My first wife was a controling ,abusive woman and the second ...well she was a rebound. We dated for two and 1/2 yrs. The next step I thought was marrage. But then she turned into the very thing she promissed to not be because of the first wife. Then after three yrs of being by myself and trying to find myself I found a wonderful woman. The one I dreamt of all my lfe. But now ALL I hear is "hope this is the one", or "make sure this work this time Eh!!". GRRR. What do ppl really think?
2006-12-13 17:02:39 · 14 answers · asked by gord's360 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is NO dout that I played I role in the two i've already been in, but there is a time that when you've put in more then your share.....Maybe I had the words.. Walk all over me written on my forhead?
2006-12-13 17:40:35 · update #1
Well, I am going to be in those shoes. I just found out today that I am getting divorced. Again. I am beside myself. I keep picking the same types without realizing. I am sure that I am not faultless, but marriage isn't what people expect it to be. My first husband was physically/mentally abusive. He was just an angry person. The second was kinda sociopathic.He was a liar. He had secrets. He physically abused a few times when he was drunk. I thought that he was the one. Anyway, I'm rambling, I just found out today and all. Don't listen to the nay sayers. Follow your heart. You obviously believe in marriage. It's just taking you a few to find a good one. Bless your heart.
2006-12-13 17:11:57 · answer #1 · answered by ♥2323vsb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People just want to see you happy and they hope that this wife will be the one for you forever.
I don't care how many times someone has married as long as I'm not marrying them. I wouldn't marry a man if he'd already been married twice because I would wonder what was wrong with him. It would say to me that there was no give in the marriages before. Sorry.
I hope this time you have found the right woman. Hope you're not rushing into it. You've been through the mill I hope you've picked up tips on what you want and don't want. Don't make exceptions this time. Either it's 100% good or not. If not forget it.
2006-12-14 08:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally l would probably be a little weary of someone who had been married atleast twice only because l would always worry that he may be a Jeckyl and Hyde type person. If however it was someone else getting married l would wish them happiness the same as l would someone getting married for the first time. I know l would hope that it would work out for them this time but l don't think l would be rude enough to make any smart comments to them about it. I honestly wish you well in your marriage and hope the two of you will be very happy. Good luck.................. Hey Furious what's the White Woman Crap !!!!
2006-12-14 02:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the time you get to the third marriage it is definitely normal for people to question your judgment. The thing that both of your ex wives have in common are the fact that you picked them. That said, since you seem intent on getting married to the woman who is allegedly the one, you shouldn't care what others think.
2006-12-14 01:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by Smart_ca_latina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta get to the point where "who gives a ____ what people think of me" attitude. It is truely liberating. All the people that talk and gossip are lame losers with nothig better to do. Go do what you want, just make sure wife #3 is wife #s 1 and 2 in sheeps clothing.
2006-12-14 01:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well not to be rude but having 2 ex-wifes kinda kills your credibility in the married field. I hate it when men often blame their wives for the divorce when in fact there was two people in a marriage.
2006-12-14 01:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have had some bad experiences. Just take your time and don't rush anything. I hope that the next person loves you unconditionally and its mutual. As far as what others think, its not their life so what they think is irrelevant, that goes for family as well as friends. PERIOD!! You need to pursue who and what brings you happiness. Life is too short
2006-12-14 01:18:32 · answer #7 · answered by Earth Law 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The number of times you are married should not be an issue to anyone. If it is, it is because of their own biases and insecurities and has nothing to do with you.
Tell them "thank you for your concern, but I'll live my own life."
2006-12-14 01:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of us dont get it right the first time..........or second.
Perhaps the 3rd time is the charm. If you're her prince, and she's your queen, who cares what anyone else thinks/feels/says.
Best Wishes to you both!
2006-12-14 01:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares. What matters is what you think. I really dont care how many times you get married.
2006-12-14 01:22:57 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Ladylike ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋