OK I know I am gonna bashed by both sides, but I am a gay man in a 5 year relationship, I want the same rights

Question

as straight couples, but I DO NOT WANT TO CALL IT MARRIAGE, regardless of what people say when you think of marriage you think of a man and a woman, we need our own term I heard someone say one time Garriage, Any suggestions

Civil Union sounds to technical, just like I hate the term partner is sound to much like a law firm,

Answer 1

How about Buttbuddies.(joke). How about they just give you the rights and you just call it what you want.

Answer 2

I think the strictly legal term would be civil union but I know that currently some same sex couples take part in Affirmation of Love ceremonies - and at least one church offers certificates for this ceremony, but it is not currenly legally binding in america, of course, so it doesn't address the legal Rights of the couple (it's more a private thing).

I personally don't think that marriage means a man and a woman - and I think the term has been dilluted in our society. I have heard of food being a marriage of 2 different cuisines - or a design style a marriage of contemporary and traditional. Marriage is just 2 seperate things coming together to create 1 new thing.

I wonder if same sex couples could get around this issue by simply incorporating. When you incorporate as a partnership aren't you entitled to certain rights and protections? My husband and I incorporated as of the same day we had our own private wedding ceremony and we were publicly married the same day 1 year later. We remain incorporated today under the name MoCroi (which is gaelic for My Heart). We did so for business reasons, but I have heard of father and son incorporating to buy a house in the name of a 3rd entity for tax reasons and such. It might be worth looking into - perhaps a good accountant could advise you.

Peace!

Answer 3

I think garriage sounds too much like somewhere you park your car. The main problem at the moment is definition - I wouldn't call it marriage as otherwise Christians jump on the band wagon and quote biblical passages as to why it is an abomination, therefore hindering the process. They used to be called it commitment ceremonies, but people don't like that as it appears to fall short of actually giving it the same status as marriage. The short answer is I really don't know as nothing really quite sounds right!

Answer 4

First of all congratulations on your five years together!

Don't do Garriage, sounds like an infection.

Wow, this is actually hard to think of something that isn't too formal, yet isn't stupid.

You could call it pledged, bound, or if you are religious try sacrament.

I used a thesaurus for partner and it threw some pretty funny ones at me, if nothing else this answer will be good for a laugh:
Buttinski, Kibitzer, Dutch uncle, henchman, crony.

Though it did put some ok ones like spouse, mate.

Answer 5

I think any two people that wish to have that union and those rights should have them, and that is a major issue we need to resolve in this country.
I wouldn't be too picky about what to call it though, man. The word marriage isn't exactly a glamorous term. When you get down to it, the rights you are asking for are legal and technical by definition, and giving it some funky name will only exascerbate the prejudice.

Answer 6

Who cares whether it's called a marriage or civil union? As long as same gender couples get the same rights as married straight couples then who gives a flying crap what term is used?

Answer 7

I don't understand. Aren't you encouraging discrimination against your own by not calling it marriage? I would think that by calling it something else, you're basically saying that it's separate but equal and we've seen how well that's worked out in the past (sarcasm).

Why don't you just call it "marriage," and that way you're not signaling you and your partner out in any way. The committment you share and the rights you have in relation to each other are the same, so why don't you just share the same term?

Answer 8

straight as they come, and no offense, but I don't want gay marriage to be called marriage either. I disagree with you having the same rights, however, we can agree to disagree... but I think there needs to be a different term used too... what is wrong w/ "civil union?"

Answer 9

I wont bash you, but will disagree with you. As a Gay man , I think one of our GREATEST victories in South Africa was getting the right to marry.

If it makes you happy, find your own terms, but I believe the majority of us who want a permanent 'relationship', wants marriage.

Answer 10

The Gay Decree.

Answer 11

I won't bash you. You have the right to want & feel like you do. It would just have been very upsetting to me not to have been able to marry my former husband at the time I wanted to. But you can call it what you want as long as you can be the person who will be treated like your family at hospitals and such. Best of luck