Ok imagine this:
you were in a relationship with someone for about 4 or 5 years... then yall broke up... 1 month later, your at a party and you notice your best friend trying to make a move on them!!!!
Do you think best friends have the right to hook up with past ex's???? and if so why??
p.s.... this did not happen to me so dont even ask, its just a question!!!!
2006-12-13 17:42:55 · 20 answers · asked by naturalherb_101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
why not ???? is happen with me i was in love in 3 years so i brock up and now i have a good releation ship with his best friend and now i love him why not if u leave her ur best friend didnt make any mestake
2006-12-13 17:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by ****MIRO**** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if it bothers the 'ex boyfriend' that much, he needs to sit down with his 'best friend' and just have a conversation with him, letting him know how he feels about this. It seems obvious that the 'ex boyfriend' would be offended, maybe? Or jealous? Especially if it was within a month's time, since the break-up. And of course the ex-boyfriend is going to be upset, because sharing their life with someone for that many years is not a small matter. It's how they deal with 'moving on' and 'letting go'.
The second part would be "Is the relationship REALLY over between the two of them?" - vulnerabilty between the two of them may be high, because of the short time frame, that they were apart, since breaking up. That would have an impact on both sides. If the ex-girlfriend 'gave in' to this 'best friend's' moves, then maybe it's her way of 'moving on', regardless of who's best friend it is.
It's a part of 'moving on', too. Maybe the 'ex-boyfriend' may not like it, but she's fair game to anyone she wants to have a relationship with. Who knows, maybe she's doing it on the 'rebound' and the best friend will be the one who pays in the end, when that relationship is over....
Like a soap opera, the girl goes back with the guy, finds out she's pregnant, and the question then becomes, "who's the baby's daddy?"...then that soap opera becomes the "Jerry Springer" show....and then a brawl breaks out, because the ex-boyfriend starts fighting with the so-called best friend, and busts his chops, and the ex-girlfriend, and the two guys find out NEITHER of them are the baby's father!!! OMG!!...
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...Okay..TOOOoo much television-watching scenarios there!!!
"Time to move on" is the answer to that question!!!
2006-12-13 17:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if this is suppose to be a best friend then there's no way in the hell this supposedly friend is suppose to even be having thoughts about even trying to date his friends ex. That's just wrong were are the morals of being a friend. If a person could do a thing such as this one then they're not a true friend anyways
2006-12-13 17:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by patricia j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your friend did not play a part in the break up, I don't see why you think you should invest any feelings towards the situation. If it makes you uncomfortable, just realize that you won't want to be seeing a whole lot of your best friend anymore due to the association with your ex. I would not however, harbor any ill will. You will be a lot healthier for it!
2006-12-13 18:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, your best friend should not have the right to hook up with your ex because if he was your friend he should be with u and respect u and will leave your ex a lone just like u would do for him.
2006-12-13 19:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by MFC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 'best' friend would display sensitivity and respect, therefore would not hit on your recent xgf. While people have the right to do as they please, it's not a matter of having a right, it's a matter of true and sincere friendship. Over time, nature will take its course and she will follow her path to whomever it might be. If it happens to be your best friend, then maybe it was meant to be, but it won't be because he chased after her as soon as you split. Hope this helps, even if this didn't happen to you.
2006-12-13 18:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morally its wrong!! But its 2006 who follows the rules anymore I would just say the person isn't a friend at all
2006-12-13 17:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by yousexythangyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa . . .no way . . . not in this case, with the long term length of the relationship, and only a month afterwards. It's disrespectful to your friend. The guy's off-limits.
2006-12-13 19:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by Lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok for your friends to hook up with your ex. it's not morally wrong, it's just not accepted before. but time changes, and so should we. if i am that guy, i would talk to my bestfriend, and tell him how i feel, seeing him and my ex hooking up. if he really likes my ex, fine, they can go out, but not infront of me, or without me looking, because it might make me feel bad, or uncomfortable
2006-12-13 17:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by jocjac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person was really your friend ,she/he wouldn't be doing that. I for one won't do that. Because firstly i should have respect and loyalty for my friend. But in the end, not all people think the same way
2006-12-13 19:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋