My wife and I had rough year we have two kids 2 1/2 and almost 5 yr old girls been together about 4 yrs out of work for about 6months but just started this week a new job actually new carreer that is $10 k more a year plus commisons, it's second shift and 3rd day look like they want me to move up quick .. i just don't feel comfortable at home with my wife she said our problems start getting fixed one one of us works now that I have i have not felt difference what is it to soon????help
2006-12-13 16:15:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know its over when the love and respect for one another is gone and you just don't care. It sounds like you both want to make it work, you just don't know how. I would look into marriage counselling. Marriage is a partnership and sometimes it takes some work.
2006-12-13 16:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by CA DIVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your marriage no matter what. Every problem has solutions. If you need to see a marriage counsellor, then do it. Don't give up too easily. Money is one of the biggest sources of problems in a marriage. You can't set a time limit to determine whether the problems are fixed or not. Let it flow naturally, just keep working on your marriage. You need to talk heart to heart with your wife. Communication is EXTREMELY important. Don't live with assumptions, very dangerous. If you need to move, bring your family with you. Being separated for any reason will worsen your situation. Your family and marriage are FAR more important than your job. A family needs to live together..
2006-12-14 00:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by bogey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude you need to read over what you have written and make sure it make sense, it is very hard to offer advice when one can't follow the problem exactly.
If your not comfortable at home focus on your new job and excel at it, be happy when you get home, love your wife, buy her flowers be a great dad spend time with your kids.
Four years is a young marriage don't throw it away without getting professional help before not being comfortable turns into not wanting to come home at all. Good Luck
2006-12-14 00:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by shepherdivynzac 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Congrats on your new job! Good for you! She's probably not happy with 2nd shift. But she should be happy for all of you. Cant imagine being out of work for 6 mos?!? Keep centered on your employment. It's only been 3 days. Maybe she cant believe it. Hopefully she'll begin to show you what a great job you're doing!
2006-12-14 00:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off it sounds like your not happy within the relationship. If you dont see change you should talk to your wife about it, without comunication this will go down hill fast. Unless your just trying to find a way out just cause your making more money.(dont be greedy, remember you have kids with this woman and they will suffer from your selfishness)
2006-12-14 00:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so common for a man to feel that once their children reach the age of 5 they are no longer needed.
Now that things are looking up (you getting a promising job) why do you want to mess it up with a divorce? Stop now, and start enjoying that wonderful married life you have always wanted. And for good measure get a vasectomy so you don't have any more children. You really can't handle anymore responsibility.
2006-12-14 00:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hang in there for the kids. Talk to your wife and see if you can work it out.Now you are working maybe you will start to fell better at home.
Good luck my friend
2006-12-14 00:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by david o 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry......
2006-12-14 00:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋