This was a 3 year relationship. Things were rocky at the end,he told me he had been approched at work and he felt there was some interest there and he did not want to hurt me like I was hurt before. I told him if there was interst then we did not need to be together.We both (to my surprize) decided to be friends. Right after this he slept with his ex-wife who is having a baby now.They are not together and she does not want to be with him, all she wanted was a baby. My heart is sick. I know we were not really together, but I can't turn off my feelings. We have spoken a few times and he said he knows he has lost the best woman he has ever had and dosen't want me out of his life. I am so confused, I feel I would be better off alone, than with someone that could do this to me.
2006-12-13 18:50:54 · 20 answers · asked by lost in luv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the right thing to do is to walk away.. and u already know that..
but the question is, can you???
I know it is very difficult to do so.. but u can atleast try :)
wish you best of luck
2006-12-13 19:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Deema 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry things turned out the way the did. u probably still love him even after ur decision to be friends, maybe dat is why u feel cheated. feelings cant be turned on or off as and when we want. give urself some time to get over the guy, even if dat requires u to no be friends with him for awhile. after u feel and think u are fine, evaluate the various aspects - like do u wanna be in tuch with him and how much if yes, is the relationship gonna rekindle romance again, will u be haunted by what has happened, then? will u be troubled by it - if ur answer is yes.. then have every right to stay away from this guy.
he is probably feeling lonely and guilty abt what has happend and that is why wants u to at least stand by him.
but u really dont need dat, coz u dont seem to have faltered anywhere - u seem like a really nice person.. dont get bogged down by what he is saying. focus on ur feelings!!
2006-12-13 19:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Jinx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not compromise your values by allowing this man to "have his cake and eat it too". Complicating your life by playing as the "second fiddle" in a relationship that is never going to end(raising a baby takes a lifetime of contact) would not make you feel happy about yourself or any closer to him. He betrayed your trust once and has no reason not to cheat again. This kind of behavior in a man is characteristic of a sex addict who is undecided about which female he wants to be with. He wants to have his way with all women who are too needy to say no.
Such a relationship will never have a "happy ending". Walk away now, while you still have an uncluttered life and some dignity left.
2006-12-13 19:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are right...listen to your instinct. If you get involved with this guy, you will have the ex in your life for at least the next 18 years. You will come second after the baby and he will have to work you into his schedule. You deserve better then this. Find a nice guy who will put you first in his life. Let this guy be with his ex ...they have a lot to work out between them and you don't want to be stuck in the middle of that. I wish you well.
2006-12-13 21:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and run, run, run, like the wind! There are men out there that want to treat you a million times better than this. If you stay around him you will have your heart broken over and over again. Plus, do you really want to help him raise a child that is not yours if he has visitation? He sounds like a class A turd and so does she.
2006-12-14 01:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know... there's a reason why he's your ex...
Walk away before he hurts you even more... it sounds as though he's trying to string you along knowing how you feel about him.
Do you need this kind of drama in your life ?
Be strong, hold your head up high and walk away.
2006-12-13 21:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by midnight_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away, because if you dont, you life will be full of drama and sadness. he initially wanted to remain friends because he was back with his ex. and now that his ex does not want him, he has come back to you. You are better than that. I know it will take time to let go of your feelings, but its for the best..
2006-12-13 20:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by Easy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds weird... in a really bad way. And he doesn't seem that honest either (with the BOTH of you, actually). You should move on from him. It was his own decision to do with he did with his ex-wife and it's NOT your fault! Just keep that in mind. Don't try to analyze the situation because it won't give you that one answer...
2006-12-13 18:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, you will be so much better off without this guy. don't just walk away, run. he has made a mess for himself and he has to live with it! but the good thing is, you don't! you deserve better. much better. so you just move on and find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. staying with this guy would be just like letting him walk all over you with baseball cleats.
Best Wishes
2006-12-13 19:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say walk off .. you never know when the mind of both will change
Regards
Sameer Shaikh
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2006-12-13 19:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋