i hurt so much and don't know what to do i need help?

Question

4 years ago i met this guy i was with him for a month, but coz i was living in wales he left me for someone i knew and thought i could trust, they had a girl together but i was seeing them quite often, we had both moved on but still kept feelings for eachothter locked away and hidden. In july i moved back to the place i used to live which is where i met him, he was living with her at the time, but we got together, he then left her coz he was "madly in love with me and didnt want to be without me." Well a couple of months ago i found out that i was pregnant, a couple of weeks later he left me for her again. i see and talk to him all the time but now he is saying that he is madly in love with her and will do anything to be with her he used to say this to me. This broke my heart and it is still breaking, i am having nightmares and a bad pregnancy but i am still madly in love with him. I want to try and move on but i dont know how unless i stop the hurt and i need help i need to know how

Answer 1

He is a player... take his *** to court and bleed him dry for childsupport....

Answer 2

Both you women are being played by this poor excuse for a man...and it is no wonder most of us other decent men get stereotyped, or tarred with the same brush by some women when they have this happen to them...which is all too often nowadays I'm afraid:-( May i apologise on behalf of the more decent and faithful male population of the world-and also say that i am sorry, but i really do not have an answer that you would like-so i think i should keep my own council on this, suffice it to say though that you two lady's should bin this C U Next Tuesday, and have nothing what so ever to do with him again. There are other-more faithful-more decent guy's out there-who needs a spanner like this in their lives? Best of luck with your pregnancy...i sincerely hope that your child, whether male or female, does not turn out like its father.

Answer 3

Girl, he's playing the both of you, and you haven't accomplished anything by leaving him or being with him.
You need to sit down with this guy and have a long conversation with him about "what's wrong with this picture".
He obviously is mixed up on what he feels is 'love' and I think he knows what he's doing.
You seem to be the insecure, vulnerable type, and you need more support from family and friends when making that decision to leave him for good. I don't think there's a chance of you ever having a full-time relationship with him, because he already had a child with this other girl, and now he's gotten you pregnant, too, in the process. It's a messed up situation, but you're better off without him in your life! I don't think any of you knows what you really want, and things just got out of hand....
Keep your legs closed and stay away from this guy!! It's too late for that first part, because you're already pregnant, but you can just move on, and even 'move away' from that neighborhood, and sever all ties with him! He's no good. He's a player!~

Answer 4

Congratulations...You have just wrecked your life.

You now have two choices...well three actually.
1) You can have an abortion if it is not too late. That would fix your silly mistake.
2) Admit that you have made a mistake. Forget about him. Have the child and move on.
3) Get even. Go and see his girlfriend and tell her he made you pregnant. This will wreck 3 lives plus those of the kids. Nobody wins...nobody lose.

What will be your choice? Let us know.

By the way...the three of you are as bad as each other...so I don't feel sorry for any of you.
1) Your girlfriend took him from you
2) He cheated on both of you and made you both pregnant. He is a real scumbag.
3) You went to bed with him while knowing he had a child with another woman and you were prepare to steal him from her...which makes you even worse than her.

Answer 5

Oh chicken you are in a state.
Do you have family around you to support you?
You can't rely on that guy for help with your child, you gotta get some advice.
What do you think your options are? forget him for a minute do you think can you do this on your own?
Lots of people do so theres no need to rush any decisions.
Your are going to need support off someone though an I don't think Yahoo answers is gonna cover it babe.
To be the best Mum you can to your child you need to focus purely on yourself an your baby.
Everytime your thinking about a situation that cant be resolved by your actions (he has to change) takes away from the best for you an your child.
Be strong an do whats best for you two, that's whats most important now.

I hope that helps a little to focus forward.

Take it easy an be strong.

Answer 6

Hello,
how to say sorry to u I don't.I m a male .But still then i feel ur pain ,cause a few days earlier my gf left me alone.I never thought someone can be so cruel .It is very impossible to pass a single moment with her.Now I thinnk i m the looniest person of the planet.But in ur case it very difficult to keep patient. But if u wanna keep ur baby safe try not to be emotionaly vulnarable be strong and share ur pain with someone else ,perhaps this way u can get some consolation that what u need most.U can also contact me [e-mail] ([phone])
keep in touch and let me know how things r.

Answer 7

I am truly sorry for you! I went through the same thing December last year, and still I am angry at him. It is something that heals with time, no one can give you a "quick fix"... Try concentrating on what is best for your baby and try to avoid him as much as humanly possible, "out of sight, out of mind" my mother used to say. Don't fall for him again! I know it sounds good when he tells you everything you want to hear, but try be strong. He obviously doesn't deserve you and in a few months/years you will be glad you made this decision now. there is definitely someone out there, that will accept you, love you and give you the treatment that you deserve! JUST HOLD ON AND PUSH THROUGH! Good luck!

Answer 8

Unfortunately you know you will now be linked to him for life because he will be the father of your child so getting over him won't be easy.
As much as you have feelings for him try to remember that you and your unborn child are worth more than the way he has treated you (so most probably is his other woman and child!)
Concentrate on your health and try to stay away from places he is likely to be (just for a few months) until you are stronger.
Remember if he has treated you like this before he is likely to do it again - sounds like he wants to keep you both dangling on a piece of string.
Christmas will be difficult but try to surround yourself with family and true friends.

Answer 9

You have a lot more to think about than this guy. You have a baby on the way and it looks like you are going to be raising the child alone. Are you getting ready for this? That should be your main concern. This guy is never going to stay with either one of you and you are wasting time and energy thinking about him. Stop it. when your mind drifts to him actively make yourself think of something else. start getting things ready for the baby. If you can knit or chrochet do so and make a blanket for the baby. it will help to occupy your mind and make time pass instead of thinking about him.

You made a big mistake so now learn from it. This man is not worth one more moment of your time. You need to focus on your child and the life you will help them live.

Answer 10

He sounds really young. How long ago did he just break up with you? If it's not too long ago, give him an ultimatum and tell him he needs to accept responsibility for his actions, for any kind of future with you, and any hope of seeing the child. Give 24hrs, he not reply positively then take him to court and get child support for next 18 years. If you have the baby, please love him/her since you are all that is left and must accept this burden.

I'm truly sorry for you and hope it works out in the long run, whatever choices are made.

Answer 11

Try to occupy your mind with other stuff. Start planning for your new arrival. Its hard to try and move on while you are pregnant I was in a similar situation not too long ago, but as time passes you will eventually move on. Don't let him back into your life again the same way because to me he does not know who he wants, he is just going to continue going back and forth if you two will continue to allow him. Time heals.