she says it's over......i hear of another man....she said she slept with him the night i left. she tells me they are just friends now. and then she says she has feelings for him but, not real intense feelings.....i tried to find her on a certain site that people have and guess what? i found her and pics of this guy......and all kinds of statements of how she is in love and in a relationship.....i am very very hurt......any advice? i'm am so very hurt that it confuses my better judgement. i miss the beautiful woman that i once had and now i found out about all of this.....we had seven years and two beautiful children......it's a lot to take in at one time.....i thought i was getting over her and now i feel this pain consuming me again. what advice do you have? please, please help me sort this out....thank you every one.
2006-12-13 16:36:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have them days when we don't even think about "her". We then have them days when we miss "her" so much it makes you almost physically ill. Just remember that your going to have peaks and valleys when it comes to your feelings about the Mother of your children. Its not easy watching someone move on with life without you, and that goes for her to. If you show her that what she does has no effect on you, and your life is moving on with out her, she will feel what your going through. It would be nice if we could all have a switch installed so it could be flipped to off when a relationship ends that would make all the pain disappear. Remember a persons high they get from joy is measured more by the depth of their sorrows. You will experience joy again.
2006-12-13 16:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you marry her before or after you conceived your children? Marriage is an important part of the lasting relationship commitment. Moreover, it can help preserve the family in the long run. You did not mention divorce, so is their a possibility of reconciliation, then building the trust again through marriage or even reaffirming your vowels. You may read a book written by Gary Chapman entitled "The Five Love Languages." It's a simple read and may help you this time or next. Lastly, listening to country music and going to church helps to pass the time, give some space, and allow you to find someone new, which helps to forget the old. Keep contact and support your children, no matter what.
2006-12-13 17:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to stay strong. Some days will be good, some not. If she tells you straight out to your face it's over, then it is. I know it hurts so bad you want to curl up in a hole and give up, but you can't. There are little people who need you, the best you you can be. They will learn by watching you. You will find love again, real, honest, true love. SMILE AND GO FIND IT!!!!
2006-12-13 18:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by lost in luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately when we lose someone we love and then hear that they are in a relationship it hurts like hell. Check out the 5 stages of grief on the web. It might shed some light on all the things doing through your head at the moment. I hope you find peace.
2006-12-13 17:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww...you sound like a sweety!!! shame on her for doing you dirty. I had a boyfriend once, we were not together that long, but he was sooo sweet...too sweet. I let him go because of that. Maybe shes getting tired of being loved too much, she wants something else. Im not trying to make you hurt more, trust me. but now im with a guy thats not sweet like that and i miss my sweet boyfriend. I honesly dont know what else to say. Im not going to say just give up, but i would sit back and let her come to me. Everyone makes mistakes. We learn from them. Just give her time to realize what she may be giving up. She sounds like she needs to sort some things out in her head before she realizes what she really wants in life.
2006-12-13 16:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may be, you have to except the fact that she's not trustworthy, and not sure of what she wants in a relationship. Take care of you and your kids, and if you love her enough to forgive & forget her indiscressions, then do what it takes to be happy. Otherwise, let her go and make a great effort to have peace of mind & with prayer and time you can be happier without her.
2006-12-13 17:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go, you can do better. She may be beautiful on the outside but not on the inside
2006-12-13 16:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a total B*ITCH. I'm sorry you had to go through this. You deserve someone better than her. And don't give her anything more than they force you to.
2006-12-13 16:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she not deserved to have your love, I am sorry for you, , one day you will have a right one for you
2006-12-13 17:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone new
2006-12-13 16:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋