2006-12-13 17:41:34 · 24 answers · asked by Angelica 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
He asked me, I said no and he keeps following me around.
He's been married 1 year and in the Army for half of that. He has no children. He says his wife doesn't like sex. I did nothing with him. I just wanted your support or not. I just confused can't you just help me? You all don't need to be so mean about it.
2006-12-13 17:59:39 · update #1
Yes, it's very wrong. The fact that he is married means that he has made a commitment of fidelity, and you need to respect that commitment. If you have sex with him you are just as guilty of adultery as him, and it's wrong. Think about how you would feel if you were in his wife's position. It would be very hurtful to her.
Just remember that you reap what you sew and you will have to answer for your actions eventually. Don't engage in behavior if you aren't willing to accept the consequences.
Also, would you really want to sleep with a man who would cheat on his wife? Anyone that would do that it a liar and you don't know who else he's slept with or what kind of nasty diseases he could have. And if you got pregnant, you know a man like that would never be a responsible father. Think about it.
2006-12-13 18:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by Becca 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's see. You know that he's lying to his wife, the person who is supposed to be #1 in his life. So, if you're not #1, or even if you are, he will lie to you, too. That's his nature. Even if he left her for you, you'd have to wonder every minute if he would do to you what he is doing now to her. Also, because he is supposed to be with his family, you won't see him for Christmas, or New Years, or his birthday, or Valentine's Day. Do you want to sit at home alone, waiting for the possibility that he might be able to sneak away for half an hour to see you? What kind of life is that? Why would you settle for so little?
2006-12-14 01:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband had a girlfriend-- we had a whole houseful of kids together; one was just a baby. I can't begin to tell you the pain it caused me and the children when he went off with her.
Two years later his car was hit by a dump truck and he is now crippled and brain damaged. A couple years after that she had one breast removed from cancer and the next will probably have to go too.
The truck was at fault and the kids and I got a big cash settlement. I bought a nice house in Hawaii and could stop working.
I'm not saying I'm glad for their misfortune... but sometimes life IS fair.
True story!!!
2006-12-14 01:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by Rani 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Because you are setting yourself up for heartbreak.Its not fair to the wife (women should stick together & understand this) ,,The man cant be respectable with this type of deception.Triangles dont have good endings for anyone involved.Especially if there are children.Why doesnt he get a seperation first,,that would be the decent thing to do concerning everyone involved.
2006-12-14 01:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Uh, yeah! Shouldn't the word, married mean anything to you? He has a family and with him sleeping with you means that he is being unfaithful to HIS family! Just because you aren't married gives you NO reason to sleep with a married man! You are also playing a part in ruining that family of his.
Not only will it eventually end his marraige with his wife when she does find out, if there are kids involved, they may end up losing the trust of their dad. His wife, will be hurt and angry not only at him but you! Hopefully, she will be smart enough to leave him becasue of it, splitting up that family and now, the kids will have to grow up splitting time with both their mom and dad. If they are young, they may think that they were at fault and not understand why mom and dad are living in two seperate homes
Do you really want that to happen? Do you want to know that you played a part in ruining a marraige and splitting up a family? I sure hope your answers to these questions are NO! Please for the sake of everyone involved, end this NOW!
2006-12-14 01:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by kerrberr95 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't if I were you...What are you going to get out of it...maybe a one night stand...maybe 'the other woman'...if he cheats on his wife...he'll cheat on you too. Do you want to be in that position. I'm not saying anything is wrong or right here...but make sure that you know what the emotional repercussions will be if you give into him.
2006-12-14 02:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Morally, yes its wrong, and if you're a religious person, it's also wrong.
But...he is wrong for even wanting you in that way, so even though you may have considered having sex with him, YOU are not married, HE is. You haven't done anything with him yet (im assuming), but for him to even consider it, is very wrong.
2006-12-14 03:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by SweetMahogany 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get some home trainning!!! you should never resort to becoming anybody's mistress..
And how do u know if he has kids or not?? If he has enough indecencey to lie to his wife (the woman he really loves) then of course he's going to lie to a "side-dish" like you..
Go Ahead and try it, sleep with him..But I must warn you.When it's time for you to get married to your husband God will work things out to where the same thing you did to his wife happens to you
2006-12-14 02:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by IceQueen 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's not the fact that you're not married that's the problem, it's the fact that he is. He's already committed himself to someone else, and if you have sex with him, you're helping him to break that committment. Do you really want to be with someone who you know doesn't keep his promises?
2006-12-14 01:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by cg17 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
yes it's wrong to have sex with a married man even if you isn't married.
2006-12-14 02:39:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋