Ok, I'm friends with this girl. I really like her otherwise, but I gotta problem...she's got this habit of always borrowing money and never returning it. Now I'm Ok with occational splurges, but too many pending accounts always make me uncomfortable. She owes me a lot now. I've tried telling her but she always tells me that she'd give it to me later and forgets all about it. I feel rather cheap asking for money over and over. But I feel it's gotten far enough now. How do I tell her that she owes me? I really like her otherwise and I don't want to hurt her...
I'd appreciate anything you could suggest.
2006-12-13 17:54:50 · 18 answers · asked by Smarty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok, you are not the bank. Why doesn't she have her money? A job would solve that problem, unless she has one and just spends too much. Just say no and that she's owes you to much before you can lend any more out. And for the love of God it's not being cheap asking for the money that she owes you. It's your money. Tell her you need it for something unexpected. And if she gets hurt when you ask for YOUR money than I don't think she is a real, true friend. Best of luck.
2006-12-13 18:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by lynnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost tell her you can't loan her anymore money because she hasn't paid you back. Next, you can do one of two things. 1. Give her a list with the amounts she borrowed & the dates she borrowed it if possible and give her a deadline for returning the money. 2. Lie and say you have a big family emergency and you need the money back right away. If it seems really urgent hopefully she will feel bad and give it back right away or at least tell you when you can expect it.
In all, the more important thing here is that you need to have some boundaries. Your friend has been taking advantage of you and that is not right.
2006-12-13 18:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by Smart_ca_latina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should honestly tell her the truth, that she owes you a lot of money now and you won't give her anymore until she pays you back what she owes you. Explain to her that you have things you have to take care of as well, and you just can't keep allowing her to borrow money without her returning it. Remind her (gently) how much she still has pending, and tell her that she must pay it all back before you'll resume your money-borrowing habits.
2006-12-13 17:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that she isn't going to borrow anymore money from you and your not being CHEAP by asking for it back! she needs to own up to what she says shes going to do. which is paying you back! If she ends up giving you a hard time about it than end the friendship and forget about the money you'll have more money in your pocket when your not friends with her anymore because a true friend wouldn't keep blowing you off every time that you asked for it back. or at least offer to pick up the tab the next time out and calling it even. GL
2006-12-13 18:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by monkeybread 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 07:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever loaning money to someone who is getting in too deep without any attempt to pay it back, you need to cut your losses sometime...right? I would simply tell her that you would be willing to loan money to her again, but first she needs to pay back the last few loans. Tell her you only have a specific amount of money you can sacrifice and that you are at your limit now. That basically leaves it up to her. Friends should respect each other. She is not your friend. People like her are not rare at all.
2006-12-13 18:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by PZ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel u iam in that same situatuion anyways just say i really need the money and ive been nice enough to loan it to u so please be nice enough to pay it back it means alot to me if u can and it seems like u dont care that iam having finacial issues and i dont ask for alot from u and u can pay little by little put a closure on this or sue her if have it in writing and keep bugging the person that owes thell give in either way hope u get your money and hope my advice work
2006-12-13 18:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by dvcgurl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how her borrowing makes you feel uncomfortable. That you are acquiring pending accounts because of it. If she is a real friend , she will consider your concerns. If she is not a true friend, then move on.
2006-12-13 20:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say here is a a bill for the money you owe me. Do it in front of her parents so they know she borrowed money from you.
2006-12-13 17:58:08 · answer #9 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest first - stop lending her money! Next I would suggest you tell her that you were kind enough to lend her money and it wasn't a gift, it was a loan with the promise of returning it. She needs to honor this if she's any kind of friend.
2006-12-13 17:57:48 · answer #10 · answered by MasLoozinIt76 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋