I have been married for almost 2 yrs now....this is my 2nd marriage...At first things where good as always how things are when u first get married..Shortly after getting married things where diff,,,he started to ignore me and push me to the side...pretty much spends most of his time alone and not with me or talking to me...we have never been very passionate with each other it was just never there really....i dont know why it just wasnt i guess i thought it was come in time but it still hasnt...just recently i started to see my ex bf again...we have the passion in between us we have more in common still after all these yrs...being with him im alive and i can feel he cares for me ...i feel speical.....what do you do? advice anyone
2006-12-13 16:23:48 · 9 answers · asked by carebearsweetheart06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him it is time for counseling
2006-12-13 16:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often, we give up too easily on situations that have become difficult. What you should remember is that "no condition is permanent" in other words nothing ever stays the same. If you can stick it out during the difficult times, there will surely be a change.
This is your 2nd time around, if you give up so easily this time, you may give up again on the next relationship and the next one.
1. If you want your marriage, you should break from the exboyfriend. If that exboyfriend became your husband, you may experience the same difficulties with him or worse.
2. Concentrate on your husband, try talking to him
3. I don't know what your beliefs are, but if you believe in prayer, consistent, passionate prayers can change situations like YOU WILL NEVER BELIEVE.
I don't know what happened in your first marriage, but try something different this time. Own up to the vows you made when you married. In the journey of marriage, you need patience, humility, understanding, faith and passion which are all part of love.
Understand that love is a choice and not a feeling. Your feelings may lead you astray from time to time. When you choose to love, your decisions are sometimes contrary to your feelings.
Also, don't rely soley on someone else to make you happy, you are responsible for your happiness. When that happens, you are able to make yourself happy, you react differently to certain situations.
2006-12-14 10:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jen B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i can't just say that your marrigae is over before asking you that have u played your bit in making it successful. If your answer is yes (truly from your heart). Have you tried talking to your spouse. It generally happens that we tend to loose that tender romantic touch of our initial part of marriage with the passage of time and start taking our partner for granted. If your partner is actually loyal to you then be ready to be unfaithful and disloyal. But by no means i am trying to say that you should stay in a failed marriage. i just want to say that whatever decision you should take keep in mind that when you look back you should not feel sorry or guilty for your decision. You din't mention bout any kids which you may have. Think bout them as well. Best wishes :)
2006-12-14 00:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by shery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have already given up on your marriage. Have you even talked to your husband about all this? It is very easy to feel neglected in a marriage and when you do it feels very good to get special attention from someone of the opposite sex, even if those feelings are temporary. Whatever you end up doing think it through. Carefully. Make sure you won't regret your decisions down the road. And talk to your husband.
2006-12-14 00:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by Wenz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R u 4 real? Lets see how special you feel when you contract a STD.What problems you have at home should stay at home, and be resolved between you and your husband. Dont try and justify your actions for the lack of passion with your husband.2 wrongs dont make a right.
2006-12-14 00:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by Skinz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the X that you're seeing your first husband? If so, PLEASE dont do anything til you discover what it is exactly, that you really want. If he IS your first husband, try to discover WHY you split. AND what makes you think it will work out this time? If this is NOT your first husband, forget e/thing I asked. But I still think that you may be moving too quickly. You could be simply longing for affection. This X could possibly see that, and be taking advantage of your vulnerabilty. Please use caution with your heart.....AND body! Best wishes 2 U........
2006-12-14 00:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out That Door ...Baby bye,bye, bye, bye..bye.....I just wonder why your current husband and you got married in the first place? The ah " feeling alive " part.....cheating on your husband and not getting caught ( yet ) tends to give a certain amount of " adventure " to the whole thing. Do you and husband a big favor and tell him you want out pronto.
2006-12-14 00:34:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean your ex-boyfriend or your ex-husband you still have feelings for after all these years? Obviously you need to confront your "husband" with these issues, not cyber people. If you have been "married" to this guy for two years and you can't confront him about your feeling pushed away and his lack of intimacy, you have bigger things to worry about.
2006-12-14 00:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by sweetfruit_juice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your marriage is over...especially since your chatting with your ex_
2006-12-14 00:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋