feel better and your family will also benefit.

Good Luck

Answer 7

Take a day off and left the kids to your husband. Go wherever you want and make sure they can reach you and most important, you don't call them either.

Answer 8

take a day off. make ur hubby or mother or exc watch the kids and u go out to eat,a spa,hang with gurl friends and relax.

Answer 9

Honey...listen up!
I have a terminally sick husband, 3 demanding kids, taking my degree in BSc for 3 years, a 3 year old grandchild and work...!

Imagine my stress........!!!!!

and still I am here answering question..what you need is time management and alot alot alot of patience..and it will work well!!!

Answer 10

exercise, another thing which works for me is to do voluntary work, but o don't know if you have time, but you can try doing voluntary work together with your husband or you kids if your kids are old enough.