I really love her and I would like to spend my life with her but she doesn't want to tell her parents we sleeping together. Should I be suspicious or are there others?
2006-12-13 18:05:17 · 22 answers · asked by blixerb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So, forgive my being blunt, but maybe it's the best way to make a point...it's all about you isn't it? You obviously don't understand her position and are consumed by self-centered thoughts. She likely has very strong feelings for you as well, where you need not be suspicious and there are no other guys. It's got nothing to do with that. A young lady need not declare to her parents what they don't necessarily need to know, but probably assume it to be true anyway, especially if she predicts that her parents would give her a bunch of grief about it. This isn't about you. It's about her parents wanting the best for their daughter and sleeping with some punk may be cause for arguing and debate within their family. Who needs to be judged and called a tramp? She doesn't. If you really love her, you'll stop thinking selfishly and put yourself in her shoes, willing to make her life as simple and easy as possible. Are you starting to understand now? I suggest you grow up a bit before you think that you are in love and want to spend your life with someone. There is no rush. Besides, if her dad hears the actual words, are you sure he won't just kick your @ss? Based on your question, I would...so, shut up and use your brain. I'm assuming she is not a minor, and you practice safe sex...right? If in either case you are out of bounds here, then you are even dumber than you sound.
2006-12-13 18:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, I am a full grown woman and I don't talk about my sex life with my mother. It is just not something that is necessary. I don't go out of my way to hide it...but it is not common conversation for most people and their parents.
Just because she does not want to tell her parents that the 2 of you are sleeping together really holds no weight on her commitment to you. Beside the fact that her parents were not born yesterday and they probably already have suspicion of your guy's relationship and the activities that go along with it.
Breathe deep and relax!! Don't be suspicious
2006-12-14 02:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are very private when it comes to their personal life. Would u want to tell your parents? I wouldnt. Dont u think its sexy that only u two know of this secret, evens if u are dating.
If u are dating and her parents like u once u tell then that their little girl aint so little anymore what are the chance's of then still wanting her to date u?
2006-12-14 02:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that her parents are old fashion, do not think that sex should come before marriage. If your both adults, ask her to marry you, then she want her to tell her parents that you and her are having sex, they will know. If you both are minors, she is probably afraid her Dad will beat you up.
2006-12-14 02:10:24 · answer #4 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not specify your age or her age. It is possible she comes from a very conservative family where sex before marriage is frowned upon.
The best advice I can offer you is talk to her about it and tell her it bothers you. Communication is key, especially if you see yourself spending your whole life with her!
2006-12-14 02:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by avishtevi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suspicious?
I think you should realize that perhaps she's a human woman who doesn't exactly feel comfortable discussing her sex life with her parents. give her time.
I'm sure if you ask her to marry you, she'd let them know. :-)
2006-12-14 02:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by Netty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless she isn't telling her parents you are dating and together I wouldn't worry. I wouldn't tell my parents if I was sleeping with someone.
2006-12-14 02:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by I_love_chase's_tie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are she doesn't think her sex life is any of her parents business and I agree. Girls don't usually go around blabbing about their sexual encounters. I wouldn't worry about it at all, she could also not want them to know she is havingsexual relations outside of marriage.
2006-12-14 02:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by MasLoozinIt76 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Others?Suspicious?!you are very selfish..you have to trust her!! i trust her..we, girls..don't go babling around about the sex life..it's confidential..especially when it comes to the parents..propose her NOW!
2006-12-14 02:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by teffenytommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be afraid of the disapointment that her parents would feel for her knowing that their daughter is having sex with someone she's not married to yet.
2006-12-14 02:08:45 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋