My son is going to be 2 on Feb 27.. and I am due to have my daughter on Feb 2. I am a bit worried about how he will react to having a baby around the house. Even though he has seen me care for my infant nephew, and seems to have no problem with that, I am still concerned about his reaction to bringing the baby home... I tried giving him a "baby"(plastic doll) to care for.. and he showed no interest... its just sitting on the floor.. he doesnt want to play with it at all.
Are there any other ways to ease him into the idea of having another child around, and to me not having 100% of my time for him anymore? I'm looking for mom to mom advice!! I cant stand the thought of him thinking I am ignoring him... but I need him to understand that I cant give him all my attention anymore. Any tips?
2006-12-13 17:37:02 · 8 answers · asked by Kristin B 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My kids are 26 months apart, so I know what you are going through. We tried like you are, to explain the new baby to our daughter, and tried to get her a doll, but she also was not interested. She was very sweet when we brought him home, but within a few days she wanted him to leave! Like everything else, it just took time. My husband spend some extra time with her, since I was so busy with the baby nursing all the time. Now he is 8 months old and things are great. I hate to say it, but it just takes time. Good luck with everything, and congrats!
Oh, and you will be feeling guilty. No matter what, you will because you wont' be able to give your first the same attention you once did, and your second with never have that one-on-one attention that you had with the first. But it's ok.... :)
2006-12-13 17:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by Theresa M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't got any tips for you but I can't wait to read answers to your question as my daughter just turned a year old on December 10 and I am due to have a little boy on Feb 2 also. I am also worried how this will affect my daughter cause she is a big daddy's girl and has recentaly became a momma's girl.Plus untill she was 8 months old it was just her mommy and daddy and everything was about her but then her 3 half brothers ages 6,4,3 came to live with us.So just as she is getting used to haveing her 3 older brothers around,and daddy being gone out of state for 10 days at a time for work,we will be bringing home another brother for her.So I can't wait to read other peoples answers so maybe I can get some help also.
2006-12-14 02:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a book called "I'm a Big Brother" and i read that to my son every night. He is 5 born Aug 4, and my daughter is 3 born Aug 14. Anyways the book helped. We also got him a big boy bed right before I had her. It is a race car bed and he loved that. Also keep in mind that the baby is going to sleep alot in the beginning. He will see right away that the baby is rather boring in that all they do is cry and poop and eat and sleep and then repeat again. Build up the big brother aspect. "Wow, you know when you are a big brother you can help mommy feed, change, bathe etc. our new baby" use the doll to demonstrate with. Tell him all hte things that big brothers can do. They get cooler toys and books, they can stay up later, they get to watch t.v and play outside and throw balls. Big brothers get to eat real food and peanut butter and pizza and candy. you get the point. Maybe you can make a calendar that will have "Special Days" that are reserved just for the two of you. I know it will be hard because you are going to be exhausted, but you guys don't have to do big things. Color one picture, or do a puzzle or label him "Helper of the day" Let him help you with chores. Put mnapkins on the table, put silverwear away, change your toinlet paper roll, etc. Congrats and I wish you the very best. The best thing is that you are having a girl so he does get to stay Mommy's Little Boy. Happy Holidays!!
2006-12-13 17:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by 1973kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i was worried too and they will show some signs of jealousy
my daughter is 5 months and my other daughter is 3 i just kept every day letter her know she has a sister in my tummy
she warmed up to the fact. and she helps mommy take care of baby she also says its her baby too. just keep telling every day do you want to feel baby kick , do you want to sing to baby
or rub mommy belly do that every day you can and make you tell him he is big brother . i know this will work it self out but no lie it will be tough at first for the fist 2 months ... ust getting use to the new change congradulations
2006-12-13 17:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by slpry L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would explain to your son that your gonna have another baby and well he might get jealous but you know dont make certain things the babys make them share. and well use the baby doll for you too hold the baby doll and pretend to feed it but make sure to include your other child say let us change the baby and let us bathe the baby but you can use the baby doll first let your son get some practice with the doll first warn him about the soft head and stuff and his jealousy shouldnt be as bad but take time out just for him to
2006-12-13 18:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I did with my cats became I only walked the infant in and sat down. The cats got here up and sniffed her to work out what this new ingredient became of their living house. After about 10 seconds, they misplaced activity as cats commonly do. anytime they were in the room, I made constructive to enable them sniff the infant. dogs may be different because they prefer to leap and get very excited. as long as you puppy them at the same time as you carry the infant, they are going to do not ignore that you nonetheless love them and it would not be that ordinary of a deal. reliable success. also, for persons that propose that you get rid of animals that you've had for over 7 years, shame on them. Animals are a life-time dedication. That makes me fairly indignant.
2016-10-18 06:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him be involved in deciding lil things..like picking out a bottle,or an outfit,when you include him he won't feel left out..and when the baby is born,have him help bring you a diaper,throw the diaper away,sing to the baby..lil things like that come along way.
2006-12-13 17:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by ♥~Cathy~♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he is going to have a baby! Tell him once the baby is here he is going to help you with it and help you to care for it. He will be excited thinking that he will be in charge of something. Make it fun for him.
2006-12-13 17:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by Brutally Honest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋