I was wondering if your spouse has cheated on you three times, well dont get me wrong i have done it in the past, and we both decide to move away from the drama, so anyways the point of my question is, would you ask your spouse to sign a piece of paper stating, if either spouse cheat they that would let the other have full custody of the child? do you think this is fair? My other question is would you move back to the area, that caused the cheating over a job, that was more money?
2006-12-13 18:50:59 · 11 answers · asked by endless_eternity_forever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't believe that you are seriously considering "giving" your children to one spouse over the other just because they were cheated on. That situation should have nothing to do with the custody of your Children, they should go to the parent that is capable of providing them with what they need the most.
Honey, a job has absolutely nothing to do with a person cheating. A person cheats for reasons completely unknown no matter where you are you have to work you can't just not want the person to not work because they cheated last time they were working that's completely absurd!
Lastly, if you need the other person to sign a piece of paper stating that if they cheat they will lose their children you guys seriously have some trust issues and I would suggest counseling for both of you!
2006-12-13 19:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by nkkidw040602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No deal-
I wouldn't sing a paper that would decide the custody rights of my child. I personally don't think my cheating or her cheating has anything to do with either one of our ability as a parent. The true war would be between me and my wife.
If you suspect your mate of cheating or even have a hunch that they will cheat, then why even stay with them? Where's the trust?
Your last question is not clear enough, please indicate who the cheater is and who is doing the (moving).
2006-12-14 03:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is based on trust. But a successful relationship also requires two people who feel comfortable with themselves. Do you feel comfortable with yourself? Do you honor yourself by how you act in the relationship? AS to children, be reasonable...each child has two parents as long as the three of them are alive. Signed papers won't change that. If parents separate they MUST cooperate for the benefit of the child(ren). Children need cooperating parents. If parents want to fight, don't use the kid(s). Areas don't "cause" cheating. Honor yourself by how you conduct yourself. If you want to "cheat", get a divorce and live like a single person. If you want a relationship, honor yourself by your choice of partner and honor your partner by honoring yourself.
2006-12-14 02:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the child custody agreement seems like a good idea to me especially if both parties are at fault of infidelity. would i move back to the area that lead to the cheating???? no. if you are truly dedicated to saving your marriage it wouldn't be a good idea to go back into the lions den.
good luck. i am in a similar position.
2006-12-14 03:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving back will destroy ypur relationship and cause nothing but mistrust. Is money more important than your marriage? Secondly, that piece of paper would be worthless in a court so is a waste of time. If you have no faith and trust your relationship is doomed.
2006-12-14 02:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. It is not a good idea to use a child as collateral... it is bad enough for the child that their parents are not together... it would be far worse for one parent to have more "leverage" over the child than the other parent. I do not understand the second question.
2006-12-14 02:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by Doron 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can sign what you want. Obviously your word and your spouses word doesn't mean ANYTHING. Go ahead get the signature, see how far it gets you. You both deserve each other. NASTY!
2006-12-14 02:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
since you are both serial cheaters why don't you both stay togther and have an open relationship and that way you can both be happy as you both are as bad as each other for being unfaithful
2006-12-14 03:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by shellhiggs07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Do either of yoiu have a real job? I call B.S. on this question!!
2006-12-14 03:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by boredperv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good move .
2006-12-14 02:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋