who i gave a second chance cheated on me. i never suspected him cheating when we were married, now after he begged for years i find out today that he has cheated more than once in hotels and asking a past flame for her new number in the grocery store and i was with him at the store with our children. we had been back together for a year and he told this past flame that he had to bring us to the store because my car was broken down. LIE LIE i don't even know how to explain the way i feel. i feel numb almost. i can't believe that i have done this to myself again. i don't need any sarcasim please. do you think it could work?
2006-12-13 16:25:18 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I went through the same thing and I am still with the guy. I'll tell you this and this is what my grandma told me. It'll work, cause I wanted it to work for the kids. But know that he is a cheater and you can never trust him and it is a hard life. My honest advice is you can except and live with it or you can leave. You know why because chances are and this is about 99% true, he will not change. If you think that you can handle always looking over your shoulder and constantly wondering what he is doing now than you can make it work. From someone who knows I would say leave before you become to co-dependant and you no longer have the will power to leave.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-13 16:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to tell you, from experience, no matter what people say on here, or what your friends and family will tell you, only YOU know when you have had enough. If they say "dump the loser", you will always wonder if you would of given him another chance if it might have worked. You have to stay with him until YOU can't take anymore. Believe me, I have been there and I know other women that are still there. Just remember this. Try not to let him beat down your self esteem. It will make you feel sad and worthless to be cheated on, but try to get your own life going...something that doesn't involve him...not with another man or anything, just something that you really enjoy doing. Try to focus on the fact that you were happy before you met him, and that you WILL be happy again, with time, when you decide to leave him. Good luck.
Also, LM S is NOT a therapist...she has previous questions asking other people if it is safe to take prozac with some type of vitamins...for herself...if she was a therapist, she would know this answer.
2006-12-13 16:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your ex-huband is sorry, not all men. It's obvious your husband is a clown that doesn't respect you nor appreciates the second chance or love and support you have given him. Your husband should be your friend. Friends don't treat their friends the way your man has treated you. The only responsibility your ex has is to help you raise your children. Other than that, drop him. You know in your heart it won't work. Don't go through the pain of forcing it to work. There are other MEN out there that will love and honor you. Stop wasting your time with him, get your child support from him, and move on. Obviously, he has.
2006-12-13 16:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by Kenneth C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I don't think it could work...not right now anyway. He needs to learn that you won't always be there when he wants you there...you have your own life to live and kids to raise and you need a man around the house, not some teenage boy looking to get every girl in sight. Who knows if his cheating ways will continue, but it's not something you should wait around to find out. I say move on and enjoy your children and possibly look for a true man who doesn't need to go behind your back to get something on the side. Good luck!
2006-12-13 16:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By your asking the question I think you already know the answer you just need someone to give you a little push in the right direction. Life is way to short to put up with someone you dont trust, and cant be happy with. End the story and get on with your life and find someone you can share your life with an laugh with.Be happy, let this person remain someone from your past.
2006-12-13 16:31:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...u should feel betrayed, let down, angry (at him and a little at urself)...but the truth is history has a habit of repeating itself...he is not going to change anytime soon...and u have to think about not only urself but the children as well...wat kind of example r u setting for them???....also it's unhealthy in the fact that he has slept with these women and is probably sleeping with u as well...for once put urself first...i don't think it will work because u will not b able to trust him like before...the fact that he was unfaithful will always b in the back of ur head...take some time to think seriously about this, as ur decision will affect u and ur kids...hope this helps...gud luck.
2006-12-13 16:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by Retarded Genius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the marriage, again. He will not change. I know its gonna hurt but its worse for you to go on like this. Good Luck and do it for the kids too. You will not be able to give them your hundred percent because you'll be so wrapped up in wondering what he's doing and where he is AND who he's doing it with. You gave him another chance and he blew it. Say good bye
2006-12-13 16:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by Chicago Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i caught my ex getting reunited with his ex. it my hurt you but once a cheater always a cheater. if he was contented with you before esp. when you got kids he should never even think of looking at some body else. there more chances for him to do it again because he knows what ever he does wrong you will forgive him and take him back. it will work if you close youre eyes and pretened you didint see or hear anything. but anyways good luck and i mean it
2006-12-13 16:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by sweetbaby4362401 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a dog.....always will be a dog....once they cheats they always addicted to it...no matter what they said . You go on take very good care of yourself and your kids....I'm sure you'll find someone more of a man then him.....and down along that road then he will be sorry. To get back at him.....put some itching powder or cream in his underwear....then watch him itch and thinking what have i caught.
Best wishes and good luck
2006-12-13 16:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by sherry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not see a happy future for you with this guy.You and your children deserve more then this man has to offer.All he has delivered so far are broken promises/shattered dreams.Move on in your life without him.Let his past flame have him.He is not worth fighting for.
2006-12-13 16:36:03 · answer #10 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋