Right after we got married, my husband left to come to Germany and we were separated for 5 months. When I got here, there was some question about a relationship he had w/a girl over here. When she kept calling from Kuwait, I packed my things and left only to have him beg me to come back b/c he swore he was never "with" her. He said he didn't want to lose me over something that he did not do. I believed he didn't sleep with her, so I stayed. I know he lied about some things but there has been no communication between them for over a year and we are now expecting our first child and have an incredible marriage. Of course it still nags at me, but it is possible that he really has changed or do I need to watch for signs of this happening again? And was I incredibly stupid to take him back? (BTW I was pregnant then, too and ended up m/cing)
2006-12-13 18:50:30 · 7 answers · asked by ashley b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the past is the past, and if u have a wonderful marriage, than let the past die. no u weren't stupid to reconcile with him, as he did show remorse, he did make it clear that u were the priority in his life. don't buy trouble when there isn't any.focus on your life now, not something in the past that is no longer going on.
2006-12-14 04:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me. Hard to get over little things. And I know that it doesnt seem little to you, things like this can really bear down on your heart. Just try to decide that you are going to get over it now. You have a great marriage and a baby on the way!! You have a bright future and of course dont keep your eyes closed but don't be actually watching for something to happen because it will just make you totally paranoid!!! And no, you were not stupid to take him back. Good luck with your baby!!!
2006-12-13 20:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by Christines256 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you still haven't gotten over the mistakes that he had made in the past which still haunt you today. Look at this time you are married and even pregnant. You need to take care of yourself and have little faith in your marriage. Its too late to wonder could've, would've, should've...that was suppose to be done way before you got pregnant. Just move forward and have your eyes and ears open, and try to have some faith in your marriage.
2006-12-13 18:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go! Concentrate on your incredible marriage, and your soon to be new baby. Stop worrying so much about the past, and begin living in the present. It doesnt sound as tho he's given you reason to doubt his love for you. Enjoy what you have together.......and what's to be! Best Wishes for a heathly beautiful BABY!!!
2006-12-13 18:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you forgave him you cannot bring up the past.
Work on today, tomarrow and then some.
2006-12-13 19:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by renee m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You either need to accept the fact that he feels this OR you think he feels for her,
*OR*
MOVE ON. Those are the options.
2006-12-13 19:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
welll,,,,give him another chance
2006-12-13 18:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by dgfgg g 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋