I would rather be in the presence of murderers and thieves than be with a cheater or adulterer. I find it disgusting. I haven't had any particular experiences with cheating but my opinion from what I see is that they only care about themselves and noone else......they are the lowest forms of human beings in my mind. They ruin peoples' lives.
2006-12-13 18:19:27 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am in total agreement. My first marriage was horrible. Mental and verbal abuse, etc. Ironically it took an affair to make me walk away. I couldn't imagine cheating on my husband. I classify cheating right up there with the seriousness of murder...I realized one thing though. I have NO tolerance for a cheater at all. Once a cheater always a cheater. Cheating is literally the most horrible thing I think a person can do to someone.
2006-12-13 18:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes l guess you are correct about them being selfish to a point. Also yes it can certainly ruin people's lives but l don't agree that cheaters are the scum of the earth and l certainly do not put them up there with murderers and thieves. There is always reasons for cheating. Sometimes it is for selfish reasons and then again some people just get off on it, or it is just like an addiction that they have trouble breaking. I do not condone cheating by any means as l know from experience that it is one of the most hurtful things you can do to your partner. On the other hand though l don't believe in all cases that it was solely the cheaters fault. I know l am going to cope a lot of flack over this answer but it is just my opinion !!! We all make mistakes and l certainly do not believe the crock about "once a cheater, always a cheater" . My husband and l are proof that a marriage can survive after a cheating partner( husband ) !! It is not easy but if the love is there, and you can learn to forgive, that's half the battle.The trust takes longer ofcourse but it is possible to earn that back with a lot of hard work. So No l do not agree with them being the lowest form of human beings. Yes they are human though and Yes they do make mistakes. After all No human being is perfect !! Hope this helped answer your question !!
2006-12-13 19:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I find cheating to be particularly awful because of the fact that the person has enacted an incredible level of abuse against the other person's trust and security.
What makes it worse is that a person chooses to cheat for selfish reasons. For example, say a person in a relationship meets someone else they would rather be with. Is that wrong? No, it happens. If they can be with the other person, and that's what they want, they need to satisfy their relationship first--either end it or (if the person is okay with it...not my thing, but anything is possible) make sure they are okay with it.
So why don't people do that all the time? It's because they prefer to lie to the person they are with so that they can steal benefits from two people. It's like saying "I will destroy the people closest to me so I can get ahead."
I don't think any reasonable person can tolerate something like this.
2006-12-13 18:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by يا حسين 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whethr you have cheated or not dos not mean you will never cheat. You NEVER know what circumstances lie around the corner. I have been cheated on and it is awful and yes he admits it was stupid, selfish, etc, etc. Our circumstances and his weakness is the reason for the cheating. If they are not remorseful itseven worse. But I have always been my own person, and WILL always be my own person. I have decided to TRY to forgive him. Its been long road, but things are going great. I have become a better wife and he a better husband. I personally think child abusers, killers etc are the scum of the earth. My hubby made a mistake, and I refuse to label him "scum of the earth" for it. Thats just my opinion, thats all it is an opinion. But honestly, who are WE to judge, as far as I am concerned that is left up to a higher power. As far as being in a dark ally alone I hope the theives and murderers are in your presence, I'll taking my cheating husband anyday of the week.
2006-12-14 01:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by hurtand still in love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, for someone who hasn't been there, these are strong words. From someone who has been there I have to agree 100%. I couldn't have put it any better. Some people don't agree with us, but I'll have to say just knowing someone thinks the same way as me, makes my day. Cheaters and adulterers don't even stop to think how many lives they are destroying, especially if they have kids.
2006-12-13 18:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by Karen H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the murderers and thieves were killing and stealing for a good cause, then maybe I agree with you. Cheaters are disgusting because they live in such fear of love, and they are too lazy to work to make their love a success. They are selfish. I think the quality responsible for it all is their lack of self respect.
2006-12-13 18:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by - 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah I have always thought that! I think if your going to be with someone then be with that person. Still cheaters should know that Karma always comes back. I don't believe in cheating, it's pointless.
2006-12-13 18:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by ¤My Goodies¤ 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
tell me about it I see this and it is a problem especially when the other says that they believe in their vow to god and won't divorce that person ( while wanting to start a relationship with you ) yeah and she didn't tell me she was married at first !and has been cheating herself !I have asked her to leave that lifestyle and start fresh with me and she keeps flipping back and forth frankly I am getting a little tired of the abuse I don't deserve and if she won't commit then she will have to stay in a abusive relationship this hurts me but I will not be able to do anything about it I will still love her but until she makes up her mind to hanger I cannot and will not commit myself to anything further I will be there for her if she needs me but not support someone who will just end up destroying my life
2006-12-13 18:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not always sometimes you are in a no win situation.I am having that problem too,My marriage sucks so I have someone new I talk with and I hpoe to see him soon.Lifes to short to stay in a bad relationship so if there is the need to cheat then you need to get out.
2006-12-13 18:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by krunch 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I was married to a guy who cheated on me for 9 years, and he told me in complete detail, all about it before I left him, and then I divorced him. He tore me up inside, so yes I have to agree with you. Now I am married to the most wonderful guy in the world and we have been together for 8 years. But it took me a long time to be able to trust him, because of what my ex-husband did to me.
2006-12-13 18:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋